LTR: Dread doesn't work with this one. She's...different.

stillnoturday · 2015-02-20T10:19:23+00:00

She has control is whats going on here.

Dread is pointless to use to a person who:

A: knows you wont leave

B: thinks she is the best you can do

C: isn't sexually attracted to you anymore

Choose anyone or all of those reasons, and make changes.

mrust · 2015-02-20T11:08:44+00:00

You are not describing dread at all, you are describing nexting.

Dread is when she perceives other girls being interested in you. So if she knows you have other options she has to compete for your attention.

TheGillos · 2015-02-20T13:53:57+00:00

DUMP HER, DUMP HER NOW!!

...

How did you feel about the thought of dumping her just now? If you immediately thought "I cant" then that's why dread will never work for you.

leodoestheopposite · 2015-02-20T13:25:56+00:00

If you feel like she has control over you, you have 2 choices:

Stay, and be her bitch
Next her and improve/increase your SMV.

iamjacksnipples · 2015-02-20T12:15:52+00:00

Yes I have to agree, this isn't dread game. Dread is subtle when done properly. You don't overtly glean attention from other women. You slowly build dread by proving that you are wanted, and coveted, by other woman for your looks, body, charm, intelligence, etc. Any combination of these SMV characteristics.

Also, this strategy well not work if you are not the captain of your relationship. It will only backfire.

Sounds like you are in a position where dread will work on you.

Good luck.

Ghirden · 2015-02-20T21:05:07+00:00

Maybe she knows you're playing her

KyfhoMyoba · 2015-02-20T14:33:27+00:00

Well, the first stage of Dread, as well as the last stage, and every stage in between, starts with self-improvement. OP, are you consistently increasing your SMV?

5pecial · Fri Feb 20 17:04:24 2015 UTC

I dated a girl like that... I couldn't figure her out. I ended up deciding it was because she had Aspergers or something and couldn't empathize.

alreadyredschool · 2015-02-20T17:32:58+00:00

Do a report on what you do first, I strongly suspect that

A: You don't dread game her correctly

B: You don't hold frame, you give in to her crying before she can react to your dread.

C: Taught her that crying solves everything by not holding frame and setting boundaries.

_valtiel_ · 2015-02-20T15:25:58+00:00

Smush her face in the pillows and give her a good railing.

Title	LTR: Dread doesn't work with this one. She's...different.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	21
Comments	28
Date	February 20, 2015 10:12 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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