Why aren’t people honest with their intentions ??

AyemHerself · 2021-01-31T01:55:24+00:00

This may sound harsh, but he wasn't stringing you along. He showed a complete lack of interest from the start and you were left initiating everything. You called him on not making you feel special, but what good does that do when you aren't important to him?

Don't put this much effort into a man again. Give the handbook a look.

saint-jezebel · 2021-01-31T02:32:16+00:00

The first red flag was when he didn’t ask you out after a week. Three weeks, he’d already made his decision about you. You should have left it when he broke contact. Second flag. Then you reached back out. He said he was waiting for you. That was the next red flag as he wasn’t interested in you and wasn’t going to ever ask YOU out. You missed all the flags. You attached yourself too quickly, mixing words with actions. Read the handbook, work on your emotions and controlling them and find hobbies and other activities to occupy your time as well as dating yourself for a while.

Buckley92 · 2021-01-31T04:48:43+00:00

My ex used to LOVE to say, pay for peanuts, you get a monkey.

You entertain and continue to engage guys you know are like this, the end result WILL be what you got.

As to why some people aren't honest with their intentions, there are a few possibilities. They're too apathetic and lazy. They're too bored to meet up, but not too bored to ghost. They're mentally ill or don't have social skills. They're too cowardly to be honest and risk hurting your feelings or you getting angry. They're afraid of the big bad super scary #metoo /s. They want to keep you as a backup option in case their main girl doesn't work out. They want you as a potential booty call, or free therapist, or ATM. Or, they think it's funny to play these kinds of games because they have no real hobbies. WHATEVER the reason, they're not a nice person and you should have blocked him the first time.

antoniaaahhh83 · 2021-01-31T02:51:33+00:00

I needed to read this thanks guys 💕refocusing on myself

Ancient-Cucumber · 2021-01-31T17:31:00+00:00

He didn't seem interested in the first place. Please read FDS handbook. Also, you only knew him for 3 weeks from an app, why are you so attached to him, to ask him if you mean something to him or not? It's a bit hard for me to understand why were you so into him, considering that he didn't seem to put much effort from the start.
If a guy is saying he was waiting for you to initiate something, let him wait. Forever.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2021-01-31T03:12:34+00:00

Never EVER EVER make the first move. EVER.

Any and EVERY man who’s not double and triple texting you, initiating, planning dates and paying for them, and pursuing you, is 100% stringing you along.

Never forget that

throwRA8935747835 · 2021-01-31T20:19:45+00:00

"If he wanted to, he would." 👏

Title	Why aren’t people honest with their intentions ??
Author	antoniaaahhh83
Upvotes	32
Comments	7
Date	January 30, 2021 11:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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