Is it common for therapists to underplay women’s trauma?

super_thinker_ · 2021-04-12T14:49:23+00:00

I would see another therapist. I had a therapist who was always forcing toxic positivity on me and it made me feel worse. Find someone who validates your feelings.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-04-12T15:05:46+00:00

I would suggest at least asking your therapist why she didn't call it drama or traumatizing. Probably she was just trying to anticipate your feelings and be considerate. It's worth finding out. If she's dismissive of how you feel about what you went through then definitely find a new therapist.

There's a difference between a traumatic event and a situation that becomes traumatic because of the duration. When something lasts for years that can make it traumatic or cause trauma.

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-04-12T16:24:17+00:00

Is it common for therapists to do this? I would say it’s not unheard of. Many therapists grew up with the same biases as we did, diminishing female pain. While their intent may not have been to invalidate you, if this and other instances are making you lose the valuable trust and connection between therapist and patience it is worth looking into seeing about getting another therapist.

You also didn’t mention gender, but I’ve noticed in previous posts from others, male therapists can sometimes be less sympathetic/empathetic to male-related trauma women experience.

Either way, the other commenter suggesting you ask why they said that had good advice, not every therapist has a perfect response and it’s often very telling to be critical of how they communicate with you. Therapy is a symbiotic relationship of give and take at times, so there could be a learning opportunity for both of you in this place.

AC7878 · 2021-04-12T18:14:26+00:00

I would also suggest to change your therapist or communicate that you want direct advice, diagnosis regarding your situation. My therapist is very upfront and honest with me which has helped improve my mental health because she helps me see things for what they are. I came out of a relationship with a narcissist and definitely developed trauma from the abuse he put me through. My therapist doesn't undervalue this and makes sure I see everything directly and clearly. I'm okay with her telling me "you were abused" "you are traumatized" rather than "he wasn't a good person, he hurt you."

Title	Is it common for therapists to underplay women’s trauma?
Author	OkChocolate7617
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Date	April 12, 2021 2:08 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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