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[–][deleted] 34 points35 points36 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Leave immediately. If you stay, then you deserve what you get.
Good luck.
[–]fnordsnord 1 points1 points1 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I don't give a shit if YOU do not feel that you are "blameless."
She is violent, abusive, and dangerous. I do not care what her issues are, you should not be exposed to this. LEAVE HER.
[–]glawkneintehn13 points14 points15 points 8 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Verbal, physical, emotional abuse. Leave now. Do whatever you need to do to leave but leave. Otherwise, enjoy the pain train.
[–]theonedeadpixel 1 points1 points1 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
But I don't feel as if I am completely blameless though. I have talked to other girls while dating her never cheated but talked about it. I feel like you guys might just be seeing my side that's why I'm not all like "Hell yeah ima leave this chick"
[–]chachaChad21 points22 points23 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Look buddy... you came here for help and people ARE helping. You just don't like the answer so you're trying to hamster your way to not leaving her. Cut it out. You have a serious problem that's not going to get better. She's not going to change her behavior. If anything, it's going to increase.
You are being abused. Yes, abused... Let that sink in for a moment. You are letting yourself be abused. There is no one on the planet that can help you unless you start first.
You don't want to hear this but I'm going to say it again. You need to leave her now... not tomorrow... not next Wednesday... not in the spring. Call a friend or some family and explain what's going on. Don't be ashamed. This isn't your fault. Get this out in the open. She's abusive and your are in danger. Act like an adult and take care of yourself before she really hurts you.
After you read this, your next move is to pick up the phone and call someone in your life who can help. Tell them you are being abused and you need a place to stay tonight. Go there. Stay there. Leave her and do not go back, ever.
I know you're telling yourself... but I love her. So? You'll find someone else who doesn't do this. She's not the only girl in the world. You need to protect yourself.
Your right, it is hard to admit. I'm trying my hardest to admit it to myself. I need time to get my head around this.
[–]chachaChad12 points13 points14 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No, no.. you don't need time to get your head around this.
You're making excuses to not call someone. PICK UP THE GODDAMN PHONE NOW AND CALL SOMEONE. Call your mom. Call your your dad.
Your brother... your friend... uncle.. aunt... and say the words!
"I need help. I'm being abused. Help me leave now. Help me."
Do not spend another moment of your life with this woman. It's over. OVER. OVER. THERE IS NO SAVING THIS. THERE IS ONLY SAVING YOURSELF. CALL SOMEONE NOW. RIGHT NOW. STOP READING. GET OFF THE INTERNET. CALL SOMEONE. TELL SOMEONE.
I really do appreciate the advice. Thank you for taking the time to help out a complete stranger. This was honestly the only place I thought I could turn to.
[–]Pork_Sword30 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Are you fucking dumb. I used to be as stupid as you and be with a chick that pretty much acted the same way. Are you dating my ex? I grew the balls to just leave her and not give a fuck to pursue happiness. I didn’t care about the time I had invested into the relationship in the end, I didn’t care if there was financial loss. I just fucking left. You need to grow some balls and do the same thing.
[–]FromTheCaveIntoLight0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
listent to /u/chachaChad, seriously. its over. whatever future you thought was going to happen is an illusion. save yourself.
[–]chachaChad0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Have you told some one yet?
[–]glawkneintehn7 points8 points9 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you did those things to her, you'd be in a cell and not on reddit. Don't sell your Stockholm syndrome and scarcity mentality to us. There is an overwhelming majority of 100% that say to gtfo asap.
You asked for advice, it has been delivered.
There is no excuse for that kind of shit regardless of what anyone else could do. You are being abused, and you said it yourself. There is no "make it work" regardless of the conditions, it is entirely against TRP so read sidebar again.
Sidebar, just one more time for good measure.
[–]LordThunderbolt0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Listen moron, the girl is poison, independently of what you do. Whether or not you did something is irrelevant, that's just who SHE is. It is not YOUR fault she is like that. She was already like that before you. It is not normal behavior. Leave the relationship, spend some time strwngthening yourself, causally date a fee women here and there, and get a grip on your masculinity man. It may sound farfetched or even like a dream right now, but it's a reality that you can live. We have many guides here on how to improve yourself and become a better/stronger man. Believe us when we tell you that you shouod leave this woman. There is another way. We can show you that way. You just have to make the jump.
[–]BPasFuck0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't care if you've been balls deep in the swedish bikini team this whole time.
Her behavior is unstable, and unsatisfactory. And it ends with her stabbing you in the chest with a steak knife or worse.
