Ok gents. I’m requesting some guidance. Always thought I’d just be a lurker here, yet here I am.

I have oneitis, for an alpha widow, and it’s fucking with my head.

My life has dramatically changed for the better since my divorce approximately a year and a half ago. Followed the guidelines of TRP and got serious with lifting, started doing much more interesting shit etc. Short version, I’ve never had this level of abundance or confidence before. It’s incredible.

Now the bad... The girl I was originally trying to LTR just after my divorce (dumbass move I know), is an alpha widow. EDIT: I stopped trying to LTR around 6 months ago, and no longer even want one at all.

Unfortunately I had to find this out on my own based on hints dropped and my own research. She skirts around truth and refers to him as an old friend, when she has no idea that I know who she’s talking about when she talks about him. Truth is, he’s an extremely high status FWB that she’s had for years. It’s even possible that she’s just been one of his plates forever (I don’t know him though).

Based on the circumstances of her obsession with communicating with me, and her lack of going anywhere or doing anything, it’s very unlikely they’ve even seen each other (let alone fucked) since we’ve been going out, but it’s still behavior I find unacceptable.

I’m an extremely confident guy, but this is next level disparity in SMV, and I’ve had to admit that to myself (~15 years older, 8 figure net worth etc, taller etc) which has not been easy.

I started plating chicks a few months back which felt good, but it didn’t help like I thought. I’m fit, blue eyes, do fun shit, and working on starting up another business (already owned and sold one). But this guy and this bitch are in my head and ego. Some days I don’t even want to talk to her, because I know the nature of her (AWALT). Probably some jealousy mixed in there too and I don’t know how to get rid of it (this dude is just doing what all of us aspire to do, definitely can’t hold anything against him).

The plates don’t seem to be helping and I certainly cannot bring this up without sounding like a beta bitch (like I do now). Anybody out there have similar experiences?? What can I do to help remedy this?

Thanks guys.