Help Please..

AlpacaStrap · 2020-04-08T08:24:07+00:00

Don’t Talk To Me Like a Bitch

"Hi, I'm Noh Wang, and I think I'm a hopeless case. I'm Chinese, 5'1, 110lbs, a virgin, and hopelessly shy. Women never notice me, and I can't muster up the courage to talk to them. I've never looked anyone in the eye since I learned to walk. Every night I go home and soak my pillow with tears, hating myself for being me. I know I will never be Alpha, but can you please help me, or just tell me it's hopeless so I can kill myself (except I'm too much of a pussy to actually do it). I'm so miserable. Please help."

You are talking like a bitch. Don't talk to me as if you were a bitch.

I'm going to take a wild guess here, Wang, and say you were raised with an absent, uninvolved, or pussified father. Because you are speaking woman-language to me, and you are trying to get woman-help.

You are trying to get me to rescue you. To fix your feelings. To dry your bitch-tears and tell you it'll be all right.

That's how bitches talk. Bitches talk like that because it works for them. If I see a cute little piece of girl crying and begging for help, my male protective instincts are going to kick in. I'm going to feel some sympathy, and maybe pick her up, dust her off, and parent her a little bit, teasing her for being so upset at this silly little problem, and here's what we're going to do about it. Then I will fuck that bitch so deeply that whoever pulls me out will be declared King of All England and Scotland, and things won't seem so bad anymore.

That's how men are wired. Bitches talk like that because it works for bitches. If they cry, big strong Vikings like me come along and give them a big helping of Alpha male attention and Alpha male cock, after which they have nothing to cry about anymore.

And bitches taught you to talk like that because they are bitches and that's what they know. Bitches aim for sympathy because it works for them when they do.

But you know what you get if you talk to me like a bitch? Contempt, that's what. You disgust me. It's as sickening as if you had put on lipstick and a dress. Because you are not a cute little piece of girl, you are a man. And you sicken me when you don't talk like one.

The first thing you need to do, Wang, is talk like a man. Don't aim for sympathy. Aim for respect. The bitches who raised you never taught you to aim for respect because they don't know how, and it doesn't work for them anyway. Of course they don't do it. A bitch aiming for respect is as disgusting as a man angling for pity. It's as sickening as if she had stopped shaving her legs, put on a false mustache, and started swearing like a sailor. Bitches get sympathy. Men get respect. Drill that into your fucking skull, Wang. I know you have very little to brag about right now, but if you do not strive for my respect, I will not help you.

So if all you have is pain, then impress me with how manfully you bear it. Take responsibility. You have a long road ahead of you, but show me you're ready to pick up your fucking backpack and march, and I will point you in the right direction.

Tell me this:

"Hi, I'm Dam Sun, and I've got a shit-load of work to do. I'm Chinese, 5'1, 110lbs, a virgin, and hopelessly shy. Women never notice me, and I haven't yet mustered up the courage to talk to them. I don't look people in the eye, and I have a lot negative self-talk that I need to fucking stop doing. I've read the sidebar, and I know many of the places I need to go, but there are so many things to fix that it's hard to know where to start. What I think I need is a set of easy intermediate goals, a few homework assignments to get me started. So I'm asking for suggestions."

Now at least you're talking like a man. I'll still kick your lazy ass for being lazy and needing your hand held, because I came up with this shit and did it when there was no TRP at all to help me, but at least that kick will be a force pushing you in the right direction. At least you'll be worth berating, which is a start, and more than you'll get from talking to me like a bitch.

Better yet, read the fucking sidebar, lurk TRP and askTRP, work on yourself as if you were just another man who needed the standard advice and not a custom program, and, a year later, write me this:

"Hi, I'm Long Wang, and I've made some progress I need to know how to capitalize on. A year ago, I was a 5'1, 110 lb Chinese guy with severe shyness. I read the sidebar, went into monk mode, started lifting, cut sugar out of my diet, did a cycle or two of Test-cyp and Tren, practiced talking to strangers. Now I'm 5'1 and 160 lbs and ripped, and I can look people in the eye and talk to them. I've started seeing women's eyes sparkle when they look at me, but I don't quite know how to turn attraction to lays. Any advice on good resources and tactics for sealing the deal?" Then you'll have my respect.

VSelf47 · 2020-04-08T05:33:01+00:00

I’m 5’3, 5’3 on a bad day, 5’3 on a good day. Tall guys get chicks more easily? Sure. So what do you do, you start maxing out everything else in your control. Some chick doesn’t want you? Who gives a shit, get another one.

You are missing: frame, abundance, and clearly lifting. Go read.

nogatcord · 2020-04-08T04:56:13+00:00

"I'm a guy that's about 5'4, 5'4.5 on a good day, I'm okay looking, but it's obvious I was always going to struggle with women from the get go."

You've already lost the battle with this mentality.

"she will almost always say okay the door is right there, then I'll backtrack and say "Why are you like this?" or something similar."

The roles in this example you describe should be reversed. You are acting like a girl.

"oneitis for these girls no matter if she used to be a slut"

You have a low self esteem. Increase it. Aim Higher. You miss all the shots you don't take.

