She cheated.

Talinor09 · 2020-04-18T03:51:08+00:00

Personally no.

If your plating/dating a girl and she’s really into you and wants an LTR then she wouldn’t want to potentially lose you/damage her reputation by banging other guys.

If you’ve been plating her for a while (i.e non-exclusive) and she has been banging other guys (which is fine) and you’re banging other girls, it has to be said why would you upgrade her to LTR?

I only LTR girls that I have a longer term interest from the get go and after solid vetting.

alex_de_tampa · 2020-04-18T02:48:12+00:00

Do you know female nature? Do you have red pill knowledge?

Batman-von-Pepe · 2020-04-18T06:10:14+00:00

What has she done to deserve to be elevated to LTR status? The onus is on her to qualify herself to you not the other way around. Meaning when she begins acting like LTR material by not sleeping around and committing to you then you can begin thinking about bringing her up to the big leagues but never before.

alphakari · 2020-04-18T11:07:23+00:00

Guys in here value a woman's exclusivity way too much. If a girl walked up to me and said "I won't fuck any other guys so that you love me." I feel literally nothing about that. It's an actually worthless sacrifice, but for the non-emotional benefit of decreased chance of STD.

The reason our exclusivity is valuable is because women lose a great deal when at any moment after having their child, we can go start another family and divert our resources and attention to that new family. This will be true for the foreseeable future.

But a woman's exclusivity lost its value the moment paternity tests became a thing.

Craving a woman's exclusivity is two things:

Ya'll afraid of being called a cuck, which ya know, w.e. It's not really possible to get cucked unless you overinvest in a ho. (IE: Giving exclusivity to a bitch who doesn't know its value.)
Ego/Concern for disrespect. It's a possessiveness thing. Don't want other people to play with your toys. Stems from attaching too much value to being able to convince a girl to spread her legs, then that value feels threatened when another man proves he can do the same. There's also the underlying caveman defensiveness over disrespect IE: If a guy fucks your girl, he and she aren't worried you're going to bash their head in with a brick.

I get the feelings and feel that way too, but like, AWALT, and even if you find a bitch who isn't like that, the extra effort to manage her is not going to pay off in anyway. Her pussy feels exactly the same.

DarkestShadeOfRed · 2020-04-18T03:54:16+00:00

She told me and I quote "we never told each other we were exclusive". But it's kind of implied since she told me she loved me all the time.

Kind of not really man. Men are the gatekeepers to a relationship, sounds like you just left the gate open and let her wander right in and start living there.

If I'm running multiple plates, and one of the plates seems like LTR material, but while being a plate, was fucking other guys, would I still upgrade her to LTR given the fact that she wasn't loyal?

You don't have the right idea with plates. Plates are allowed to do whatever the hell they want, just like you are. You can't get mad or upset at them for doing what they want, including fuck other guys. Because you are fucking other girls, otherwise you're the plate. And to answer your question, if your plate is fucking other men she isn't LTR material. If she cut that out and actually presented herself as LTR material then you promote if that's what you want.

RPOpenUp · 2020-04-18T07:30:48+00:00

Remember:she's not yours, it's your turn. If you're plating her and she knows this. She's free to ride the CC. However this doesn't mean this is not a red flag lol

ThrowawayYAYAY2002 · 2020-04-18T08:32:51+00:00

A plate is free to do whatever she please. Why? Because she isn't yours.

What's good for the goose is good for the gander, in my book. So keep plating (as you already are).

I wouldn't get into a relationship straight away. Why the hurry?

Lick your wounds, regroup, fuck 10 other women, focus on your mission and then entertain the idea of a LTR.

Get your vetting game on point this time, OP. Godspeed my friend!

mikkeldaman · 2020-04-18T03:50:21+00:00

Oh well... such is life. Sorry about that, buddy!

But then again, the status between you and your girl should be clear in order to make sure there are no loops to exploit. As a man, I can tell you I am always looking for them because I resent girls that force me into exclusivity... yuck... such a dirty word.

Now if you're going to embark on an adventure to hunt the unicorn that's virgin by the time you find it, I'll remind you of that little joke that says vampires are extinct because they feed on the blood of virgin women.

DeepNutted · 2020-04-18T06:56:52+00:00

Don't get into a LTR for a long time. If you're choosing this women now, you have at least 5 years of spinning plates before you can really understand and evaluate women effectively.

mr_Tobbor · 2020-04-18T07:11:52+00:00

Give her a LTR and make threesome with her lovers. Your sexual life will up grade for sure.

IV-IVm-I · 2020-04-18T13:26:47+00:00

she didn’t cheat if you weren’t exclusive

GloomySpeech · 2020-04-19T04:49:16+00:00

But it's kind of implied since she told me she loved me all the time

Now you know what love means to her: nothing.

No upgrades to cheating women. It does not matter if she is a plate. She isn't LTR material, and she will never be.

Being a plate is "on test" status. A plate has to demonstrate perfect, spotless behavior to be worthy of an upgrade.

Not being loyal is a reason for a downgrade. Never for an upgrade.

If you upgrade, she gets the message that she can get more from you even by cheating. You are worthless, and exploitable.

2020-04-18T10:08:15+00:00

sHe ToLd mE ShE lOvEd Me

Jesus christ, who gives a fuck. When a girl wants an LTR she'll nag you about it. There will be no ambiguity. Until then she's just perma-plate as long as she's putting out satosfactorily.

When a guy wants an LTR he stays quiet, and probably needs to punch himself in the face to remind himself he's being a bitch. LTR is the girl's department, no exceptions.

apoc2050 · 2020-04-18T02:49:14+00:00

Plates aren't exclusive though. That's not how that works. Plates plate each other usually. You gotta let her know you wanna go steady with her, else how is supposed to know?

MattyAnon · 2020-04-18T16:11:11+00:00

would I still upgrade her to LTR given the fact that she wasn't loyal?

The answer for me is simple: I just don't do exclusive, so the question is moot.

ay-fuh-q · 2020-04-28T14:39:39+00:00

You're shocked? Your entire post history was an explicit trail of cock in her mouth.

BusterVadge · 2020-04-18T13:23:42+00:00

The answer is absolutely not. She has to earn the right to be considered for a LTR with you and that starts with proving herself to be loyal to you. That means she fucks only you while you fuck other women.

Title	She cheated.
Author	depressedthrowaway3y
Upvotes	14
Comments	21
Date	April 18, 2020 2:20 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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