I’ve been studying trp and implementing as best I can for almost 2 years now. I landed into a great relationship about a year and 4 months ago.
I’ve definitely had some slip ups in this LTR - loss of frame, showing weakness and insecurity, indecisiveness, and poor communication every once in a while. Otherwise, I lead, manage the LTR, and apply trp principals as much as possible.
Despite the moments where I lose frame, afterwords it does not seem to affect her interest level at all. She is always super sweet and understanding of what I’m explaining(even though in the moment I realize I am DEERing) and always tells me she loves me. This is the exact opposite of what I expect after these frame losses.
To elaborate more on when I lose frame, it’s mostly me opening up emotionally about what is bothering me or what is going on in my head. It’s never me getting pissed, jealous or being needy (or so I believe).
Does anyone have any understanding as to why this doesn’t seem to kill attraction, despite what I’ve learned about losing frame and being too open from TRP?
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