how to be confident?

OneTouchHowMuch · 2014-10-01T06:31:42+00:00

Improve yourself. Put forth your full effort. Confidence comes from the internal knowledge that you are doing your best at life given your particular circumstances.

So, that means, whatever you do, put full effort into it. Don't use someone else as a measuring stick. You know internally if you are trying your hardest or if you could do better.

However, you must be productive. Don't waste time, and make sure to do things that contribute to your life (present + future). Playing video games at full effort won't do shit since you didn't produce anything. Watching TV at full effort is a waste of time.

Here at TRP, the focus is on self-improvement.

Make something. Learn something. Build something. Go somewhere. Create something. Talk to someone. Keep practicing.

Confidence will be the result.

Crisis88 · 2014-10-01T08:50:53+00:00

Familiarity breeds not contempt, but confidence.
Not confidant doing something? Practise it. Fail at it. Get good at knowing why you fail, and how to improve. Success on the second time or third time isn't even needed, just progression.

real-boethius · 2014-10-01T09:38:56+00:00

Fake it till you make it. Seriously - feelings follow actions.
Practise extending your comfort zone, even if only a little, every day.
Have written goals. Have a written plan to achieve those goals. Monitor progress. Spend time working on your goals and limit time spent on other things. Focus on what it important to you.
Get fit and strong. Make sure you are not overweight.
Cultivate a positive personal appearance. Get good clothes and a good haircut.
Focus on self-improvement. When something doesn't work, learn from it and don't beat yourself up.

[deleted] · 2014-10-01T11:10:14+00:00

don't rely on women for emotional fulfillment. find hobbies and improve

thebuddhalifts · 2014-10-01T07:48:15+00:00

I eventually learnt that i was equal to everyone else, it was shortly after losing my virginity. (didn't feel like the odd one out anymore). I also used drugs as a crutch until eventually i didn't need them.

FrameWalker · 2014-10-01T14:41:41+00:00

1) Use a mantra that lets you embrace failure while pushing you to achieve "I suck and it's awesome" WHo else has the balls to go for it? Life can be more like a silly game, Haha - maybe game over. Try again.

2) Build reference cases Little tiny baby steps. Learn to make eye contact. Learn to go over and say "Hi I'm Wassup183, who are you?" Learn to take their hand. Learn to spin them around. Learn to ask for the number. Learn to kiss them at the end.

Confidence is actually more about action than about beliefs. It's your mind sensing your action, value giving momentum. If you feel like you are enriching others around you, it will exude confidence.

3) Body hacks: Lift, Project when you speak. It takes energy to listen, so basically yell at people when you talk to them. Can't be too loud really. Stand up straight .Push your hips forward, chest out, chin up. Speak slowly. Stop drinking cold water to lower your voice even more. Nofap to get another note or two down.

4) You're in high school. Talk to the people in the seats around you before/after every class. Go to a club/sports after school and chill with people there.

Source: RSD Tyler/Julien

Rumble_in_the_Jungle · 2014-10-01T17:31:29+00:00

Confidence is simply believing that you will succeed. You will believe in your success if you have been successful many times before. In addition, this applies on a topic by topic basis - you will have different levels of confidence for the various different skills that you have.

So, your level of confidence in women will be different from skiing, making fiends, learning a new language, going on job interviews, etc.

There are three ways to increase confidence in a particular skill and each has it's pros and cons:

1) Do something successfully many times. Pros: the confidence is genuine and you learn a new skill. Cons: it's hard and takes time.

2) Fake it 'till you make it. Pros: you will give a better first impression. Cons: it will take time to "make it," you might get called out for being fake. You may also feel bad for "being fake" but you shouldn't, because no one starts off perfectly skilled at something - it's just a matter of practice.

3) Develop the mindset of irrational overconfidence. Pros: this will apply to all areas of life. Cons: if you actually develop true irrational overconfidence you may place yourself in genuinely dangerous situations.

truchisoft · 2014-10-01T14:16:33+00:00

Go to a psycologist or sort your life.

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Date	October 1, 2014 4:00 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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