Almost outsider here, barely applied TRP principles. Things with my wife are absolutely okay since she is an unicorn (submissive ideal wife, from 3rd world country) even if I am not very alpha, the problem is my children.

I have a difficult very high energy intelligent little boy (and I am sort of jeb bush in this situation iykwim), and other one with some learning difficulties, and both of them usually are controllable for my wife and I, but in two or three ocassions daily, they make one of us explode, it has been very difficult to mantain frame (don't know if I am using the term correctly). In those ocassions, which happens daily, it breaks my nerve, and I cannot control myself and become irate when applying the discipline (tree twig or leather belt), and is taking toll on my health (apart from being having economic problems).

I think he is more anxious when we let him watch TV (usually three hours per day). These three hours are a relief for us but could be causing this, apart from my bad raising of them.

I cannot do my homework regarding TRP right now since I am unemployed and getting by in a sinking ship (work-related), not an excuse, and I am pretty stressed up, clicking my neck every half minute.

You are the most wise people regarding the functioning of a men, please I beg you let me know the basic pillars of being dad so I can apply them in some form.

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EDIT: Thanks all, I really really feel like shit right now, I knew it. I needed this, thanks. Shit, I have so much to do with my life. I thought I was much better in my mind, I only suspected.

EDIT regarding tree twig and belt: the term in Spanish for the twig is "varita" and it is a specific species of bush (Escoba dura, Sida rhombifolia) that produces a twig that is flexible and have a slash feel that is somewhat pronounced to the feel but does not harm. It is not a rod or a solid object. This is the main discipline tool, but sometimes people also use a belt here.