Vacation coming up...need help managing expectations.

TheFamilyAlpha · 2016-11-03T15:10:46+00:00

What was the med issue, kind of important point to glaze over.

EDIT For the rest.

Dude, you don't read my blog or you'd know that you need to be in the moment.

You are thinking way too much about this when instead of stressing, you should be having the time of your life. You going to VEGAS brother, with your lovely woman - get fucking pumped.

Don't plan out your sex or even discuss it, you need to make that shit happen well in advance. Kiss her hard then just walk away, flirt, game, kino, escalate, then leave her there dripping wet, do all of this before you even board the plane.

Grab a beer at the airport (if you're flying) and don't talk about the sex you'll have.

I went to the Poconos over the summer, it's a fucking sex/honeymoon resort - not once on the way up did I tell my wife details about the sex. I may have dropped a line about fucking the shit out of her in the 7' tall champaign hottub, but little shit kind of teasing type stuff.

You don't plan sex, it just happens.

Escalate, enjoy the ride, and have a fucking blast. Fuck her against the window facing the street, fuck in the shower, fuck everywhere except the bed the first night. Break the routine you've been in and make this the kickoff point to the new 'you'.

Relight that fire in your marriage & refuse to let her influence you in any way.

If she has a legit medical issue, care for her. Make sure the music isn't too loud and if it is, move her somewhere silent.

I don't know her issue, but factor that in to your plans.

Plan ahead and you'll be fine.

Enjoy this, don't worry about sex as sex isn't what you need, passion is. The sex will follow your limitless confidence, make it romantic, then go caveman, then pull away, then smother.

https://thefamilyalpha.com/2015/11/17/10-ways-to-keep-your-wife-on-her-toes/

https://thefamilyalpha.com/2015/12/30/creating-your-slut/

also those may help.

druganswer · 2016-11-03T19:30:40+00:00

Kill the covert contracts? Well, at least you know the problem here.

Here's the thing... A fun trip to Vegas where you two fuck zero times is going to be better than a whiny, bitchy, covert contract trip to Vegas no matter how many times you fuck.

But here's my viewpoint as somebody younger than you. You want to bring out the young, probably sluttier, sexier version of your wife, while killing your covert contracts?

You've got money? Okay, good. Now someone here is going to say buy your wife lingerie. Don't do that. Buy your wife a fucking dress. A dress a couple years too young for her (as long as she has the body for it). Buy some club tickets up front on the internet, they made it very easy for nerdy dudes to get club tickets these days (or you'll wait your whole night in line). Plan this whole fucking night and don't let her know exactly how it is going to go down until just before dinner, or whenever you two are getting ready for the evening. You can tease her that she better save her energy, because you don't want her planning on watching in room movies and not being in the mood for your plans when they come around... but keep the exact plans concealed.

So now you have her nice dress, try to make sure she brings shoes to match, it's forgetting little things like this that turns nice things into shit tests galore. "Oh honey, I like that pair" usually gets them to pack one, even if they don't exactly plan on wearing them.

So, now assuming you're not autistic and have had a pleasant first day/and or travel day (not mentioning sex)... why did we buy her a dress? Because you've already mentioned lingerie. Buying her some would just push your covert contract harder, and most likely dry her up. Buying her a dress that is a little out of her comfort zone? That gets the senses going, without directing her mind to you wanting to stick your dick into her various orifices. Have her wear it to dinner, not just the club. And don't try to fuck her the second she puts it on. Tell her to get ready, ask her about how long she needs to get ready, go downstairs and gamble for about half of that time, come back upstairs with a drink for each of you after half of that time. Make sure you have pre packed a small bottle of liquor and some mixers. Have your pre drink. When finished put on your best flair bartender hat and make her another drink. This is the road to a good night in Las Vegas.

As for your style? You're old. Wear a suit. Make your hair. Look sharp. You're going to a club with people half your age, you need to look like you have your shit together, not like you're some nasty old creep. Nice shoes go a long way. So does confidence and charm, especially with bouncers... they deal with a lot of douchebags.

