Long time lurker. First post and general question: First, 34m, wife 33, married 12 years. 6ft, 215lbs, 16%bf (navy method). BP-275, SQ-385, DL-425, lost over 50lbs in the past year, dressing better, grooming and looking better than ever. I am at least 1-2 points higher SMV than my wife.  Read NMMNG, Rational Male, SGM, WISNIFG, pook and MMSLP, currently reading Models

I started my red pill journey not due to lack of sex, but general lack of respect from my wife. Sex is almost always on the table (I'm not bragging, just explaining because this is part of my question), she asks me if she can give BJ'S, somewhat submissive in bed. I'm leading in this regard and trying to be more dominant, not asking, telling. However still getting hard no's on specific acts (anal, swallowing, etc) 

Wife shit tests me constantly and I am getting sick of it. Even though I own my shit, take care of everything financially, fix whatever needs to be fixed, generally handy, have hobbies I am passionate about, I'm progressing well. However she is fighting for control every day. 

I am getting IOI's from women left and right (I am in sales) and I am getting tired of the disrespect. I feel like it would be easier to just walk away sometimes, but we do have a daughter and I don't want to be a part time dad with a new dick around her all the time. 

Why is she so interested in sex, but won't allow control in the other aspects of our lives? Any ideas how to navigate this situation? 

TL:DR- Wife is always dtf but doesn't respect me in other aspects of our relationship, needing advice to try to fix before hitting the eject button.