How to respond to a push

Tousen71 · 2019-12-26T15:29:51+00:00

Tell her you can’t do Saturday. If you say “yes” to Saturday reflexively it looks like you didn’t have shit going on Friday OR Saturday.

Also, beware that she’s probably cancelling because a better offer came along.

Don’t lower your value in her eyes even further by being a readily available back up plan.

Ideally you SHOULD have other plans for Saturday.

DetroitGangster · 2019-12-26T15:23:55+00:00

She probably had plans with a better option for Friday. If you have high SMV you wouldn't have both of your weekend days open like that. I would have already had plans for Saturday and would not be able to re-schedule. It may not be a huge issue if this is new, but know that she is now controlling the scheduling making you accommodate for her. Now you are the one chasing.

drqxx · 2019-12-26T16:11:42+00:00

Tell her you're busy with a friend and leave it vague as fuck.

Hedser91 · 2019-12-26T17:07:06+00:00

Christ, you can just move a date to another day. You people take it too far, and OP shouldnt ask questions like this

chazthundergut · 2019-12-26T17:16:28+00:00

"I'm busy this Saturday. Let's try another time"

sherlock98 · 2019-12-26T16:19:58+00:00

She texts you herself beforehand to fix a new date? She's interested! Go for it if you're chanced. Something genuine probably came up for tomorrow

Krebota · 2019-12-26T15:22:23+00:00

She immediately offers a different date so why not just go with it? At best, say that you're not sure but will let her know tomorrow, showing that it's an effort to plan around it.

bluepillcarl · 2019-12-26T15:38:51+00:00

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lolomotif12 · 2019-12-26T17:37:36+00:00

Dont be free any other day apart from the originally planned date. If she cancels that day make her have to plan something for next week because you are too busy otherwise.

Massap24 · 2019-12-26T15:38:40+00:00

Depends do you have plans Saturday? If you’re free go with it, if not then tell her you can’t. I get everyone saying high SMV guys should have other plans for Saturday. But shit sometimes you don’t, you don’t fake like you have plans that would be her frame. But I wouldn’t allow her to make this a regular thing.

Title	How to respond to a push
Author	bluepillcarl
Upvotes	11
Comments	36
Date	December 26, 2019 3:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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