What do we do with our daughters as they become adults?

Pitchfork51 · 2017-04-19T20:48:49+00:00

I suppose all you can do is set a good example and guide her.

Her friends are going to be a bigger influence.

Ubiquitous-Toss · 2017-04-19T20:56:44+00:00

Yes, unfortunately as a father you will have a minimal impact on her behaviors compared to society and other women. The best way to ensure she at least doesn't appear as to have ridden the cc is marriage before sex. Which is still possible but you would also have to make sure she respects approval.

Either way AWALT

Auvergnat · 2017-04-19T20:54:32+00:00

Rollo has a book coming up about red pill parenting.

I_Crepe_Bitches · 2017-04-19T21:36:14+00:00

Build an unbreakable bond with her. At the end of the day, your daughter is going to experiment sexually (as all human beings do). There's no way around it. My experience is that the girls who go way overboard sexually at a young age and later in life all had some sort of daddy issues - whether it be that you were the wall st exec who wasn't around or the overbearing disciplinarian.

Just make sure she knows you love her and support her no matter what - don't freak out when she starts to date boys but make sure she knows how much she means to you. A good father/daughter bond typically leads to more stability later in life.

If I have a daughter, I'm absolutely not forcing the religious aspect or anything like that. We have a tendency to rebel - that's how you end up with a college freshman daughter who bangs the entire football team.

A_Rex · 2017-04-19T22:13:02+00:00

Like everything else BE the example of what a man should be. My 4 year old girl idolizes me, tells everyone how big and strong I am, and I am her rock. I fully expect her attitude to shift as she becomes a teen - but I won't. I will set and enforce boundaries, I will remind her that I love her always, and I will do something almost no parents do - I will tell her the goddamn truth. I'll tell her what will happen if she becomes a slut, or if she settles for an AFC she doesn't want to fuck (find a solid prospect, LTR him, and fuck him a hundred times, as opposed to fucking a hundred different guys once). Yeah, she's my daughter, but she's a human female. She'll want cock like every other one. My advice will be to be discriminating and date guys she wants to fuck AND who have good heads and good hearts - in other words, find the best AF/BB combo you can attract and lock that dude down while you're young. But do your part too - add value to his life, fulfill his sexual desires (within the tolerance of your boundaries), and remain attractive for yourself.

I hope she does so. I want her to be happy, and I want my legacy through her to be healthy and successful.

qtpW · 2017-04-19T21:24:38+00:00

if you don't want her to be a trash slut, you should probably raise her in a village/smallish city and teach her to be religious. I'm an atheist myself but I got to give credit where credit is due

2comment · 2017-04-19T22:00:14+00:00

From what I've seen in cultures, especially asian and middle eastern, it's the mother, aunts and grandmother that really enforce codes of conduct among women. Men can only do so much in this area. If the mom, aunts, and grandmother were sluts, they're going to be very permissive.

In western culture, the family loses importance to her peer group from beginning of puberty to between graduation of college to her hitting the wall. The more she's influenced by her hormone-driven peer group, the more she'll slut it up.

Unless you selected a specific community for her to grow up in, and made sure not to send her far away to college to slut it up, you're probably too late. The best you can hope for is that she marries earlier than most and has a relatively low n-count before her first kid.

nightmancommeth · 2017-04-19T23:51:32+00:00

Teach them to single out a beta bucks and you have an active part in their sons life.

stdrp · 2017-04-20T07:16:42+00:00

Does anybody have daughters nearing or passing into adulthood? What's the RP perspective on this?

There's actually two sides to this. The male TRP side that says seek low n-counts, don't marry and earn respect. On the other hand, the female RPW side says to seek a Captain for her FO that has his shit together, has ambition and loves her. We both agree on is that everything is our fault and only we can make us happy.

From your description, maybe your marriage is at the happy middle where both sides got what they want. Or maybe you are totally BP and gaslighting yourself, who knows.

My thinking is the RP father will produce a daughter who looks for dad's approval in everything she does,

No, you want an actual strong, independent woman who can find happiness in herself without needing external validation (from radfems, BP, the CC).

and that includes following his lead on decisions that she makes for her future.

Which would naturally happen in a household properly led by a captain. Otherwise, its your fault shes a bitch/slut/drug addict.

If that's true, then it is incumbent on him to think this through and provide her with the right direction she needs, and even to go so far as helping her get where she needs to be.

I believe in that fishing proverb. You should give her the tools to get to where you believe she should be, forcing anyone into a position is the reason I believe "good girls" go slutty in college. They were being repressed/oppressed (lol, patriarchy at its finest, femrads all really just hate their fathers) in an environment where they lived a way they were forced into, not one where they had the freedom to live how the wanted to and personally believed that they should.

So surprise, surprise, guess what happens when the warden is in another state and all you peers are sluts?

College is for people who want to work.

