Upgrading my girlfriend?

yunggoose · 2019-01-16T09:32:19+00:00

Trust your gut. Since you made this post, you're already questioning whether the relationship should continue. When there is doubt, there is no doubt. Go for it.

Ansec · 2019-01-16T14:49:06+00:00

You've got a girl that cooks for you, runs errands for you, will be over at the door of a hat if you asked, someone that always wants to fuck and gives you the porn star fuck and you want to throw that away at a chance to find a hotter woman? Assuming she does those things.

I'm here to tell you good luck. Hotter women won't do that unless you're much hotter than them. In the end, looks fade, attitude and personality tend to stick around until death. Do what you feel is right, but keep in mind it's hard to find a decent woman that will ride or die with you.

AnyDoughnut · 2019-01-16T12:46:09+00:00

If you aren't physically attracted to her then find someone else.

If you are physically attracted to her, but think you could find someone more physically attractive then do what ever you feel that you need to do. Just realize the grass sometimes appears greener at newer pastures.

I personally like to eat almost as much as I like to fuck. If she is a good cook and cooks frequently that would give her +2 points for me. Finding a woman that can actually cook well today is difficult.

Vynxe-Vainglory · 2019-01-16T09:15:37+00:00

If you’re ready for something new, then it is what it is.

She already maxed out her SMV or what? She should have been improving herself when she saw you improving. You are probably enabling her complacency by giving your affection and validation too easily.

Give her some dread and encouragement via positive reinforcement and see what happens.

Also, it sounds like she’s worth keeping around as a FWB at least, and she might be willing to share you rather than lose you entirely if you communicate your desire for variety and exploration. Not a high chance, but it’s happened before.

KitMindhead · 2019-01-16T17:13:36+00:00

Most of this SMV shit is male hamstering. You still look the way you look. You still act the way you act, and everyone becomes soft/beta in a long term relationship.

If you think it is so easy to upgrade then start gaming other women and see how easy it is, you can decide how far you want to take it.

One of two things will likely happen, you will realize you aren't as hot shit as you thought and be more satisfied with your GF or you will enjoy the hunt and become single.

Keep in mind most women are trash, no loyalty, few good qualities other than sex. If you are enticed just by looks, you will be trading a quality GF for short term sex with hot trash.

Neither is wrong but they are two different things and two different lives.

BasomTiKombucha · 2019-01-16T10:37:23+00:00

Why not take her to the gym with you?

nofilmynofucky · 2019-01-16T17:01:45+00:00

I have, yeah.

Once you've realized this, there's really no going back. A buddy of mine once put it like this:

she's a great girl, but she's a charmander. I want a charizard.

FearGarbhArMait · 2019-01-16T08:28:13+00:00

All relationships are temporary, you don't understand how much loyalty and investment are yet. You need growth, a lot of growth. Do what you feel, you will learn in time.

Dreams_of_Conquest · 2019-01-16T16:00:30+00:00

Don't throw a good woman away for a chance at a hypothetical better one. What are you a hypergamous woman? You probably only think you can do better because of the preselection she provides.

Bruchibre · 2019-01-16T08:27:43+00:00

I feel you. I am in a similar situation. I can’t tell.

MindlessCalendar · 2019-01-16T12:26:05+00:00

Do you have the capacity to get other girls? You improved your life in many aspects and that's great, but did you also improve your social skills and game? If so, then it depends on your goals and what you want out of life and women.

If you like being in a LTR or are considering marriage (I wouldn't but some guys do) and she's good to you, then why would you give that up? But if you want to bang other girls, then definitely go for it if you can. It all depends on what you want out of life (right now) and we can't tell you what that is.

drqxx · 2019-01-16T10:02:31+00:00

May you find the highest mountain!

throwawaydegar · 2019-01-16T15:13:43+00:00

Asking the question? It's already over. Save some time. Get out there.

sandal_on · 2019-01-16T18:08:11+00:00

I recommend that you end the relationship in a soft way and give her a good closure so she can get you off her mind since she didn't do anything wrong.

That you even are asking this question tells me you really weren't committed to her anyway so it is better to let her go to someone who appreciate her.

dmi_3 · 2019-01-16T23:16:11+00:00

I have the same situation. One chick who could be the greatest mother and wife etc. She'd do anything for me. She's 5/10 also but may be 6,5 if maxed out. But problem is that there is something preventing me from attaching. I don't know what it is, smell, genes or whatever. Just feela alien. I feel like I'm gonna regret this eventually.

peaceful_strong_man · 2019-01-16T15:16:41+00:00

Polygamy

Adadya · 2019-01-16T16:40:23+00:00

Where is she from?

Dustin_Bromain · 2019-01-16T16:51:25+00:00

You need to decide what is best for your long-term mental health and well-being as a man. Can you see yourself with this girl in 5 years? 10 years? Longer? Would you be happy in those scenarios?

These questions may seem silly but they are important nonetheless.

SkankHuntL89 · 2019-01-16T10:37:06+00:00

You sound like a woman

TravisScottNL · 2019-01-16T08:55:47+00:00

Cheat on her

Title	Upgrading my girlfriend?
Author	awkawke
Upvotes	15
Comments	38
Date	January 16, 2019 8:18 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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