Plate flirting with my friends

2435734098 · 2017-01-20T17:54:14+00:00

I'd take it as disrespect from your friends. If you were the one to introduce her to the group it's already extremely bad taste to take her when she's fucking you, even more so if you told them to stop and they kept doing it. This is the shit you'd expect from random acquaintances but never from friends.

I'd soft next them and invest in different social circles but keep in contact every now and then just to enjoy the parties or w/e.

absolucion · 2017-01-20T18:55:51+00:00

Your "friends" are sharks. They're not worth keeping around. If they'll turn sketchy over frivolous pussy, they will do more (and worse) when the stakes are higher.

There are far too many women in this world for them to want to occupy the same holes as you.

Hemoglobin_trotter · 2017-01-20T16:21:58+00:00

My friends know her as she often has a free house and all of us go round.

They've likely been going there without you for longer than you think.

Over the last couple weeks she's started texting another couple guys from my friendship circle and having them around at her house to have beers.

Sounds like she's been up to this for a while, and is just now starting to flaunt it openly.

She was never yours, it was just your turn, as the old adage goes. Sometimes it's other peoples' turn at the same time. You left a fresh pie at the windowsill and didn't put a cover on it or tell your friends not to eat it. Time to bake a new one.

kjdflkas · 2017-01-20T18:13:37+00:00

I don't care if she's "just a plate", if my friends knew I was fucking a girl and one of them tried to swoop in, he would either stop under threat of violence or be shunned by the rest of our group because we have each other's backs.

This isn't even about losing the girl, it's just massively disrespectful to you from one of your friends.

Honestly, TRP is so weird to me how it usually touts respect as one of the most important things to have, but then you have everyone in this thread saying "just get over it, your turn was up" like a bunch of cuckolds. I understand that "mate guarding" is the most unattractive thing you can do or whatever, but this isn't about keeping the girl attracted to you, and you're certainly not trying to attract and subsequently fuck your bros lol. It's about having some dignity and self-respect.

Fuck these dudes, they do not have your back.

PissedPajamas · 2017-01-20T20:50:57+00:00

This is more about your friends than about your plate. Demote them to acquaintances so you still have the benefits of meeting new people through them, but find a better circle of friends.

brinkleybuzz · 2017-01-21T02:14:55+00:00

Not the kind of guys who make good wing men. Find a friend who has your back.

Pitchfork51 · 2017-01-20T17:41:08+00:00

Girls who feel scorned love to get with the dudes friends. This has always been a thing.

The guy thinks well my bud isn't actually in a relationship with her and I'm horny and she's down so fuck it.

wheresMYsteakAt · 2017-01-20T17:39:40+00:00

They are banging her for sure. Probably spit roasting her.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-01-20T23:47:52+00:00

They're not your friends. That'll teach u not to trust anyone in this life, especially not "friends" around your girl/wife. I have this personal policy where I don't befriend the girls of the dudes I know. Why your friends have her number beats me

Guavaqw · 2017-01-21T04:09:43+00:00

Fact of matter is, this only happened because your friends simply do not fear any repercussions from you. If you were that guy - ie hitting gym, do you think this shit would fly? They have no respect for you whatsoever.

NewBoomAction · 2017-01-28T14:28:53+00:00

Have you read the sidebar?

Seriously. It's in her nature to branch swing. You were not 'exclusive' with her. From what I've read I think you're developing a case of oneitis.

Where's your abundance mentality? Where's your other plates? Have you even tried to game other women in the past 4 months?

As for your friends that's entirely up to you what to do next. Now you know what kind of action they'd take given an opportunity such as this. I'd consider that a blessing. Imho, you don't need to drop them... just focus more on yourself and grow from your experiences. Life is always give and take so use them when you need to.

I had to personally do this with my own friends. A lot of my older circle is now only contacted for social events. They didn't contribute much besides that.

Corliame · 2017-01-20T16:02:24+00:00

No

The girl wasn't your woman. Learn to share your toys :L

DiggerClam · 2017-01-20T23:09:07+00:00

She's a plate, so why do you give a flying fuck?

SimpleTossAway · 2017-01-20T16:14:05+00:00

She wasn't yours it was just your turn.

aurelius_shrugs · 2017-01-20T17:47:30+00:00

Plates are community property. Otherwise, she's your girlfriend.

nightmancommeth · 2017-01-21T00:09:17+00:00

From the notorious Snoop Dogg- "It aint no fun unless the homies get some". Dread the shit out of her or move on to the next.

FvckYourSafeSpace · 2017-01-20T20:04:59+00:00

you failed the moment you brought it up. you should have either continued banging her and spinning other plates or dropped her.

TruthAndVirtue · 2017-01-20T21:01:05+00:00

While I agree with some folks that this is a sign of disrespect from your friends, I feel like this adage really applies:

"She was never yours, it was only your turn."

First of all, A+ on everything up to the point you're at now. You had fun, you didn't commit, you made all of the right moves. I'd say you got the best possible scenario there.

Quite frankly I do not think she is worth losing friends over. If they are really good friends, people you are close with, that can be quite hard to replace. Post-college it is especially hard to simply jump from one friend circle to another without serious time and energy. It also seems more RP to me to show that you aren't gonna let some girl get in the way of you having a good time with your buds and staying friends with them. Bros before hos, after all.

Of course, I don't know your relationship level with these folks. It's possible you're not close at all, and if you feel like you've had enough of them, you are free to do as you please.

Cheers man, excellent post.

oldredder · 2017-01-20T22:10:38+00:00

Nothing to help with. Plates are flirty/slutty. That's their purpose - sex without commitment.

I've told her that its unacceptable for her to be doing this with my friends as it puts me in a difficult situation.

You can't do that.

Your friends for being your friends can decline her advances but you don't control their choices or hers.

My question is, should I drop my friends too?

NO. Dropping friends over a girl is stupid.

Title	Plate flirting with my friends
Author	RkDeckard
Upvotes	10
Comments	68
Date	January 20, 2017 3:54 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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