I imagine a radfem mouthing off about the dictionary definition of college being the place for the privileged class to learn the ways of the upper crust (like those joke degrees in Art History, Political Science and Gender Studies), instead of being the minimum requirement for entry in many modern occupations.

But is it BP for a girl to want to get married instead (to an alpha like her dad) and have a family and be a SAHM? What is the high school graduate to do if this is her desire?

I'd argue that the BP thing to do is go to college, get radicalized into a genderqueer whatever the fuck and grow up to be a good little tax slave like the state and consumer economy wants her to be, like all the other sheep.

A casual google of SAHMs probably will give you loads of articles about how being one makes you a loser who is supporting the patriarchy and a regressive push in society.

TRP would say, find you mission, acheive your goal by any means you are comfortable with. So for her, that may mean raising a family. Or maybe it means being a STEM.

I don't want my daughter to be a plate for Chad

Of course you wouldn't and no self-respecting (feminine) woman (probably) would either.

Remember, TRP focuses on the easy high n-count sluts that are DTF or desperate enough to a be a plate, FWB, OLTR or LSNFTE. These women would lead very masculine (athlete, CEOs, competitive or STEM fields in general) or slutty lives.

Read articles about modern hookup culture and you'll find (at least in my perusal, I may be biased) that generally the women want relationships, but the men in their peer group never give it. They are all miserable because they would have been fine being monogamous but society has pivoted to have r/poly be the mainstream. Casual sex is the norm and more and more boys are more interested in video games than relationships/jobs.

and I also don't want her to be the wife of an AFC.

Heavens forbid, a lot of us who were BP in previous relationships know very well how miserable our partners were with an AFC/beta.

Neither of those paths are anything close to what she has said she wants.

Thats why you should give he the tools to realistically make decisions instead of letting BP or Disney fantasies ruin her life like so many women before her. Explain to her about the difference between players/TRP who just want her for sex and will string her along, betas who will make her miserable and Captains who want monogamy. That sex and moving in won't get her a ring, though it may be required for some men in a world of Tinder being used among highschoolers.

You should also dispel myths about how her accomplishments and achievements will help her, since that is a fallacy from solipsism (women really are shocked about how little men care about this generally). The fact is that while those qualities are nice to have once in a relationship so you can actually talk to your partner and your relationship isn't only about sex, her young and beauty is what will attract a man, and her soft skills (cooking for him, taking care of him) will give her the value that will make a man want to invest in a relationship with her. Those qualities she might want in a man are hardly considerations of what (I would argue most) men find attractive in a woman.

She has witnessed my marriage to my wife and sees how we've had decades of happiness and she wants to have the same thing for herself.

Congratulations! You have what appears to be a good start and foundation for her.

I'd like to disagree with the others about how you have little affect on her compared to her friends and society. I would argue you and your wife have the most influence on her, while the friends she makes is a symptom of her upbringing and her adherence to society (ie being a rebellious teen which usually seems to be a cry for attention in my experience). Her friends would simply reinforce the position (obviously she could have made friends early on that changed due to their family circumstances).

I have a lot of thoughts on this, and would love to hear from any women (and men) in this community who could share their thoughts on the matter.

I think there is a reason why a woman's relationship to her dad and if her parents are divorced is a major red flags in the pickup/TRP community. You seem to have given her a "normal" (I'd argue idealized with the divorce rate around 50%) childhood so there is a good chance she will life an RPW lifestyle.

Of course, if you've been repressing/oppressing her like ~~a North Korean dictator~~ the Patriarchy, I'm sorry to inform you that your daughter has been playing you and maybe you should help her consider a career in acting.

I wish you and your family well.

waynebradysworld · 2017-04-20T07:58:49+00:00

Teach her conservative values so she doesn't end up like moldilocks

GreenPiller · 2017-04-20T10:50:26+00:00

You can't avoid Chad. You can only try to limit the number of Chads.

RedEyesBlueShades · 2017-04-19T21:32:32+00:00

By the time she's an adult, there's nothing that can be done anymore. What had to be done should have been done in childhood and adolescence. In adulthood you reap what you sowed.

plasticslug · 2017-04-20T00:16:21+00:00

Its like taking a trip to the ocean, and as the tide goes back you run up to it and push it back hoping it stays.

Your trying to reprogram what is written into their very well being.

Werealldudesyea · 2017-04-20T00:48:08+00:00

Be an example, always. That's it. You act a fool, not only do you play yourself, you teach it to your kids. Blind leading the blind.

waking-life · 2017-04-20T06:24:55+00:00

Great post but I'm not qualified to respond as I'm not a father (though I do have two nieces).

Search the term "daughter" on TRP subreddit, there are a couple of good threads there.

Cell_Technician · 2017-04-20T02:58:04+00:00

Ask her to be a nun. If not, buy a dildo and tell her to go fucke her self. Sloots gon sloots

Title	What do we do with our daughters as they become adults?
Author	stdrp
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Date	April 19, 2017 8:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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