What to do when you're depressed?

FCBLegacy · 2016-06-04T04:57:11+00:00

Couple things you can do. This isn't the right subreddit to ask this question, but I can offer some suggestions in alignment with RP standards.

Start Lifting I'm dead serious. I developed major depression and continue to have it as of today. But that didn't stop me from going to the gym. Lifting and any exercise in general will release endorphins and will make you less depressed. This is biology we're talking about. It will work. Guaranteed.
Get Good Sleep If you're sleeping late, waking up late, or you have a weird sleeping cycle, fix that. I mean it. NOW. No exceptions. A lot of depression is caused by a lack of sleep or poor sleeping habits.
Diet Careful of what you eat. Eat non-processed food. Food alters serotonin levels in your brain. Avoid sugary foods. Avoid drinking. Avoid drinking sugary drinks.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Invest in learning about DBT. It really helped me cope with my depression. The go-to book is The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Distress Tolerance. This will help you get rid of those "negative thought patterns" that you are talking about. It's psychotherapy. My DBT specialist recommended it.
Go Out With People Just pick up your cell phone, call the first person you know, and say "Hey let's go do this or this." Just go out and put yourself out there in the world. You are a human being. You need other people to connect to. This will help you get rid of the social anxiety.

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[6] Medication Medication does help in the short-term and long-term (antidepressants). If they work for you then that's great. If not, then it will take some time but naturally you get better at coping with the depression. I've had depression since 10th grade high school, and I still have it. But over the years I've been getting better at it. And you can too. Also do keep in mind that medication comes with consequences too. If you have severe depression though, the benefits usually outweigh the consequences. The only two major consequences I've had medication were developing tolerance to the medication (harder to get off the drug) and general symptoms.

Anyways, hope this helps. You got this meng. We are here to support you in RP. Do your best. I know you can do it.

rpking · 2016-06-04T05:12:47+00:00

What you do is build good habits and get on medication. I spent the better part of my youth depressed and while good habits helped, they never fixed my depression enough for me to be happy, so I ended up going to a therapist and getting on zoloft which helped immensely. I still struggle sometimes, as all people do, but I'm doing a ton better than before.

Apexk9 · 2016-06-04T15:15:40+00:00

Start eating properly: a very clean diet. Sleep only 8 hours. Excersise everyday. Have sex every week even if you have to buy whores. And find an outlet to release aggression like punching a bag. And meditate

This should start releasing positive chemicals slowly.

Second it's time to counter condition your thoughts.

Every time you see your reflection in your head compliment yourself and then say a mantra.

If you do all this and you do it for a few Month's and it's not helping then go see a professional and try medication.

But your life and life choices are throwing your chemical balance off and your negative thoughts are creating compounding themselves so everytime you need to think of the best scenario possible.

PlansAndPlates · 2016-06-04T12:37:50+00:00

Feel shit until you don't want to feel shit anymore.

Start going to sleep and waking up on routine.

Start exercising everyday, light cardio on the non-lifting days to keep yourself active.

Get your vitamin d/sunlight.

Socialize, go for a walk in the morning and say hello to people. Meditate.

Eat good food, lots of that garbage makes you feel garbage.

Align your thoughts with the here and now, the past is useless, all the lessons you think you'll learn from the past by focusing on it don't outweigh the negatives of focusing on the past incessantly - the best lesson it to allow yourself to take time to make decisions - then you can think about the past when you have time to make a decision.

Make some art, express yourself, write down what is bothering you and think of ways to solve them.

Never give up.

MinisterTRP · 2016-06-04T12:03:05+00:00

I have recently been to a lecture about psychological problems. One of which is depression.

I will summarize it for you:

Everyone in this world stands on two legs. "I am" and "I do". The first, means that you have accepted yourself and believe you deserve a place on this world the way you are(self esteem). The second, means that you are productive.

Now, these legs become vulnerable because of so called "risk factors". These all stem from childhood, for example: not being appreciated, never being able to express your emotions etc.

Now, you have some of these risk factors and thus you have a high chance of developing a psychological problem, in your case: depression.

You need to focus on the "protection factors". These are the following:

Rythm: You need to have a schedule everyday and follow that. Create a pattern and it'll become a routine, which in turn will stabilize your life and give it purpose.

Purpose: Find at least 3 productive activities each day. Work, work out, jogging, learn a language etc. Do something you enjoy that has value, not gaming or watching tv. Sure, you can have free time and spend it that way, but your productive hours should have added value.

Friends: Make friends, have a social life. Humans are social creatures and for a good life, you will need friends, family etc. Make sure you have positive connections, cut out the dramaqueens etc. Your social life should only be positive, you have no use for someone else's problems.

These are the main 3 protective factors, get those in order and you'll get back on your feet!

BeHere2234 · 2016-06-04T07:39:00+00:00

It's not easy, but getting laid cures depression! :)

vorverk · 2016-06-04T11:03:10+00:00

Do you have all the basic needs covered (existential, financial, relationships etc)?
How are your testosterone blood levels?

josner · 2016-06-04T17:48:23+00:00

Honestly the only way that I have ever helped curb my depression is forcing myself to do things I would do if I wasn't depressed. Instead of letting the inside dictate the outside, you need to make the outside dictate the inside. Go outside, get exercise, force yourself in social situations, give yourself chores, do something fun you've been wanting to do, and actively work towards some goal you have for at least 1 hour everyday. Most importantly, stop making excuses for why you shouldn't or can't do these things. If you're too tired, too anxious, or just want to be alone, do it anyway. These things will force you into a positive mental state whether you like it or not. You won't have a chance to be depressed. Doing something is surprisingly just as easy as doing nothing. Just take control and force the action. It won't go away on its own.

kjuca · 2016-06-04T22:46:09+00:00

Nothing will ever eliminate bouts of depression from recurring throughout your life. I would learn to accept that. It took me a very long time to come to the realization there simply is no treatment that will prevent depressive episodes from recurring entirely. The best you can do is develop good habits and weather the storm when they occur. This is the advice I wish I had all along, rather than the false hope that I could someday become 100% depression free. It will never happen.

StillLifeWithLei · 2016-06-05T14:38:00+00:00

Depression is a just the medicalization of feeling blue. I suggest you grow up and realize that life isn't always fun, faggot.

Title	What to do when you're depressed?
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Date	June 4, 2016 4:45 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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