Sort of a boner “problem”

OsmiumZulu · 2020-07-07T18:37:17+00:00

"...it is better to marry than to burn with passion." 1 Corinthians 7:9

Deep_Strength · 2020-07-07T20:11:11+00:00

When you're tempted take off the old and put on the new (Eph 4). New = mission for Christ.

From the OYS posts lots of stuff you can be doing:

PHYSICAL: How are you doing with lifting? Losing weight? Where's your body fat %? What have you been eating lately? How about your porn/alcohol/drug/cigarette/whatever use? Are you employing kino on your wife properly? Are you going too far with your girlfriend? How's your fashion sense? Are you still lounging around the house in gym shorts and using your ratty flip flops when you go out? How are you spending your time? How's your income doing? Your body is God's temple: are you reflecting that appropriately? For married men: how's your sex life?
MENTAL/EMOTIONAL: How have you been doing reading and learning new things? How's your frame? Do you still struggle with living up to someone else's expectations? Have you mastered Agree & Amplify? Amused Mastery? Negative Inquiry? STFU? Your DNGAF attitude? Are you failing fitness or comfort tests? How are you leading your wife/girlfriend this week? Do you feel pressure from any sources to do something or to act/not act a certain way? Are you depressed or lonely? Are you secure in your heart/mind that God's will is good, even if it's not what you want?
SPIRITUAL: How are you doing on the 7 basics? Rank yourself: Assurance of Salvation, Quiet Time/Devotional, Bible Study, Scripture Memory, Prayer, Evangelism, Fellowship. Have you solidified your mission - and does it have eternal consequences or does it only affect this world? Does your mission extend beyond the home? Do you have someone discipling you? Are you discipling anyone else? Have you talked with your non-Christian friends about Christ recently? Are there parts of the Bible you're just not understanding? How are things going with your church or small group?

Aaaquad · 2020-07-08T01:15:48+00:00

You've got to cultivate that BDE - taking all of that energy and channeling it into different outlets. It's great you are on NoFap and not really fantasizing, but it seems like you only have a couple of outlets and you might want to start thinking about expanding to more than just working and hitting the gym.

What other hobbies do you have? Any thing that stand out in Prax's hobby post a while back? This can subvert and use up some of that excess energy that you have. Try doing something with your hands or body.

I've also noticed that this type of energy can constructively be used in social settings. How many people are you meeting regularly? This is a great opportunity to use this motivation to go out and meet people. You probably are more charismatic right now which helps.

The no sleep kinda sucks. Just recognize you aren't sleeping, don't get too upset about it and go do something productive with your time. I'm always reminded of the Psalms which talk about him waking up at night and using that opportunity to speak with the Lord or meditate on his words.

As a bonus read Think and Grow Rich's chapter on sexual transmutation. It talks about how people have dealt with all this excess energy you are talking about.

Title	Sort of a boner “problem”
Author	agoodcrayon
Upvotes	9
Comments	14
Date	July 7, 2020 6:04 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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