Get the fuck out of this relationship. Your bitch is crazy.
[–]BlackMisc8 points9 points10 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This must be a troll post rite?
[–]RPShitlord3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Why didn't you have your phone on you recording this incident of domestic violence? Always record, always call the cops, and dump this bitch.
I was not thinking of incriminating her. I love her. Its hard man. She has been my life and I hers for a long time. Our families love each-other. She knows she is fucked up and is seeing a Therapist about it. Love means grinding through the bad stuff so you can get to the good stuff right?
[–]coach14232 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Love means grinding through the bad stuff TOGETHER. Like when one of you gets laid off or gets sick, the other doesn't bail. Love does not mean that you get to be abused by another person and stick around. That is not love. You may love her but she doesn't love you bud. Bail now before you have kids or property together and it gets a million times more difficult.
By you staying in this situation, you are subconsciously telling her you are a bitch and are willing to take anything from her. It shows her you are so low value that you couldn't even stand up for your self. Not saying she can't get the help she needs and be in a better place later on, but you need to go now and show her you will not stand for this. I've been with my girl for 12 years and the first time she ever did this shit would be the last.
That's NOT what love means dude. Love means not treating your partner like shit no matter what it is YOU are going through. It means ensuring that no matter what happens, the well being of the person you're with is a top priority in your mind. Love means... NOTHING. It's just a surge of brain chemicals that drive you to fantasize about a person. Your well being is not a priority to her. Biggs, RUN! Or get beat and treated like shit for the rest of your life. It's really up to you.
[–]dreadfrog4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm not wanting to break up with her because I know its all about coping with stress
This is a lie you tell yourself because you don't want to admit that she is insane and you need to run for your life.
There are other women, you know?
[–]Narcissist4563 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Holy shit. You’re fucking retarded, leave!!!
Its hard to take advice from a self proclaimed "Narcissist".
[–]Narcissist4565 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Neither a narcissist nor a neurotypical person would ever deal with this kinda shit for two fucking years. You’re a retard, run dude!
Im not a retard man, just trying to make things work with the women I love. I appreciate the advice though.
[–]glawkneintehn4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
sidebar time. there is no "make it work"
There is no "maoe it work". Are u seriously trying to tell me that there is not ONE single other woman out ofbthe BILLIONS of women out there that you could be with, other than this bitch? Fuck you dude. I'm really starting to think that you deserve everything she's doing to you.
[–]mrbfs4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Leave before you get arrested for being stupid.
[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I smell troll, but I'll bite.
Run.
[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We are engaged and planning on getting married soon.
No.
My GF gets over stressed very easily and goes absolutely insane on me. It got to a point the other night that I had to grab our puppy and hide in the closet with the door locked.
Dude. You're going to fucking MARRY this nutbar? GTFO of there. Like YESTERDAY.
I really need some help with this, I don't know what to do and it's getting to the point where she grabs me and forces me into corners so that she can scream at me even more.
A. Dump That Bitch.
B. Move to a different hemisphere.
C. No forwarding address.
Its not as "Cut and Dry" as you all might think.
Yes, but your path forward is:
A. RUN, FORREST, RUUUUUUN!
B. If you marry this BPD bitch, you are OUT OF YOUR MIND and deserve every bad thing that happens to you as a result.
[–]360_no_scope_upvote3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
Blue pill as fuck. No self esteem, zero self confidence, no abundance mentality, stuck in scarcity. Reality is you are a pussy, you are letting yourself be dominated by a woman. You should stick your cock in every single woman that passes by and rub it in your womans face, and make her lick the pussy juice off your cock.
lol look at this in his post history
Im a firefitghter for the city of portland very fit and love bbws pics for pics!
Jesus Christ
[–]360_no_scope_upvote2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
yes my son
[–]DaaaBearsDiamondCo0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They don't fuck around here, dude.
[–]VickVaseline2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Look up "Borderline Personality Disorder."
[–]E4012 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude if this is for real, this woman has just done you the biggest favor of your life. She has shown you this side of herself BEFORE you got married.
I have been where you are, so I know its one thing to know the right thing to do but quite another to actually implement it.
Everyone in here is telling you the right thing to do, but you already knew that. What you want is for us to say that there is something you can say or do to "fix" things. I've been down the "maybe if I do X it will fix things" route, and it's a horrible one. You can't fix it. It will NEVER get better. It WILL get worse.
And so what if you are not completely blameless? That really doesn't change anything. It is obvious to anyone reading this that you two should not be together. Maybe you did do something to upset her. Maybe you are not ready for a relationship. Maybe your personalities don't mesh well together. Maybe one or both of you truly is nuts. That doesn't change the advice. You do not need to be in a relationship with this person. Full stop.