Big question you will have is what club do we go to? There's really only one I would suggest for your age range. Omnia. It's the newest, flashiest, sometimes most crowded, but definitely better than most of the other options. This is definitely a club club. You will have to dance, it may be crowded, you're going to want to be kind of drunk, in my opinion. Save some money with those room drinks I mentioned earlier. Then have a few drinks with a medium sized dinner (soak up alcohol, but not put you to sleep sized). If you have time to kill between dinner and the club (show up around 11-11:30) either hit a lounge or gamble, or people watch and walk around. Lots of people to comment about while just walking around and keeping your buzz going.

So club time... you better have tickets. Find the ticket line and you will get in quickly before 11:30. Once you're in, post up a bit and grab a drink. PICK OUT A BARTENDER. This is now your bartender. Drinks are going to be pricey, you want them to be strong, and later in the night there will be a wait at the bar. Since it's early and not crowded yet, these people are still somewhat paying attention to the customers. Your drinks will be about $20 each. Pay for them with card, but tip the bartender a $20 bill. Make it so that he/she notices it is you giving them this directly the first time. You now have a cut in line pass and you really aren't even tipping much more than you would have normally. Every round of drinks find the same bartender, and another $20.. no need to make it obvious after the first time, but do make it CASH. Doing this and dressed in a suit, they should be dropping everything to grab your drinks... if they aren't at least serving you quicker than the average person, go find another bartender next time and repeat. $50 in extra tips over the night is worth the much better treatment you will get. Wifey might even notice, just play it off. Don't act like you're doing some trick or playing try hard, but if she sees you give them the cash, just say you want your drinks right away, not 30 minutes from now.

Now here we are, loud obnoxious club, strong buzz... lights... sounds.. What do we do? You need to fucking dance. If you can dance, all the better. If you can't, it doesn't matter, it is Las Vegas. Just move to the music, jump up and down when it gets crazy, act like a teenager and don't give a shit about what anyone thinks. You will be amazed at how attractive this is. You might even make some friends, Vegas is a very outgoing place. The rest of your night is DANCE, DRINKS, repeat. Don't get too drunk, but make sure not to lose your buzz. Don't be shy on the dance floor. Grab your wife's hand and get up front to the DJ. It's lame, but you will have fun. Put her in front of you so you're pressed together sometimes, dance face to face sometimes, jump sometimes, do whatever the fuck, just have fun. Don't try to finger her or anything stupid, but feel free to feel up some ass.

Don't try to leave early from the club unless your wife wants to. If she wants to in a "let me suck your dick" way, by all means leave. If she's "getting tired," try to get her to do one more shot or one more round to get her going again. Leaving at 3 is a reasonable hour in Vegas.

Now you're leaving. If you're dead tired/too drunk, go to bed. If you're still awake grab some food or something or go wind down in a lounge. You can play this part by ear. I would suggest getting exactly ONE more drink for the walk home if you're not already too drunk.

Don't initiate at all. She'll either initiate right when you get in the room, or you can do the "go to bed" and cuddle up and she'll initiate once you're in bed, or she won't at all, and these are all equally okay. The worst thing you can do is ruin this awesome night right before the end.

If you can't have fun and build attraction to each other over the night by doing the above, one of you is beyond help. If you think the above sounds like a terrible night, you're probably boring.

Be the guy focused on having a great and memorable trip. Don't be the guy focused on fucking his wife. If she wants it she will let you know. Let her come onto the guy who has other things on his mind.

UEMcGill · 2016-11-04T12:49:01+00:00

I knew a guy in college. Everyone he could tell, he would about how "Them homosexuals was evil. It's not right with their sodomy and lifestyle!" Last I heard he was sharing an apartment in the Castro district in San Fran. He's a big bear and has a life partner. I think sometimes people protest so much the things they desire the most.

Anyway, cross-posted. The bloops be blooping.

