Is not being able to cook low value?

bye-raspberry · 2020-12-07T22:11:37+00:00

Personally I think everyone should know how to cook. It has nothing to do with stereotypes about women belonging in the kitchen, and everything to do with being an adult and being able to fend for yourself. I would be very off-put by a partner who only eats takeout or frozen foods.

If you don't cook I don't necessarily think that makes you low value, but learning to like cooking is absolutely a level up imo!

Sea_Soil · 2020-12-07T23:48:46+00:00

Firstly, there's a difference between not being able to cook and not wanting to be your SO's personal chef.

Secondly, being able to cook is a skill than any adult should have. I also think there is a difference between cooking for your parter and cooking for you children. If you have kids, it's your (both parents) responsibility to collectively provide them with healthy meals. Meaning, just because you don't like to cook doesn't mean your kids should grow up on processed food. A poor diet impacts so much, including cognitive development. I know people who aren't fans of cooking so they raise their kids on frozen pizza, boxed mac and cheese and candy and I would go so far as to say that is low value; it's setting those kids up for failure.

Personally, I love to cook healthy meals and I eat an organic whole food diet so everything is made from scratch. I've gotten to the point where I can make things like pho and chicken tikka masala with homemade naan from scratch, without needing a recipe because I've memorized it. I cooked a whole Thanksgiving spread all by myself this year and made bone broth with the carcass. I even make my own yogurt! I definitely think that adds value to who I am as a woman and I personally wouldn't be interested in dating someone who didn't have the same drive to be resourceful, self-sustaining and healthy.

super_thinker_ · 2020-12-07T22:10:39+00:00

Not low value at all! FDS experts, feel free to correct me on this, but I feel like "low value" pertains mostly to bad character traits.

Let's say, for example, your partner loves a certain dish. If you were low value, you would never try to make this dish for your partner, even if they told you how much they loved it. In fact, if you were low value, you would probably forget that your partner ever told you that they liked the dish in the first place.

A high value person would remember that their partner liked this dish and either attempt to make it or find a restaurant that served the dish.

umbralgarden · 2020-12-08T01:31:53+00:00

It's 2020, everyone is time poor and overworked, I recommend you NOT cook every day. Not even for yourself and definitely never for someone else. Meal prep. Have leftovers. Freeze shit. Get microwaveable stuff and make lots of sandwiches and salads. It's good to know how when you need to but don't nobody got time for that.

moxymoxalone · 2020-12-08T01:01:02+00:00

I don’t love to cook, but in spite of that I’m pretty good at it.

My husband was brought up with “food = love” mentality and when he comes home after working hard for us all day and I put down a plate of grilled salmon, roasted potatoes and steamed asparagus in front of him he is absolutely over the moon. Will tell anyone who will listen about my cooking. He’s no slouch in the kitchen either; he was a professional chef for some years so his delight over my cooking is an enormous compliment.

You don’t have to be a great cook to be HV, but it’s handy to have a few dishes that you do well.

PennyforaPoem · 2020-12-09T16:02:29+00:00

No. It’s a skill. I personally love to cook. It brings me joy. But there are days I don’t feel like it and that’s fine, too. Truthfully every one should know the basics, male or female, is the burden doesn’t lie on one individual. And then sometimes you take out. Sometimes there’s a family sized Stouffer’s Mac and Cheese... those things are delicious

Title	Is not being able to cook low value?
Author	pancakeCEO
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Date	December 7, 2020 8:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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