[–]Rares55552 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I call bullshit on your post. Either you’re that much of a fucking pussy, so dumb and brainless that you cannot see that getting verbally, mentally and physically abused is a bad thing, or you’ve just decided to make a post to waste people’s time and have a laugh. The way you wrote your post makes me lean over to the latter.
If, however, I am wrong, go find a fucking therapist and leave that bitch.
And for god’s sake get that dick out of your ass and put it between your balls, after you grow some.
[–]chachaChad1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
YOU NEED TO CALL SOMEONE NOW. GET OFF THE INTERNET AND CALL SOMEONE.
Mother father brother sister
Say the words out loud.
"I'm in danger. I'm being abused. I need help now. Help me."
[–]RAiderNat881 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A troll if I ever fucking seen one
[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear2221 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro, have some dignity. Having a girl isn't success.. Being with a girl like her is miserable. You don't need to salvage anything. Get her the fuck out of your life, like yesterday.
[–]Calebrox1240 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’ll be nicer than the other guys here by just saying, this not at all a healthy way for her to handle her problems.
If I were you, I would at the very least leave for a few days and give both of you some space. If she decides she was in the wrong and wants to make up for it, go back to her. If things haven’t changed, you’ll know what to do.
Best of luck. Just remember that being in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re “winning” - leading a fulfilling life does.
Leave for a few days? Lmao she wpuld instantly stab him thebmoment he gets back. How dare he leave her for a few days.
[–]Occams_Stubble0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Please at least tell us what town you live in. That way when the "Murder-Suicide in [Your Town]" story hits the news we'll know your relationship reached its logical conclusion.
[–]1ANGRY_ATHEIST0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It will only get worse. I can promise you that. Do not marry that woman. You will get divorce raped.
[–]chim_city0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ain't no pussy that good...... RUN
[–]zboo1h0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dated a girl like this years ago. Started off as playful hitting, that got worse, then one night she broke into my phone and misinterpreted a message between me and a (female) friend of mine. Next thing I know she's throwing bottles at me and trying to trash my apartment.
Cut her out ASAP.
You're doing good buddy, proceed with your marriage plans of 2018. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel for you. Soon she will put you out of your miserable existence and you won't have to suffer anymore. Embrace the impending sweet release of death. Bless your heart.
She probably has BPD. My ex was the same. Fits of rage and crazy mood swings. yelling, screaming, abusive. Would throw my cloths all over the place, throw my phone ect. The end of that relationship was what brought me here. So many red flags i ignored or overlooked for the purpose of "love." the pathetic part, she left me.
No woman is worth this amount of bullshit. If you think youre going to "fix" her or it will get better, im begging you to reconsider. It will get worse. Boundaries have already been crossed and you have failed to show her that these actions have consequences. shes going to do whatever she feels at the time and this is not going to end well. You either man up and walk away and start fresh, or reap what she sows for you, because you have very little, if any, influence on changing this situation.
[–]qwerty112358132134550 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Have you ever done anything comparable to this? If not, then how could you possibly deserve this?
If you don't deserve it, why put up with it.
Now, ask yourself, whatever reason you put up with it, is it worth it? (Remember this will get worse)
[–]wheresMYsteakAt0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How much do you weigh? How much does she weigh?
[–]MRPFuckMe10 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You must be new here. Do not tolerate that shit, not even once.
Take it from me. You will dump her (I hope) and she will frantically try to get you back with amazing sex and being sweet as sugar. It’s bullshit. She will NEVER change, not for you at least. Your relationship is fucked beyond repair.
On a side note, I don’t know what you expected asking that here.
[–]sihitu1230 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Are you that much weaker than your GF that she can just easily corner you and do whatever?
Though I would not advise it and if you dont truly want to leave, try being violent with varying degrees to see if you're still a pussy to her :D . I know sounds weird but theres some merit if you love a crazy woman. Still law and shit so think.
[–]huge_gap0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's right you are a pussy. So grow a pair and leave this domestic violence situation.
[–]Rug450 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
At the least sit her down and talk about her abusive behavior to you. See what her reaction to it is. If she blows her top or goes sideways then it's time to move on. If she see's she has a problem then recommend counseling.
Bottom line nobody deserves to be abused.
[–]mortsdans0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Guys this is fake you can stop. The trolls only other post is "Looking for a Dirty BBW up for anything." This is probably some blue haired bitch fucking with us
God damn it. This guy didn’t leave.
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