Girl doesn't feel it

raceAround126 · 2015-03-11T05:51:51+00:00

Jesus christ... Entj? Inpjs? Pyjamas? What the fuck are you talking about? Can that crap. And stop reading some bollocks "personality types" page you found on google. I'm not surprised you didn't "feel it" after getting a knock back like that.

You waited four dates to be in any way sexual. Big mistake right there. If you're after a sexual interaction you need to make your intentions clear from the get-go. Even the shyest of girls, I have at the very least kissed on the lips at the end of date one. It takes time to build kino, but over a length of time and building comfort, it straight up works!

Sod this alpha enough bollocks too. If you need to be more outgoing then be more outgoing. You will screw up, yes you will, but just keep an eye on yourself and realize if you're going too far.

Also, of course, lift! Lifting builds your confidence and improves you in every way! Gym in the morning is the best thing you can do for yourself.

You know where you have gone wrong on this one. Fine, move on (and do delete/block her number, you don't need her let's be friends mind games!). Next girl, be more natural and touch when comfortable.

penguin_says_slide · 2015-03-11T04:00:10+00:00

Most of the "feedback" from girls is bullshit.

oh you're not romantic enough!!

But this one has some good tips : straightforward, carry the convo, confident etc.

You should be like. oh, that's not bad advice. Cheers(kiss on cheek) and then walk away like Charlie Chaplin, thinking of plans to implement to improve on those points.

You shouldnt doubt yourself and think you're doomed!

El_Serpiente_Roja · 2015-03-11T04:32:10+00:00

As an intp you're probably already nerdy, geeky or socially awkward as it is, so focus on increasing smv and you won't need to wait 4 dates for kisses.

AlphaAsFAQ · 2015-03-11T04:57:11+00:00

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Mildly_Sociopathic · 2015-03-11T05:14:51+00:00

INTP here. Wife's an INTJ/ENTJ. Works wonders. Anywho, being confident and straightforward is what's necessary. Don't go and change yourself for her, you can have success even as the strong silent type but that's not to say those other traits won't help. Escalate as early as possible.

Regarding her, next and up ye olde SMV.

wantonton · 2015-03-11T15:51:36+00:00

The only opinion she had that should concern you was her "I'm not feeling you" opinion. You HAVE to respect that. You respect it by immediately terminating the date and communication (after all you're only reason for being around her was sex and she's shut that down). Be honest in what you wanted and respectful of her decision.

As to whether or not you need to improve yourself and if so in what way and how, all of those realization should only come from you through self reflection. Understanding that failure is a necessary part of success, is your life, both as it is and as it's going, how you want it to be? If not, that's what you need to focus on. Then, and only then should you go to others for their opinion and advisably, go to those who have success in the problem areas you're facing. (after all, if you had to climb a mountain you wouldn't ask for advice from someone who's never done it, would you?)

SkorchZang · 2015-03-11T05:16:34+00:00

Translated from girl speak into our lingo, she's saying she didn't get enough cool guy slightly-unattainable smirking badboy alpha vibes from you. The way you went for the kiss wasn't very exciting, the way you waited for so long to do it also put her off, etc.

Crucial to understand is the fact that these are not the faults of you, the real you deep inside. They're faults in how you act socially. Put on a different act and suddenly you're amazing and irresistible. It's very, very cheap sham stuff.

Go on that crazy quest, by all means dude. Don't limit yourself to just "socially dominant", learn strong Game in general.

oldredder · 2015-03-11T06:53:13+00:00

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leftajar · 2015-03-11T09:38:30+00:00

Fourth, she came over to my place for a brief visit. Tried to kiss her.

Well there you go. That should've read, "kissed her on the first date, and when I got her back to my place on the second, she gave me LMR..."

Edit: Just start touching her earlier. A simple handshake, when held for an extra moment, becomes sexual.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-03-11T04:31:07+00:00

She's not the prize. You are.

By definition, you can't do anything wrong. Fuck that bitch.

alexinikita · 2015-03-11T05:45:57+00:00

She could actually not be your type. Besides attractiveness you said nothing else and admitted you weren't even feeling it. So just move on from this with a lesson. If you aren't feeling it by the second date( this is generous to me, I have to have chemistry on date one) cut it loose and move on. If you aren't used to that, then do it until it stops bothering you

C00l_Guy · 2015-03-11T04:02:05+00:00

Hey guy. You've got some serious issues to work on.

First stop wasting time trying to analyze your and her personality people are all the same.

I'm getting awkward vibes from reading this and think this is the issue. Try to work on your vibe. If you've had 4 dates and got nothing from it you're already a beta orbiter. Do something about that.

cascadecombo · 2015-03-11T11:22:05+00:00

Tried to kiss her. She rejected the advance. Said that she wasn't really feeling it.

You only tried once?

Lemme tell you something man, if you try once and they don't leave. That is basically her giving you another chance to try again. I have had a girl reject me once, twice, three times within an hour of her being at my place. We watched a movie, when it was time for her to go I simply pushed her against the wall when it was time to go and told her she has to kiss back this time.

From that second I had to push her off and send her home before the last train. I only got what I wanted because I refused to accept no for no, i did not force anything but I did not let myself be defeated.

not be a boring typical INTP.

You classify yourself, if you think you are boring. Guess what?
you will be fucking boring No traveling, or doing muay thai will make you unboring. youll have more experiences, and those things will help you, but its your mindset man.

Title	Girl doesn't feel it
Author	wz3
Upvotes	4
Comments	23
Date	March 11, 2015 3:51 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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