BobbyPeru · 2016-11-05T06:15:07+00:00

Plan the trip out. Get a rough outline of fun things to do each day. Let her have some input, and maybe include some of her ideas around your general outline. In other words, lead, don't be a dictator. If all she wants to do is bitch, ask her to come up with some constructive ideas to help the vacation. Then, be willing to be a little flexible on the trip itself.

This formula has worked for me planning vacations.

Scurvemuch · 2016-11-03T15:11:41+00:00

Setting expectations: you can tell her what you want.. but honestly, If she is not into you yet, it won't happen.

What are you doing to make the trip fun and bring her along for the ride? What are you doing to create excitement and anticipation?

You know what dries up pussies more than being fat? Being expected to fuck. No one wants to do something they feel anxious about doing. No one wants to think that you have some sort of expectation.

Why no one? Because if you can not create desire outside of a special event, the likelihood of desire within it is low.

cholomite · 2016-11-03T15:22:36+00:00

You're so focused on sex because you're still a thirsty beta. Instead of sex being an afterthought, like you get it on demand because of your "naturally" high value, you still feel like buying and impressing your way in to your wife's panties is your best bet. I can already tell you that if you go on this trip with the mindset you have now, it's going to suck, a lot. Don't do that to yourself, man. If she turns on the girl charm and you two end up banging, then great, if not then have fun gambling, playing golf, shooting guns or whatever else you want to do to have fun and relax.

WhiteTrashKiller · 2016-11-04T10:52:32+00:00

Still asking Mommy if it is ok to have sex! You need to handle your shit. Go to Victoria Secret and buy something you like. It isn't for her, it may make her feel sexy at times but it is for you. It is akin to cleaning and waxing a car(it will still drive the same way while being dirty).

You buy it, hide it from her. When you want, you lay it out with a little note"BRB, I went to pour some wine, in the meantime put this on". You were thoughtful in purchasing her a gift that she didn't have to decide over, yet she is being instructed to put it on deferring to you and being submissive. Benevolence and Leadership....

As for sex! Nothing spices up your life like toys. If you are insecure about introducing them(most mem are), you're a nitwit and you need to grow the fuck up. Men come in every shape and size. She may enjoy being with you(now, cause it is your turn), but there will always be someone that can fuck her better, has a bigger cock and makes her squirt!

WHO FUCKING CARES?

By you introducing something naughty, you are in charge of your sex life. There isn't a woman in this world that will tell you " I don't like what that feels like". I am not saying run out and get a 10" Wonder Sausage, work her into new things. She is your wife, she wants to defer to you. You must show her it is ok to be the sexual creature she is. IMHO, Women are much more sexual than men, just less aggressive going about it...

I would really worry about her giggling at you when you are pushing her limits. To me that shows she kinda sees you as a boy still, fumbling around with her bra clasp. You may need more work than you think.....

Alcebiadeeze · 2016-11-04T11:36:51+00:00

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idontknowofficer · 2016-11-04T17:19:12+00:00

Simply bloody hard to be red pill in a marriage. When you can hardly just walk away. Specially since you live in the same damn place lol marriage sucks.

BobbyPeru · 2016-11-05T05:58:28+00:00

I suggested she buy some lingerie for the trip yesterday and she went off on some tangent about wasting money and all that shit. I was like wtf? Wasting money? We are going to place where a dinner can set you back a couple hunny. I'm going to be betting $50 hands o blackjack and you are worried about spending some money on lingerie? Fuck it's costing $2000 just for air fare and hotel.

This is 100% pure DEER

Next time, get her the lingerie you like on her. Then, when she goes to the bathroom at the hotel, lay it out on her side of the bed. Feel free to include slutty heels or whatever you're into. Then, tell her to go back into the bathroom and change into it. If she starts bitching, STFU, and the go down to the hotel gym and workout. Because if she doesn't want to do it, you need to get to work.

STFU. Lift. Sidebar. Dread levels. Improve your SMV.
Be fuckable.

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