How do I go alpha?

maderail · 2014-06-03T14:33:03+00:00

At age 20, you don't have much to offer girls your age. Almost every guy goes through that period. Until you have a stacked physique, there's nothing about you that's special.

Either learn to be funny, or get jacked. Not a lot of options when you're young and broke. Go to college parties, there are a lot of women there ready for fun. Also, in vacation destinations (Cancun, Panama City, etc.) the fishing is better.

Good luck, but don't take it too hard if you are having a hard time. It gets better later on.

I can't overemphasize the funny thing, though. Being boring is the only unforgivable sin.

pleasedontknowme30 · 2014-06-03T16:45:28+00:00

first off, don't fucking gear up until you hit your natural limits. Too many young kids these days think hopping on roids / trt, etc... is the answer. Focus on getting as far as your body allows FIRST, then if you are wanting to get even bigger, enter a competition, etc.. then worry about gear. But fuck...stay away from that shit until you 'need' it.

Wolfwoodd · 2014-06-03T14:45:10+00:00

Getting jacked just helps you a) feel good and b) have more confidence. You still need social proof and the balls to approach women. Your best best is working towards developing a more solid social circle. Social circle game is the easiest form of game.

Other then that, work on your day game. Don't go out of your way to find girls, but make a point to talk to the cute ones you see when you're out of your house. Just chat/flirt for a few minutes, see if you can get a phone number, then be on your way with whatever you were doing.

thisisntjet · 2014-06-03T17:40:58+00:00

Work on building your value now. Work out, read a lot, emulate the greats. And really, I would advice against online game. Go out and approach, you have time in your youth. Don't limit yourself to the grocery store. Cafes, on the streets, at the mall, at the beach. Just go hard for about two years.

It may seem like a long time but that's the only way. Although I say go hard, it doesn't mean you won't have down periods. For the two years you will have high intensity and low intensity periods. Just go with it. But I cannot stress how important it is to approach as well as build your value. I get that some guys will say don't do it.

But I come from the other camp. I spent two years going hard and right now at 24 I am dating two girls (who know about each other and are cool with it btw). I didn't start as early, though and am still working on life building. But I would recommend at the early stages to keep approaching

[deleted] · 2014-06-03T21:13:29+00:00

Dont do gear until you're 25

Manuel_S · 2014-06-03T17:08:34+00:00

Seriously look into something you see yourself doing for the rest of your life.

Bodybuilding (ain't for me)

Lifting

Bodyweight

Parkour

F....g dancing

Anything else that'll make you look good and/or move good.

kingjerksupreme · 2014-06-03T22:09:02+00:00

Do what you got to do to make yourself feel like an alpha. Even if you got to fake it till you make. College degree, herculean physic, big boy job, not taking shit from people/girls, a house, bang a 9, fancy car, VIP table. Whatever it is that make you say, fuck yeah Im alpha as fuck.

[deleted] · 2014-06-04T02:03:00+00:00

Living with your parents is all you need to focus on.

Don't worry about women, spinning plates, or being alpha. Figure out your own life first, and then worry about someone else.

Finding a partner is not hard, but you should really become a worthy partner before you start searching for one.

Walktillyoucrawl · 2014-06-03T14:16:27+00:00

No don't be a creep. If they don't like you on set up dates then they probably won't like you in the store. There is no rule against doing exercises before 21 but it sounds to me like a piss poor excuse. Get up off your ass and run or lift or row or bike. Get in shape (being a skinny fuck doesn't mean in shape) you need to be more interesting, have more friends, have more hobbies and get out from behind the computer. You don't just "get a girl".

Title	How do I go alpha?
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Date	June 3, 2014 1:48 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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