I made a lot of mistakes before discovering red pill. I argued with her quite often. Throughout most of the relationship I've been in her frame. We were close to breaking up at one point --she was close to doing it during one argument. She had doubts about our relationship after that last arguement, but we recovered since then. I'm starting to break out of her frame now, and I don't argue anymore.

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Yesterday I talked Christmas plans. I suggested plans that involve booking a hotel somewhere. She replied with something like "Do you think we should be making plans for it this early when we don't know what can happen before then?". 90% sure she was suggesting that there's a chance we might not be together by then and not to make plans just in case. Instead of replying to that comment I STFU. I learned from my readings here when in doubt STFU and that's what I did.

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But it's still bothering me. If I were to bring up what she said I'd be moving into her frame. This is an LTR of 10 months and I want it to last. She's showing me commitment in other ways. For example, I met her mother , father and brother recently. I'm 32 and not interested in playing around. I want something that will last.