What do I do?

lietruth · 2018-12-04T01:33:26+00:00

We can talk all day about the things that suck about you. Or about me, or about anyone.

Embrace your strengths. You're alive, you can speak english, you have a computer! If you're making more than 34,000 USD a year you're in the top 1% of the world.

I take it that you're younger, 16 or 17, maybe in high school. Go look at Elliot Hulse's channel on youtube. Great for young men.

YesVeryKewl · 2018-12-04T02:44:00+00:00

"Tried a new style but has gotten jean jacket stolen by a group of girls because “I made it look bad.”"

Either you're in high-school or you live in a crime infested, which one is it?

Serious advice: I can see from your post history that you're obsessed with your issues and you clearly have self confidence issues (which is normal given your conditions). Stop hanging around these forums and seriously start taking action into improving your looks and self confidence. Your height is crap but height won't make you or break you. You gotta make up for it somehow. Start lifting and stop being a pussy and literally inject some testosterone in you. See a dermatologist. Maximize your looks. Find a money making career path and become a workaholic.

_dontlookatme · 2018-12-04T03:32:32+00:00

Hey man, i took a glimpse at your post history. Are you ok? Seems like life is hard, but try not to compare yourself to others. Improve on what you can actually work on. Also maybe try some mma/boxing classes if possible.

ThatKidinAfrica · 2018-12-04T05:51:36+00:00

You can either become a monk or give yourself a painless death. These are your only options at peace.

GardenofBeden · 2018-12-04T07:20:57+00:00

I can see you’re uncomfortable with where you’re at in life so the first thing you need to do is accept you’ll have to keep your head down and do some hard work to change things for yourself.

Three major areas of your life I’d start reading, experimenting, and actively working to improve (emphasis on actively, don’t mentally masturbate to loads of self improvement videos/posts): body, mind, spirit.

Take your training seriously, that includes your diet as well if you truly want change. Develop a healthy self-image... start emphasizing the good things about yourself to yourself DAILY. Figure out new ways to live life on your terms and suck less. Clearly define the things you want to see change and do something every single day to get closer to those goals. I’ve written in a journal for the last four years or so about this. It’s fun and it motivates you.

Above all, be rough with life but take it easy on yourself. You’re human so you’ll fuck up.

It’s hard to truly understand till it kicks in but girls will always be around. Focus on improving yourself and building power (status, healthy relationships, purpose, etc.) and eventually girls will be equally as aggressive in trying to fuck you as they were when they took your jacket/rejected you/declined your advances.

TRP has the tools you want, you just have to use them.

Johnnadawearsglasses · 2018-12-04T03:33:59+00:00

Get outside. Get some sun. Not only lift but generally be active. Talk to people. Not just girls. Everybody. Small talk. Learn how to talk to strangers as a start. Smile. Be friendly. Relax. Don’t stress. Everything that seems so bad now will pass. You do these things, you will meet women.

NegativeCollision · 2018-12-04T03:35:14+00:00

Has been lifting for 2 years seriously with no noticeable gains

I don't doubt that you think you are being serious with your lifting, but if you really were so serious about it, then you would have asked for help and adjusted something accordingly before the two-year mark. To give an example of what I mean, what can you tell us about your diet, macro tracking and so on? Have you been logging your food daily for the past two years? What program did you start with? How has your body composition changed?

You sound like a young dude in high school. You need to work through the sidebar and stop looking for shortcuts.

Neropax · 2018-12-04T14:29:21+00:00

It'll pass, just angsty teenager shit. Focus on self improvement or be like the rest of the zombies needing to cope with video games.

If I were you; 1) start with martial arts(muay thai, mma, bjj, judo) 2) keep hitting the gym 3) be nice to your parents/caregivers 4) get a little side job, save up 5) stop seeking external validation 6) take a break off these kinds of subs for a little bit 7) stop obsessing, just observe externally and internally 8) dont do drugs or smoke pot

Acceptance of your situation will be the best thing for you.

Johnnadawearsglasses · 2018-12-04T03:20:18+00:00

What is your question

ajdx88 · 2018-12-04T11:07:55+00:00

I was a cystic acne sufferer for years. What cured it is the pretty much the keto diet, severely limit sugar and carbs and your body would not have a reason to be inflamed.

tacopower20 · 2018-12-04T01:34:49+00:00

Bro, I’m 5’4 with boots. I’ve never once been told it was an issue both in high school or college. Let’s be honest girls over 5’7 are weird looking anyway. Stop making excuses get out there and get yourself sorted out.

