Her first real love

FF0000_captain · 2017-08-07T19:43:14+00:00

If you aren't automatically thinking "yep, this person will make my life even more awesome" when the topic of marriage enters your mind, I'd say keep looking.

Listen to your gut. It's practically screaming at you right now.

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-08-07T19:36:44+00:00

Judge me all you want

I don't plan to and I hope this doesn't turn into a moralizing fuck fest. You're fence sitting. You will eventually need to choose. And you will likely always have that nagging feeling that the grass was greener the other way. Don't try to rationalize to yourself that you aren't acting in only your interests by saying "well I didn't really tell her we'd be together forever" because in not talking about the future, you allowed an image of together forever to happen. And you still are in saying "maybe in 10 years". I'm not passing judgement on that, but saying you need to be okay with that fact.

The bottom line is, what do you want. Just like you originally planned to "help her with her life and move on"...make a decision here. And own it.

TurdDoctor · 2017-08-08T01:01:56+00:00

Don't marry her just because she is a good girl and you took her virginity. That's about exactly what I did and it didn't work out as well as I had hoped, I'm here after all.

Do what YOU want, not what She wants you to do dude. Don't be manipulated into marriage by guilt trips.

Soberskipper · 2017-08-09T07:38:02+00:00

Why not just straight up tell her she's a stepping stone nothing else. You don't plan on committing seriously before 40. And when you do it will be to some 25 year old lawyer or something, not some minimum wage 41 year old post wall hagg.

Because that's the reality of the situation, stop hamstering to yourself.

LewisCross · 2017-08-07T21:24:14+00:00

I know its the peer pressure of seeing all her friends getting married and she approaching the wall. Now, this girl is definitely completely in love with me (or as much as a girl is possible), our relationship is good with RP dynamics. But now all she talks about is marriage and FUTUREEEEE.

Translation: "I'm 28, I'm not getting any younger, this guy is awesome and the best I have ever done/am ever going to do. Everyone else is getting married/pregnant. I need to get married and I need to get pregnant. I need to lock this guy down now."

Thats why i entered this LTR with this mentality "i will be a great boyfriend to her, help her with her life, and move on soon".

That's the wrong mentality. You get into a relationship for what it gives you; not what you give to it.

But then i think of the smv gap and her very low tier career options. Our difference will be minimum wage and my 6-figure salary

Translation: "I don't want to be a meal ticket for a relatively unattractive woman when I could have done better without wifing it up." Very good. Then don't.

Think about and consider what you want. First, last and always. Not about what she needs. What you want. And then decide accordingly.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-08-08T16:00:38+00:00

I doubt this is going to work out.

The most merciful thing to do is catch and release- or make a decision.

My view is you should Shit or get off the pot if you are asking how to do right by this 'unicorn.' If not, then fuck her right in the pussy and keep stringing her along until her reproductive years are gone.

JDRoedell · 2017-08-07T21:51:52+00:00

"wait for me, give me ten years and we'll get married."

This is essentially the male version of "betas in waiting." You get her sexual investment for none of your commitment.

If you are able to get her to agree to this you've essentially flipped the female imperative on its head. I hope she doesn't have any feminist friends. Good on you if you can pull this off.

creating_my_life · 2017-08-07T23:09:51+00:00

told her straight up that it may or may not work out between us and that i don't plan to get married in min 10 years.

Congrats. Focus on YOU first. Well done.

good 2-3 SMV points below me and that gap is only going to get larger as my career aspirations are about to skyrocket soon.

You're confusing male SMV with RMV. Chad Thundercock can work for min wage occasionally, and still have a SMV of 10.

Or i can regret losing a girl that is so rare to find:

Girls are not rare.

virgin that pair bonded hard to me.

whatever.

her very low tier career options.

I couldn't LTR someone who wasn't economically similar to me. fuck that.

BTW, the first several paragraphs are all about what YOU can do FOR HER. That's not what makes a relationship GOOD FOR YOU.

InChargeMan · 2017-08-08T01:45:22+00:00

she is a good 2-3 SMV points below me and that gap is only going to get larger

I can regret committing to this girl and thinking that I could've done better

Or i can regret losing a girl that is so rare to find

You need to figure out what YOU want and act accordingly. You say she is your LTR, so I assume that means you are not actively seeking any other "better" girls at the moment. So, you can't say that you'll stick with her unless something better comes along, since you aren't looking for something better, so essentially you are deciding to stay with her. You need a healthy dose of OI and realization that you are the prize, act like it.

CrippleSlap · 2017-08-08T04:56:15+00:00

Also, isn't the girl who married her one and only gonna think one day when she's bored in the marriage......what else is out there?

Title	Her first real love
Author	throwawaytrper
Upvotes	1
Comments	21
Date	August 7, 2017 7:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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