Finally blocked my oneitis

curtainrodman · 2018-06-28T14:39:56+00:00

Totally forget about her. You’ve made the right decision now own it. If you reinitiate contact with her you’ll look like the loser in the situation. Think of it as though it’s her loss for blowing it with you.

Store_Front_Door · 2018-06-28T14:40:08+00:00

should I contact her to tell her that’s not the case so she’s not so upset

No

or for my own good stay away

Yes

6ThornmailRammus · 2018-06-28T15:04:18+00:00

Whenever people give you shit, just laugh and I mean literally. Isn't it hilarious how much your school is a parody of pop culture and movies? Take this and run with it. Join a sports team, wear the jacket, make out with hot chicks in the hallway while she's watching. It's high school, HAVE FUN

TheIcePill · 2018-06-28T16:47:57+00:00

Since blocking her she stares at me with a bitchy face all the time

HAHAHA!! LOL! Girls can't handle rejection. Take it as a compliment, you did great kid.

She'll only lower her own SMV by being a bitch about it. People are just going to think that she's just a gossiping bitch. Ignore her and start gaming the girl you want that will give you their time of day.

bloodstorm17 · 2018-06-28T15:51:50+00:00

Dude forget her. I would actually laugh at anyone that says that you made the wrong move or contradict you. You played the game and she tried to play you but you ended that bullshit and came out on top and now she’s the sore loser.

Keep hitting the gym and keep on killing the game.

DeontologicalSanders · 2018-06-28T17:04:40+00:00

You fucked up by blocking her at all. Blocking a woman subcommunicates "I can't stand seeing pictures of you or reading your messages because you have such a powerful emotional effect on me". That's all the validation she could ever want or need.

The best answer is to literally pretend like she doesn't exist, or if you run into her, act like she's just an acquaintance you've met once or twice.

cameroncampian · 2018-06-28T16:23:12+00:00

Put yourself first. The moment you catch yourself thinking about her more than your goals, STOP.
She’s not yours. Regardless, you already had her, experienced that. Now go experience BETTER. Level up. Live outside your comfort zone. Don’t be a pussy and take the easy route (which would be hitting her up).

BusterVadge · 2018-06-28T20:48:54+00:00

A great method to completely get over your oneitis:

Take out a sheet of paper. Fold it in half the long way or make a line down the middle.

Write out all of the good things about your oneitis on one side.
Write out all of the bad things about her on the other, including why you're not together currently.
Notice how the bad things are actually pretty fucked up
Notice how the good things can come from any woman

If you're a logical person this list will completely destroy your oneitis. Save it for when you get sentimental to completely destroy the illusion that you've created for yourself.

fashfront · 2018-06-28T15:03:30+00:00

Remember whatever someone else makes her think about you doesn't matter at all. Even if she started telling other people at school that she was your only option, people won't really believe her, since she's your ex and obviously a cunt. You have better things to do than worry about the opinion of someone you'll never talk to again

usernameishardtomake · 2018-06-28T16:29:42+00:00

Completely stop giving a fuck. Completely ignore. Completely out of your head (at some point). Meet other girls right away. Hmm idk what else to tell ya.

room_303 · 2018-06-28T16:52:14+00:00

Dude sorry to say and I may use harsh words - but you have nowhere near the level of market value to hook up with or fuck most of the hot girls (7 out of ten and above) at your school. This one is probably currently fucking and blowing guys in their late teens to mid 20's after school, you wouldn't even come up on her radar.

She may use you and play games in between sex with men because she knows you like her and because you don't know better it goes on.

Forget her, turn away when you see her and focus on yourself, and some other girl if they're around.

dark_rabbit · 2018-06-28T16:59:09+00:00

Be warned this isn’t the last you’ve heard of her. There will be a time she comes crawling back to you. You’ll be tempted to feel sorry for her, and you’ll think it’s different this time blah blah blah. It might even be when the mood is just right at a party or something.

Don’t fall for it.

Auvergnat · 2018-06-28T21:02:32+00:00

You "finally" blocked her, but you're going to get back to orbit by rationalizing it as "blocking her means I was caring too much, but now I don't give a fuck so I'm going to be in touch again".

Ghosting then orbiting then ghosting then orbiting.. the true mark of the power a woman has on a man.

Try understand this now to save you years of headache: this is not about blocking someone or being "just friends", it's about removing a person from living rent-free in your mind. It's about getting to the point where you don't think of her and you don't think about what she may be thinking of you.

Blocking someone creates the space for you to grow this capability to "forget" someone. If you block her but then see her all the time, get upset about how she's reacting, trying to figure what she thinks, considering whether getting back in touch with her or not, then guess what: you're doing it wrong.

You need to actively work on yourself to get her out of your mind. This means blocking her; when you see her you acknowledge her presence and switch your thoughts to something else; when the thought of what she may be thinking occurs to you, switch to something else; try to get with other girls; do activities where she's less likely to be there or entering your mind.

cglehosit · 2018-06-28T23:29:49+00:00

Good job, getting out of that oxytocin loop is hard. Get a dog, hang with family, do something to substitute that feeling of belonging. You’ll still go through withdrawal, and the best way to actually beat it is to lift. Lift lift lift. Testosterone is the best way to beat oxytocin withdrawal. You got this man.

RunawayGrain · 2018-06-28T17:01:57+00:00

Good on you.

Since blocking her she stares at me with a bitchy face all the time and her friends have told me that she’s really upset and she’s also been telling people that I’m a dickhead etc.

So she's now confronted with what she thought was an orbiter getting loose. She has to spin the situation to her girlfriends so as no to lose face.

The seriously best way to handle it is to go bone an objectively hotter girl. This gives you two things. Social proof, which is king with high school girls, and the fact that if she's talking shit, everyone will chalk it up to sour grapes if you have an HB9 hanging off your arm.

ProMisogynist · 2018-06-28T19:51:07+00:00

There's a hole in your soul right now. You need to go fill it with other shit, other pussy and other shit you want to do.

packetdata · 2018-06-28T17:28:25+00:00

Dude dont reinitiate contact with her,let her simmer in her own juices.Maybe she will intiate contact,get her to do the work.If she does then good keep her as a plate if not who cares.Either way you should look into improving yourself,your in high school focus on learning a skill or two like programming,sports. Bang ogher chicks Hs is a time when you are going to be surrounded by so much pussy that too all amped up on hormones. Utilize it.Build a better self.

Avskygod0 · 2018-06-28T17:48:09+00:00

Let her make the first move

If she really really wants, then it is what it is

LilSpoon92 · 2018-06-29T04:12:20+00:00

Continue ignoring her. Hold frame during interactions with her friends and pass shit tests from the other students.

In a closed-off environment such a high school, the SMP is highly restricted in terms of supply and demand, and information (gossip in this case) travels fast. Most high schoolers have never really experienced the open SMP environment, which is why they value their school reputation so much.

You're still young, which is a huge advantage to be pilled early. I was 8 years older that you when I was unplugged. My advice to you is to block out the gossip, and focus on your studies (or sports/music if you're talented in those areas) to set yourself up for the best possible future.

Once you leave the closed off SMP, your Oneitis will fade real quick.

Title	Finally blocked my oneitis
Author	anonymous6578
Upvotes	24
Comments	42
Date	June 28, 2018 2:38 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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