Hey guys,

I'm currently hitting a skid right now in my game development. I'm really bad at flirting and being sexual in general. I'm not bad by any means of approaching or joking around. My problem is that if I attempt to meet women I'm attracted to, I get anxiety about sexually charging a conversation, and then end up not doing it and leaving basically as friends/like a chump. After really thinking about it, it's a fear I have that is based on lack of experience, which is based in my lack of not knowing what to do. It is a problem where I don't know what I don't know.

I don't want openers or canned lines, just general ideas that have worked for the community. As for some strengths, I'm 5'6" with a bit of both muscle and fat, so I'm not intimidating, and it makes starting conversations easy. As such, I usually have to come in a bit softer and ramp it up from there. This is something to keep in mind.

Lastly, my intentions are to find a girl for a friends with benefits relationship up to an LTR, with one night stands being secondary to those goals.

I'm really looking for some ideas to keep in mind when I go out so I don't get all anxious when I'm trying to express my sexual desires in a way that it will, hopefully, be reciprocated.