I'm 40 and in an LTR for a year. Shit testing (ST) is very sparse (or maybe I just don't pick up them). For example, one type of ST she throws at me is when we're drinking wine or tea on her couch and she empties her glass. She'll make a gesture indicating that I should move to put her glass on the coffee table or refill her glass when it would actually be easier for her to do it (she's laying on or against me). I always refuse, ignore, or tease her and she'll whine or bitch a little. Later we always end up fucking (watch her actions not what she says).

Is there anyway for me to stop or reduce these STs? I know she's acting childish by doing it (AWALT), but it's not "cute" and really fucking irritating.