Stuck in this anger phase

innominating · 2016-08-16T02:12:22+00:00

Stop being a pussy and start being grateful. You found the pill 12 years earlier in life than me, and 20 or 30 years earlier than some. You aren't married, you have no kids, and you have your 20s ahead of you. Read book of Pook if you haven't, and learn to be fun.

FeetOnGrass · 2016-08-16T01:25:43+00:00

Read "Living the Good Life". It's about stoicism and changed my perspective about life, women, and everything in between. It's a great exit strategy to move forward from the anger phase.

screechhater · 2016-08-15T23:49:17+00:00

Lift, STFU AND Read

Write down your goals, and what you are angry about and what you are going to do to change it. Dots will appear, eventually

jeezydasnowman · 2016-08-16T00:57:53+00:00

You can't have a rp wingman for non-pickup. This is your journey, you load to bear ALONE.

ThrowTheEgg · 2016-08-16T01:02:00+00:00

what are you now? 24? Good god.

Here's what you do. Do SPECIFIC stuff. Forget about "the road's toooooo looooonggg" shit. Bite size chunks little man.

If you can't yet get your head around simple 'theoretical' reading in sidebar, go for one of the more practical books, esp. "Mindful Attraction Plan". That lists, item by item, things to look at in your life, and how to better them.

What's weird is that you make no mention of a wife, LTR or any female in your life you need help dealing with. Is there one? Either way, that's OK, but you are posting in a thread w/the word "Married" as its first word.

What do you want in your life?

[deleted] · 2016-08-16T03:36:42+00:00

Be careful. Anger phase is directed at yourself. Anger phase directed at others is fear.

Mine was long. Had to internalize AM. Now everything is a fucking hoot

SorcererKing · 2016-08-16T07:33:43+00:00

Start here. Cheer up, your whole life is still ahead of you!

[deleted] · 2016-08-16T13:55:05+00:00

Anger is good fuel, but you have to channel it constructively.

You find enough good outlets for it and you'll mourn when you then need to find new motivators.

Be happy you found out now and not when you were 43. 23 you are in a prime position to change things for the better health, career, and relationship wise.

Why would you resent a woman for being a woman? You'll get that one day. If you're still mad about it then you still have more to mull over.

Really though, just like that dog whisperer jerk off would tell you with a hyperactive dog... take yourself for a walk and go work off some of that energy.

You don't say if you're in a relationship or not. If not, take a break and go monk mode. If married have a lot of O.I. activities that you can go do when the anger builds so you don't blow a gasket and lose frame.

bornredd · 2016-08-16T15:22:43+00:00

So you cut out all the stuff you liked? Porn, games, junk food, laziness?

So you lost all your dopamine injections?

Son, I am all in favor of improving yourself, but take this shit ONE STEP AT A TIME.

My journey went something like this:

Cut back on calories for 4+ months, lose 15 lbs.
Cut out soda, lose another 10 lbs over 3+ months.
Quit video games, find other hobby to fill time.
Start lifting, lift for 6+ months while further refining diet. Lose 20 more lbs but gain about 5 lbs of muscle
Cut back on porn
Cut back on jerking

This shit takes TIME. If you try to change literally everything about your life, you're going to be exhausted. Change one thing at a time. See how your life changes. Pay attention to new stressors.

Succeed.

nopeToThe43rd · 2016-08-18T17:13:37+00:00

Time is the one thing that nobody, no matter how rich, or strong, or beautiful, can ever recover. Do you want to waste more of it crying into your wheaties about fucking up in the past, or do you want to fix your shit so you can maximize the amount of time you spend being awesome?

The journey of 1000 miles starts with a single step, that's behind you, you're on the road. Stick with it, and enjoy the ride.

Alpha_Rising · 2016-08-16T06:04:11+00:00

Channel your anger into your lifting. Your anger is fuel for the gym. Every time it hurts when you lift remind yourself you deserve the pain for being a Beta puss.

I call bullshit on Alpha being unattainable for you. Your anger alone can motivate and fuel you to accomplish anything if you direct it properly.

As a Beta you figured out what your SO needed and wanted and you found a way to do it and give it to her. As an Alpha you need to do that with and for yourself. Figure out what you want, make a plan, and execute it. It's not fucking rocket science and God knows you have this forum for pointers.

So I call bullshit on the "I can't do it; it will be futile." Your real obstacle is not the do-ability of Alpha-ing up. Your real obstacle is that you're so full of self-loathing right now that YOU don't think YOU deserve the great effort it will take to bring you great results.

You don't think you're worth the effort.

And the irony is that becoming Alpha starts and ends with you valuing yourself enough to commit to put in the effort. And that self-respect and self-confidence is the core of what makes an Alpha. He has self-confidence and self-respect and so he puts in the effort to be his best self. And that is an attractive mindset.

Alphas tend to be muscle men but the key to their Alpha-ness is actually a psychological accomplishment rather than a physical one.

Title	Stuck in this anger phase
Author	Fragosus
Upvotes	3
Comments	23
Date	August 15, 2016 11:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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