TheBadGoy · 2018-12-04T01:37:56+00:00

I like being realistic not idealistic. Try saving up for a plastic surgeon, they are cheap in Mexico, a good jawline and a few months at the gym might do the trick

YslJames · 2018-12-04T01:35:13+00:00

Get rich

stkeen · 2018-12-04T07:24:06+00:00

If you’d like you can message me a photo and I will give you my honest opinion... my advice would be try and focus on yourself I think confidence is Key I know these two Guys and Neither are attractive one of them is goofy and funny and girls fall all over him the other one is super confident and girls find that really attractive cause he has lots of girls like that try and get a nice haircut and groom yourself work on things you can help or fix rather than things you have no control over

NegativeCollision · 2018-12-04T10:15:46+00:00

Go to monk mode And find a serious passion for yourself(STEM etc..) continiue to lift And survive untill college. Rest will be easy

GL_QUAD · 2018-12-04T10:29:52+00:00

You do sound fatalistic, you know that? Unwilling to partake in a discussion to boot - because in a discussion, it would be expected of you to at least consider other people's inputs; and yet, in those replies of yours, you merely find ways to disregards the helpful suggestions of your brothers.

I'm not holding that against you - know that. Just consider that your current emotional state may be skewing your perspective of the world. You gotta change that. You gotta find a way... and then, with a more clear head, do re-read the replies.

Let's really look at your fatalistic ways. Break 'em down.

5’3 1/2

So? Men usually don't stop growing till the age of 21. You probably won't end up being the tallest guy... but if you are really self-conscious about it, there are ways to make the best out of your growth (proper nutrition, enough sleep, specific sports/exercise). Do look that up.

The average adult male height is, what, 5'9"? Who says you won't reach that number?

crooked nose, uneven eyelids, uneven skin tone, recessed chin

I think you are over-exaggerating. Hard to say without a photo.

Still, if life is radically bad, a need to kick back strongly may be an option. You might consider consulting a reputable plastic surgeon in this regard.

Has been lifting for 2 years seriously with no noticeable gains

That's because you're a kid. Where I come from, they didn't even recommend lifting activities prior to the age of 18 - because at that age, the skeletal structure of the male body is not yet fully developed to handle that sort of load; also, unless you are some kind of genetic freak, the "gains" you'd see at that age would, indeed, be negligible.

The testosterone at that age is usually spent growing (in height, etc.), not growing your muscles.

Tried a new style but I have gotten a jean jacket stolen by a group of girls because “I made it look bad.”

Damn. Understand that for girls that age (well, any age, to an extent), it is all a popularity contest. Laughing at the unpopular guy is a sure (cheap) way to that popularity or maintaining social status. Also, I wouldn't expect these 16-year-olds to have empathy for your situation. That kind of self-awareness happens at about the age of 25, and it has to do with brain maturation process.

That being said... you know what I'd do in your situation? I'd get my jacket back, along with a little revenge plot. Steal some of their stuff, make a bit of a show out of it, bite back. Don't be just the "woe me" guy - if they push you, you push back. Then, you won't be fucked with.

I tried PUA/TRP advice before becoming Blackpilled.

Easy there. Maybe you have not made the best of impressions. Yeah, I picture you talking on about looks; but maybe, your overall perception of yourself does have some flaws you might not be seeing - effectively giving you crappy results, as you keep shooting yourself in the foot.

It takes time to build that self-awareness. I wouldn't suggest getting black-pilled yet.

Tried new hobbies and met people with similar hobbies to mine but when I asked them to hangout, they no longer like said hobby anymore.

Start slow, take it day-to-day. If the pretty people don't want anything to do with you, simply start with befriending some nerds out there. Some year ago or so, there was a post on TRP on how to build yourself up to become a King of the Nerds - a helpful post, IMO, esp. if you are starting out from the bottom.

In any case, a glance into your reddit post history speaks to me that you should limit you time around some of these parts. Really, do try to find some offline friends & hobbies instead.

So, what would you be interested in? [This should be the opportunity to make some plans for yourself]

Neropax · 2018-12-04T14:51:35+00:00

Its better to be alone than with shitty company.

RaughKee · 2018-12-04T16:42:31+00:00

You are at the bottom of the social hierarchy at a period of your life when that hierarchy is the most cruel and you are the least resilient. I'm not going to sugar coat it, things will suck. You have two options, give up and be a bitter lonely human or look to the future where you can live a meaningful and satisfying life.

Choose option 2.

Work on building a small social circle, a couple good friends will make things a lot better. Get away from social media, it isn't going to be a good space for you in the near future. Get good grades and leverage that to get into a college program that is out of state. Build interests that you can leverage into a career and network with those. Read about those interests and write about them, do it for yourself. Become interesting, that takes effort and time.

Give up on the self pity and blackpill bullshit, it does nothing but amplify your negativity.

Gtfo_livia · 2018-12-10T02:56:13+00:00

What’s your diet look like man? Food intolerances can contribute to eczema, acne, and just make you feel like shit in general. I have acne and I have to eat healthy, like actually healthy not shit pretending to be healthy, if I want to not have acne all over my face and have my mental health not be absolute trash. Looking at your diet is a like the next step if your skincare isn't working.

Title	What do I do?
Author	NegativeCollision
Upvotes	6
Comments	125
Date	December 4, 2018 1:25 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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