Three questions blocking my progress

BobbyPeru · 2018-08-02T04:47:21+00:00

But I don't know how that looks in her eyes.

It Doesn’t matter. The fact that you asked, tells me that you are in her frame.

I feel good showing her that I'm 'over' the pedestal stage by not chasing her ass.

Again? You’re in her frame

You are overthinking it. If her tits look good in a certain outfit, or if you like the way humidity makes her skin feels... fucking tell her... because it’s coming from your frame, and that’s why you are having a tough time grasping.

I bring up the humidity because I’m currently with my wife on a vacation near the ocean. I felt her tits, and they felt hawt from the humidity. So, I told her how I felt about it.

Ya know what, it turned her on. I didn’t even think about it when I said it, and there is no covert contract. Then, she put on a little dress that makes her booty pop.. I told her I likes the way it made her booty pop.

So, we fucked before going out, then we went out, and she was teasing me all night. At the same time, I could see other women checking me out because I was with a hot woman and and was dripping confidence... not because I was with my hot wife, but because I’ve been hitting the iron and so i was getting IOI everywhere. If I noticed it for sure my wife noticed it

We went back to the hotel room a couple hours later, and I fucked her again, and she practically levitated when she came.

What’s the point? Do the work: sidebar, lift, kino, game... and the results follow effortlessly. You will stay in your frame and quit worrying so damn much about what she thinks of this or that. Your life will flow , and you will hold an unshaken confidence in all your actions .

You are not there yet. Keep doing the work, and you will get there.

simbarlion · 2018-08-02T04:01:44+00:00

Answers are as follows:

1) do it only because you want to

2) do it, but only because you want to

3) Do it, because you want to.

Joke aside, by asking these questions you are still concerned with what she thinks ( her frame). I can tell you are a very reasonable person, and will treat her with respect ( because you want to).

So just do it because you want to and take on board her feedback as you see fit.

The non touch thing is hard, you might quite possibly have to get used to that / work around it.

SharpestMarbel · 2018-08-02T13:18:30+00:00

"make the bitch do the cleaning"... Really, why do you refer to your woman that way? Besides, you apparently couldn't make her do it anyway from what I have read. If she has her own schedule for doing this stuff, then let it be. Don't you have other tasks to maintain the castle? cutting grass/shrubs, painting, general household repairs, let her do the easy stuff.
The difference needing and wanting sex is how emotionally invested you are in getting validation of yourself from obtaining sex. Not chasing her isn't showing her anything. It's how you go about seducing your woman that makes the difference.
Kino- Do it repeatedly and then stop doing it one day. You may find out that she is chasing you looking for it. The 10-second kiss is one Kino recommended here. 10 second kiss is not like a quick touch - it's rather intimate and bonding. As you get used to doing, it then ramp up some cave-man dominance into it occasionally. I push my SO up against a wall and pin her to it. She will be gasping for more after the 10-seconds kiss is up.

Speak_Sense · 2018-08-02T04:20:04+00:00

A king maintains his dominion. If the barbarian horde is invading and his general fails to act, does he just let his kingdom fall to ruin? Likewise, clean up what needs to get done and don't bitch, especially if she is pulling her weight.
Your solution to putting pussy on the pedestal is to deny yourself what you desire? Stop living in her frame thinking you are being desperate. Instead, work on OI and do something better when rejection inevitably sets in.
What culture? Is it cultural or religious? Southeast Asian, I'm guessing, but a little more background is helpful.

weakandsensitive · 2018-08-02T05:29:45+00:00

And 'make the bitch do the cleaning' isn't the answer because she busts her ass at school and at work and with the kids.

Clearly not the answer if you're recognizing all the work (aka value add) she already puts in.

So, is cleaning wrong?

What?

Frame-wise, I am not quite where I need to be to act that way.

Make a choice and live with it. She'll meet your standards or she won't.

In short, this question is- how do you handle kino with someone who doesn't want/like being touched?

Make a choice and live with it. She'll meet your standards or she won't.

fullyincorruptible · 2018-08-02T10:54:35+00:00

Total noob here. Only been red pilling for 2 months. 20 year marriage and getting results insanely fast. 1 - Stop caring about what she thinks of your actions. Do what you want because YOU want to. It's good to take initiative. Be the captain. 2 - A lot of posts about starfish sex, low sex marriage, etc... Start reading, start by telling her to do little things, make HER feel sexy, let her know what you think, don't be timid about yourself, BE Chad Thundercock. Fake it before you make it. 3 - Fuck culture, kino gets panties wet. Most women will never tell you or show you that you're turning them on. Been using kino on my wife for the last 2 weeks and she says things like, "I like it when you put your hand on my shoulder". I'll keep it up regardless of how busy we are, keep engaging her, and I can see her start to quiver and melt to my touch. Also dread, dread, dread. She knows I have options, and she knows she has what other woman want.

Persaeus · 2018-08-02T12:08:05+00:00

But I don't know how that looks in her eyes. So, is cleaning wrong?

this is your culture showing, and the question is gay a fuck. who cares what she things, what do you want. tactically, when you see something needs done either do it or tell her to do it.

Frame-wise, I am not quite where I need to be to act that way.

that's putting it lightly. your entire dialogue on sex is about how she perceives it. initiate when you want to fuck. as you improve, and hopefully she responds, you'll need to be observant of when she is sending you "fuck me" signals because . . . well it's best to strike when the iron is hot.

Kino

Kino is not ass grabbing, kissing, or anything overtly sexual. kino is incidental contact that has plausible deniability. you could kino your mom or aunt although it should not have an effect unless their really freaky (ewww...). kino can range from accidentally bumping into her (clearly not sexual) to putting your hand on the small of her back as you escort her through a door (just a tinge of sexual). kino is so important with your wife for a lot of reasons.

Her parents never touch.

and all this bullshit below about Asian women not fucking after 40, LOL. you have a plethora of misconceptions. first, this is extremely common (and pathetic) with American couples too. second, women are women (hence AWALT); and they get tingles for hot dominant men. be that man.

gameoflibidos · 2018-08-02T14:37:40+00:00

Own your shit.. if it needs done, do it. DNGAF what she thinks.
This is a massive covert contract.. take away sex long enough.. she'll come to get it. BS.. does not work. Men initiate.. women generally dont want to initiate.. game her, try when you want, don't be butthurt when turned down. Lift more.. do Keto diet if you're still fatter than a greek statue.
You need to be attractive first both mentally and phsycially. When she's attracted to you, she will want to be touched. Once you walk around with the confidence of a male lion and have greek god abs... her "Walls" will fall just as fast as her panties.

youscum · 2018-08-02T10:53:40+00:00

only about a year in

And yet you didn't know what OI stood for?

Work harder.

Title	Three questions blocking my progress
Author	servintimeok
Upvotes	3
Comments	18
Date	August 2, 2018 3:32 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/93vu2t/three_questions_blocking_my_progress/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askMRP/three-questions-blocking-my-progress.204137 https://theredarchive.com/post/204137

Comments