LTR break up shit test

RedLegendx · 2019-03-16T01:01:58+00:00

Let it be, she was the one that broke up with you, she has to be the one with the idea of getting back together (if you wish to get back with her). I’d start pulling back, you don’t want her to start using you for attention until she gets over you.

LLL3peat · 2019-03-16T01:25:35+00:00

Wait wait wait. You are considering this ? Relationship was great but she pulled the nuclear shit test to see if you were committed and to shift power in the relationship for no reason?

Think about it. Let her come back to you. Otherwise if she keeps begging when she will, why would you be in a relationship with someone who breaks up to test loyalty?

She is asking you if you want to breakup and talk about it to see if you are invested or if you have potential options as she thinks she does. The other thing is she might have someone in mind to replace you with, but is testing if she did a quick break up with you today, what would happen 3-4 months down the road if she did it again to branch swing?

Your call

OfficerWade · 2019-03-16T02:16:42+00:00

An ultimatum like this is going nuclear. I would just tell her if she doesn’t like me for who I am, there’s the fucking door...

fichgoony · 2019-03-16T00:59:50+00:00

Religious or not, what good is anyone who can't think for themselves?

vicious_armbar · 2019-03-16T04:22:12+00:00

I think a lot of guys are looking at this from the western context. Muslim parents can go bat shit crazy over their daughters dating. Sometimes to the point of actually murdering them rather than allowing them to have sex before marriage.

Also if op is in a Muslim country it’s not as simple as “go bang other women”. Almost all of the women are locked in their house under male guardianship. Whether formalized through the legal system or informal. The only exception are shopkeepers who work with their husbands, and are also recorded by store video cameras. I’ve been to the Middle East and North Africa. I know.

I say op should continue to play it cool and give her a second chance if that’s what -he- wants.

FereallyRed · 2019-03-16T02:58:33+00:00

Buh Bye.

patacsiipse · 2019-03-16T01:52:50+00:00

Start seeing other girls, time will tell if she comes back, anyways you will have the choice then to take her back or not

Xerexes3869 · 2019-03-16T05:35:18+00:00

People will always try to do what they want to do at your expense despite having an agreement not to. Once they get comfortable, they test you to see if they can get away with more. People always need a reminder or an 'attitude adjustment'. Always have leverage and other options and be ready to execute. You're gonna need them. Life is one big power struggle. Nothing but chaos. Learn to get comfy in it. You need to soft next and pull way back. Stop initiating contact and reply in concise statements. No discussion over should you guys break up or get together again. She already bumped you off. Either she needs to fix it on her own or you need to move on. Because if you try to fix it, power balance will tilt completely towards her and you will never recover.

AuberyBitoni · 2019-03-16T10:21:51+00:00

Once you break up one time, the relationship is over in my experience. There's no trust anymore.

smartstarfish · 2019-03-16T02:59:22+00:00

I would say if you’re under 25 just go next and look for plates.

And I would say if you’re over 25 next her as well because she sounds unable to run her own life without her parents deciding for her.

However If this is normal for your culture then I would not expect it to be a test.

architectintx · 2019-03-16T04:39:29+00:00

two issues:

this could be a pure power dynamic, in which case, dont respond for a week or two to see how things play out, keep your options open and demonstrate that you have options without explicitly saying so
she could be thinking of branch swinging , in which case, show her the door now.

Ridabewa · 2019-03-16T04:58:31+00:00

She’s demoted to plate. Why LTR someone who issues such large shit tests? The alternative is it’s not a shit test and she really does want to break up with you and there you go - plate. Getting back into a LTR with you should require massive demonstrations of repentance from her. But even so, I wouldn’t want to be with someone like that. NEXT!

kaolin224 · 2019-03-16T05:03:53+00:00

The shit tests are a red flag to me, but they all do it to some extent, so deal with it as you will. My concern would be that this is just the beginning, and there will come a time when the pussy isn't hot enough to warrant dealing with it.

What she's doing is a popular fantasy among modern women. Somewhere along the line they romanticized the idea of you "fighting for them", even when there's no one, or reason, to fight.

When that happens, they'll simply invent one.

LordMarkStark · 2019-03-16T05:12:48+00:00

I have a more simple perspective. You like her. She wondered if she should still break up. You probably said of course not. Don't be silly. Didn't you?

It was an outside source/impetus she used. That would have tested her conviction. To my mind she just wants to see if it's worth it, and if you're playing ball after second thoughts. It's normal for girls even guys to doubt things after some time wondering compatibility. The above is not being beta. But she damn well has a hide for asking this of you.

If you want her back let it slide. Be together and forget about it. If you get together tell her not to worry about it. No sense having weirdness in what was already good. I think the idea in her mind would be not to pull that shit on you again. You've already demonstrated solidarity in yourself. But certainly now you have to address it, do so. It's like saying without all the insecurity and over thinking elsewhere, if you want to be with me cut the crap and do it/put your money where your mouth is. It's her who's bending. Forgive her weakness as she's moving closer. Never when she's moving away. She's moving closer.

panscrypto · 2019-03-16T10:09:04+00:00

This happened to me too. Like 3 times in a relationship of 3 months. Once she wanted to brake up and we did for 4 days. Then she called me and was amazed that I didnt call back and how I could forget her this quick. It was fun playing with her like that. Maybe she cheated in that time or maybe she had another guy at the side the whole time with me but I wasnt going to mary her so I didnt care

RedLegendx · 2019-03-16T10:27:38+00:00

I don’t want to keep beating the dead horse but just to add, I don’t know if it’s been said but, if a chick really digs you, she’ll say fuck her religion and keep seeing you secretly, she won’t care what her parents have to say, she wants you so she’ll chase you down.

spartan_samurai · 2019-03-16T11:35:29+00:00

If she has dropped the breakup shit test on you once and if you two get back together she will probably do that again.

Don't let her pull the strings of your life.

priapula · 2019-03-17T21:43:29+00:00

http://archive.is/ENAtL

One of my favorite articles

RedHoodhandles · 2019-03-16T06:59:23+00:00

If she'd really be interested in you and this relationship, she would have played this waaaay safer. This was an open threat and she pulled the gun on you. And non RP man would have bent over backwards to salvage the LTR.

It's hardcore manipulative and a nuclear option she chose so that you (have to) enter her frame. Don't try to plate an ex. You have more mental drain than the sexy time is worth imo. As always in cases like this, I tell you:

Don't deal with terrorists. Hard next. Ghost.

Fulp_Piction · 2019-03-16T11:41:21+00:00

'ok'

thepizzaboy123 · 2019-03-16T16:29:09+00:00

Hey but then again isn’t it TRP advice to not judge what she says and judge what she does?

If she is making physical efforts to keep the relationship going I suppose you could too... not too sure, correct me if I’m wrong boys

hazelstein · 2019-03-16T12:53:04+00:00

OH yess.(muslims) MY best friend had the same shit with 6 year ltr. The girl said she cant keep breaking her parents trust because they check her mobile at shit. The realreason is bitch lost attraction or seeking attention. I WOULD say its not worth it. Forget her. Probably her moral value bullshit came up I know how it is with these bitch. They will suck your dick and a month later would we shouldn't do it its a sin. A bitch sent me nudes for validation. Didn't gave her for long time. She started to fet on ny nerve saying things i love u u don't give me time then she said we shouldn't talk because its a sin.

Title	LTR break up shit test
Author	CallMeBR
Upvotes	68
Comments	43
Date	March 16, 2019 12:55 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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