Has anyone here ever improved themselves after a girl ghosted/left them and had the girl try to get back into your life after seeing you again?

IamEins · 2021-03-30T05:40:50+00:00

She saw your progress. Dont reply and get new, better chicks.

You dont want to get ghosted and than friendzoned. You aint a bitch, that she can play around with, right?

benhurensohn · 2021-03-30T07:00:26+00:00

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7

It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

Returnofthemack3 · 2021-03-30T05:56:10+00:00

Not ghost persay but yeah, I've had chicks do a 180 on interest for various reasons

If you hit it, do it in the most cold manner possible and then ghost her ass after. I might be cold as ice but that's what I'd do.

Kuneyah · 2021-03-30T06:29:00+00:00

Friends???? Oh fuck that bitch that's disrespectful to all the work you put in.

fatbloop · 2021-03-30T08:44:10+00:00

Do not reply to a single message. Don't even open them. Just delete her messages and fuck other girls.

yamahantx700 · 2021-03-30T07:37:27+00:00

You went hard! That has nothing to do with her, and everything to with you! You're good. Enjoy. Slow down a little bit. Physical is good, spiritual maybe not so much. Spend more time on studying human spirit. Thank me later.

BPasFuck · 2021-03-30T09:57:54+00:00

The juice isn't worth the squeeze.

In general, it's better for you just to basically ignore her, and leave her wondering what might've happened if she hadn't dumped you.

If you give her another chance, she'll subconsciously work against you to 'demonstrate' to herself that dumping you was the right move.

Why? Because girls are crazy, with squirrel nut brains.

You have two choices: Bring her back on, and spend half your time struggling with her. Or, leave her in your dust, with all kinds of nagging doubts about her actions.

I know which one I would choose.

F4ACE · 2021-03-30T09:59:31+00:00

Don’t bother with her bro, move on. I know it’s tempting to go back, but it’s never worth it (iron rule of Tomassi #7) The fact she wants you back means you’re better than her now, remember girls only date upwards.

SteveSan82 · 2021-03-30T10:29:42+00:00

Don't be a cuck. Ghost her slutty ass.she only dumped you because she found another guy.

Tousen71 · 2021-03-30T09:15:03+00:00

Fuck her and show her how much you don't care when you don't get caught up. Sex can be validating for women (she knows you're still attracted to her) BUT the true benefit is for you if you fuck the way you want, put her out, and go back to your life.

Be the user, not the used and you're gucci. Just don't catch feelings or you've lost.

btrpb · 2021-03-30T09:38:25+00:00

Fuck her. Well done. You got in her head a bit. But move on. She's your past now.

Metrack · 2021-03-30T11:29:19+00:00

Even if she give you some sloppy pussy it looked to me like perfect beta bait to get off to thought that you still want her. Remember that in the long run its way better to have some standards and feeling good about yourself than crawling back to your ex pussy which probably were used in the meantime in all disgusting manners.

ex gf isn't plate or anysort of casual fucking (at least that's how it should be) so by killing that emotional connection by dropping you first you drop her afterwards into hole in the ground and place cross before her grave.

That's how you should treat her like she is dead without mourning after her.

Don_Draper27 · 2021-03-30T14:58:38+00:00

Yes, and this is just a side effect of focusing on yourself and raising your SMV.

What will probably happen is that she will use you, just for validation. You may think to yourself, "you know, I want to hit that again." But, once you send that, "come by my place later" text, she'll take that to re-feed her ego, and ghost you again.

Ghosting someone is absolute disrespect, don't even be decent to her. Ghost her back.

Vesperous · 2021-03-30T15:39:36+00:00

Happened to me too except we hadn't date before I improved. I finally fucked her and now shes my LTR of 8 months. Not worth it at all and it took me just to now to realize. Don't let yourself fall into the same trap I did.

JPVoltaire · 2021-03-30T15:44:44+00:00

Yes I had this happen, but let's be honest. You have oneitis. Move on.

WeddingCrasher91 · 2021-03-30T05:56:35+00:00

you can fuck her if you want. Ask her to bring wine and come to your place. This may bring unwanted drama.

MatingAdvice · 2021-03-30T07:33:32+00:00

Ignore her

familiarfolly · 2021-03-30T10:44:23+00:00

a lot of guys are giving very emotionally charged responses to you.

i get it, and agree that if you have even an inkling of “romantic” (read BP) hopes to make her your gf again, never reach out to her again. feel free to speak in passing of course, but no more if you feel you will “fall in love” or try to use red pill tactics for blue pill fantasies.

most men are incapable of doing this, so proceed with the utmost caution.

read this very carefully:

if you have fully recovered from your oneitis, then feel free to bring her back into your life BUT 100% ON YOUR TERMS.

meaning, if she doesn’t comply with your wishes 100% (that is, if you want to fuck, you fuck, if you want to chill, you chill etc, i’m not referring to shit tests), you hard next/ghost forever.

if she is willing to do whatever makes you happy, IMO there’s no reason not to have her around to do what you please with.

only you know if you’re ready.

Rexai03 · 2021-03-30T13:35:57+00:00

Happens all the time. A tale as old as time itself.

Also, she doesn't want to be friends. She wants you back on the menu, in case she craves you.

Never forget: They want to know if they could still have you, especially now, that you're better than ever before.

Whatever your interest is in this woman: If you don't make her work for it, she will not respect you. She more you give freely, the more she will want to take without effort.

BlondeHornyElf · 2021-03-30T13:41:02+00:00

yes. and nothing confirmed TRP for me quite like seeing a cheating ex try to worm her way back into my good graces.. honestly if anything ever soured me on women it was that

lifeintraining · 2021-03-30T15:15:13+00:00

“I’ll think about it.”

SuperSpicySpice · 2021-03-30T15:40:36+00:00

Fuck her real good into a full body orgasm then ghost her back!

Xaxaima · 2021-03-30T16:33:24+00:00

Avoid like the plague. She's looking for an ego boost that you're still on the hook, that's all. It'll drive her crazy that you ignore her and are with better chicks so just do that. This one has already proved she's no good by ghosting. Be thankful though, she made you get your shit in order.

SeasonedRP · 2021-03-30T16:39:36+00:00

She just wants to mess with your head for validation. Your question reeks of oneitis. Don't have any contact with her. Ignore any mesaages from her. Better yet, block her because you won't be able to ignore her.

danaw1992 · 2021-03-30T19:50:35+00:00

Motherfuck that bitch, don't be friends, give her 0 attention and pursue other women

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