Allegations at work

AustralianArm · 2017-03-24T07:40:25+00:00

Don't take this as gospel but the chance that your company has logged all your Google Hangouts chats is quite low. It would take a MITM security certificate situation and they would also have to be actively looking for the traffic.

I would keep acting the way you normally do. If your manager brings it up with you, get on the front foot. Express disappointment that someone would acuse you of that. Ask the manager if they've ever known you to be disrespectful to women.

milkywayer · 2017-03-24T09:20:23+00:00

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ReddJive · 2017-03-24T12:58:53+00:00

Men are not disturbed by things themselves but by their thoughts about them ~Epictetus

You've done a lot of thinking here. Worked it up into third and fourth effects that may not even happen.

I should approach my manager about this allegation.

Is there something there?

I don't think she has any evidence to support her claims.

Think? Did something more happen at drinks then you are letting on to us? More at work? This is precisely why you don't shit where you eat.

You're being dodgy here. Did something more happen then using your office like a locker room? Next time be aware that in the business world it's an arena. No one is really you're friend there. Everyone will use what they know about you to get ahead or pull you down. Learn some Dark triad stuff.

One good tactic is to bring the team in have a team meeting. Have the team see you as happy fun guy that you aren't phased by any of this. Just like with gaming and dating. Be seen with others, being fun, being a leader. Someone is bitchy you will know what to do.

A leader adapts to the situation. Learn to flow through it and look and create opportunity.

mtdog · 2017-03-24T14:45:51+00:00

She may be full of shit, but you say:

"I often use gmail chat to talk with friends during the day and have said many inappropriate things in my personal chats related to women."

In other words, you are using company property, on company time, to say inappropriate (demeaning?) things about women.

Sounds to me like you are doing exactly what she accuses you of, even if she's not on the square.

Cut that shit out, keep your head down and if you don't get promoted, it's on you, bud.

Scurvemuch · 2017-03-24T14:42:33+00:00

get a lawyer .

Consider. You may be on the road to being railroaded for something that did or did not happen two years ago.

Anyway. Speak to your lawyer.

They have now given you enough ammunition for a lawyer to sue them for discrimination or some such.

SampsonBrass · 2017-03-24T15:01:36+00:00

Don't do anything. Be watchful and wait. Has your behavior been demeaning to women?

Do not be overly concerned about your manager seeking corroboration. This is a standard practice. Consider the manager's position. An allegation has been made. If she does nothing with it the manager can be considered culpable for failing to address a problem. A prudent first step for any manager is to seek corroboration in order to determine if further action is needed.

I don't know the significance of gmail chat or if that is accessible to your employer. Stop putting shit in writing you stupid fucker.

UEMcGill · 2017-03-24T16:16:19+00:00

For the short term these guys are correct. Portray yourself as nothing but above board, when and if pressed on it, reveal nothing. Say things like "I don't know what this is about, I've been nothing but professional at work, ask so and so."

If this all goes well, and she does end up on your team, you should make it your mission to fire her. You don't need someone like this who could remotely start any kind of discord on your team. Don't try to make her like you, etc. she needs to be gone.

jacksarmy · 2017-03-24T22:41:17+00:00

Id start dropping hints to peeps that she was a bit of a stalker and never got over your short relationship

Title	Allegations at work
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Date	March 24, 2017 7:18 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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