Plate "broke up" with me

Ed4all15 · 2020-06-18T13:41:44+00:00

I feel like 9 out of 10 questions that ask ”what to do now” can be answered by two words.....MOVE ON.

ViolentInteger · 2020-06-18T14:09:32+00:00

What went wrong here?

Nothing. The plate broke. This is part of the normal plate lifecycle.

At this point, soft-next her. You had plans to meet and she cancelled, so the ball is entirely in her court. She might come crawling back in a couple months.

In the meantime, get more plates.

alfred311 · 2020-06-18T14:02:27+00:00

I would have left that on read.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-06-18T14:24:17+00:00

We made plans for her to come over this Monday for a "date"
her: "i enjoy hanging out with you but i dont think we can work long term"
you: "ok"

that's it. STFU. let her double text,or never hear from her again. who cares.

remember: unless she's a hell yes, you need to be a fuck no.

"what went wrong here?" <<< you're thirsty. and nothing dries a poon more than a needy man.

flacko_red · 2020-06-18T13:31:08+00:00

Plates break. Get more bruv.

ComplexProjection · 2020-06-18T13:50:51+00:00

Women want commitment with a male they see a future with (good husband, father, ...). They can have fun with somebody but don't want anything long term with him, just like us men can do. The difference is that their time is more scarce than ours, so they will usually stop first.

319Skew · 2020-06-18T13:56:07+00:00

God you sound thirsty. If she's a plate then realize that plates fucking break. If you were catching feelings then stop that since because plates fucking break.

When she said that future bit, just smile, tell her sure and delete her from existence. She freed up a whole bunch of time to bang other women that actually want you.

noNooodleArms · 2020-06-18T15:21:28+00:00

Wait a minute here. I think the OP got it right. She said we won't work long term, he said fine, let's fuck anyway....and she said "thanks but maybe another time." I'm not so sure this is a broken plate.

I'm also not so sure she's a plate at all. After all, if you have only one plate, you have a girlfriend.

Nighthawk_Black_ · 2020-06-18T13:32:00+00:00

Don't overthink it find a new one

IXseed · 2020-06-18T16:27:35+00:00

Plates break. She could of just woke up and decided "Y'know, I think I want something serious."

DucardthaDon · 2020-06-18T20:58:15+00:00

Sounds like you got onetis, if she's a plate you would not care.

TheChadofChad · 2020-06-18T23:40:11+00:00

"Great, see you at 7"

kclanton80 · 2020-06-19T01:05:13+00:00

A plate can't break up with you ...

Not enough info here to know what went wrong.....but sounds like you were giving her a major boyfriend vibe, and she just wanted to have sex.

You got soft..and started showing feelings.

alex_de_tampa · 2020-06-18T19:28:48+00:00

I wouldn’t have responded until Monday to remind her to come over.

InformalCriticism · 2020-06-18T20:45:36+00:00

Plates definitely don't break up with you, they break if you drop them. Just be more mindful of your feelings and balance abundance mentality with what seems to be working.

The vast majority of my "dropped plates" aren't that I was doing anything wrong, necessarily, just that someone better came along. They're not going to come right out and say they found someone else, but that's the way hypergamy goes.

axiscontra · 2020-06-18T20:45:48+00:00

Honestly, I would have been like why are you telling me that? Becuase thats irrelevant information to me. I just care if she's seeing me on monday? Honestly she wants a long term.

You could have humored her and said what would make it work long term for both of us?

But I wouldn't care, abundance.

Psychological_Radish · 2020-06-18T14:06:28+00:00

Nothing went wrong as far as I can tell. I'd take her words at face value - she doesn't think you can work long term, probably because she sees you as a fun Alpha fucks affair.

If the intent was to get her to commit to something longer term, then yes something did go wrong. Seems that your "dates" were just her coming over to have sex. The medium is the message on your part - that indicates to her that you aren't interested in anything serious. Conversely, going out on actual dates signals that you want to do stuff besides just have sex.

What do we always say around here? Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks. In any event, the Fucks are usually short term by definition.

Title	Plate "broke up" with me
Author	Jakester12323
Upvotes	11
Comments	28
Date	June 18, 2020 1:28 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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