____Weabooo_V2 · 2020-04-08T04:38:19+00:00

SIDEBAR, go and fucking read it right now. It answers your question and don’t post any more shit until you read and internalise it. I’m sick and tired of seeing these lazy ass posts that can be solved by just reading the sidebar. Read the sidebar like everyone else or GTFO

Easy__Money____Snipe · 2020-04-08T04:42:27+00:00

Go read the sidebar and quit being a lazy piece of shit. Your not a special snowflake and you have no excuse not to read it. Quit being lazy, read it and apply it

DrGandu · 2020-04-08T06:07:17+00:00

TL;DR: You're holding yourself down.

Patrice O'Neal: "If you're an ugly motherfucker and you're walking with some type of swagger, a woman can look at you, and everybody can be laughing going, "Look at this hunchback motherfucker," and think, "How can this motherfucker with a hunchback look like he could be fucking me?" There's other things that make us attractive to women."

The voice in your head is what you need to eliminate. There's no guarantee that even when you're jacked as fuck, that you'll be able to walk with pride and swagger. Confidence comes from more places than just looking at yourself in the mirror. Now don't think I'm taking away from the importance of lifting - no, there is a reason it is a fundamental of game and the Red Pill. If you'd moved out of your neighborhood for a year and only lifted like a maniac for the whole time and came back, you'd instantly see heads turning and girls feening for your attention.

But while you sweat your balls off at the gym, you need to find yourself in the sense that you find pride in yourself and your accomplishments.

I cannot stress this enough: While this sub is one for discussing sexual strategy, the red pill is not about chasing pussy or aimed at garnering female attraction. It is about facing the hard truths of life and the consequences of gender dynamics in our lives. You need to stop letting your success with girls and pussy define your successes in life. What you do need is build inner value and confidence to the point where pussy chases you.

Since we're all under quarantine, look up home workouts to get started. I personally recommend Athlean-X but it could be anything that works for you. Take mirror selfies once a week to track your progress.

Since I don't know your age, I'll recommend things that work for all ages.

READ THE SIDEBAR. It is highly stressed so you understand the reasons behind your longing for female attention and validation. Information from the sidebar is what will ultimately guide you through this journey. It explains the workings of gender dynamics as stated before and how you could use it to your advantage.

Find hobbies to invest the time instead of wasting it. Time spent wisely returns dividends instead of time wasted which wastes you. Develop skills and habits that compensate for your physical shortcomings.

Key takeaway: Prove to society and to yourself why and how you're worthy.

BruhMoment45886 · 2020-04-08T06:44:57+00:00

Your height fluctuates depending on if it's a "good day" or a "bad day?" Lol

alphakari · 2020-04-08T08:04:04+00:00

Instead of trying to dominate these girls when your inner frame is shit, why not solve the reason your frame is shit.

2020-04-08T05:57:13+00:00

1 year without women was hard? Ok I have a solution. Go 2 years without women. And learn to be happy about it. Men are capable of happiness and fulfillment without the innerjection of the opposite sex. Remove the dependence, than you can opperate logically and stronger than before.

kingofclubsmorde · 2020-04-08T06:55:00+00:00

Post a picture of your upper body first

DeepNutted · 2020-04-08T12:35:56+00:00

work on yourself

wawakaka · 2020-04-08T16:26:20+00:00

You are needy and an emotional junkie

le_wolfe · 2020-04-08T18:00:02+00:00

This is what seems is wrong:

You're desperate & low value (not a bad thing)
You've no boundaries

Go read the whole sidebar, a few top books recommended here.

In the meantime, do have a serious look at yourself. You are your own judge. See where you lack and decide your action plan from there.

Weak? Go lift. Naive? No friends? Read up about it and apply. Get feedback & make adjustments.

Look, I can write an essay here but its you who havr to do all this. The rest is upto you. How bad do you want it?

Bone_Coat · 2020-04-08T18:04:27+00:00

uh, what can I say that's not already in the sidebar? - Absolutely nothing.

the girls I do end up having success with, I cling onto for dear life The girl can give me almost zero attention, but I'll hamster a way to continue speaking with her.

I'll get mad at times, put my foot down, she say okay the door is right there, then I'll backtrack and say "Why are you like this?" or something similar. I crave intamacy and affection. I'll almost always develop a oneitis for these girls no matter if she used to be a slut or not. No matter the disrespect.

first you need to do the OPOSITE of all this shit you wrote down

stop chasing women

don't get mad, you will break your frame

if she shows you the door, THEN LEAVE (and never come back), because she is telling you between lines that she doesn't care about you

stop craving intimacy, craving = you don't have it, learn yo love yourself first and you wont need that shit of "craving intimacy"

you need to go from ONEITIS^TM to IDGAF^{TM (gaming more bitches is the only solution to this})

"no matter if she was a slut".... do I really need to tell you whats up with this?

they disrespect you because you let them do it. learn how to remove all attention form these bitches. if you let bad behavior happen once, it will happen twice.

now, when this Covid 19 shit ends, what you are going to do is the following. get a decent job, a car, Lift Motherfucker, Lift again, improve that SMV of yours, buy nice (but not expensive) clothes that fit you well, find your style, every weekend go to the club and approach at least 2 girls, that will build your resistance towards rejection, get a haircut and skincare products, game 2 or 3 girls at time, get another job that pays better, IMPROVE YOURSELF CONSTANTLY

FINAL NOTE: everything is at a click of distance, you have internet, don't be fucking lazy, go to the main subrredit for TRP and use the search system for fucks sake.

Title	Help Please..
Author	depressedthrowaway3y
Upvotes	3
Comments	19
Date	April 8, 2020 4:10 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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