Why can't I talk about deep technical stuff with girls?

Kalidane · 2017-03-08T10:43:38+00:00

That was boy subject matter. They can't even fake an interest.

This shouldn't be too hard to understand.

You've obviously never heard three girls talk about fake finger nails for fifteen minutes. Holy fucking shit. I'm gone in twenty seconds the next time I'm exposed to anything like this.

leroymcfiggans · 2017-03-08T11:08:11+00:00

all credit belongs to u/theredpill101

Lets be real about what's going on here:

No one of your casual friends gives a fuck about your thoughts on macroeconomics or existentialism or your own personal philosophy on the rationality of a deterministic universe.

Remember what Maya Angelou said: "People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel."

If you're on a date and you end up on a 15 minutes diatribe about your own ideas and thoughts, how is she going to feel? Chances are she's not interested, at this point in your relationship, in your thoughts on the subject. She's going to feel bored, like you're a windbag, and like you don't care about her feelings.

On the flip side, if you're "treating her like a child" you're focusing on her. You're treating her like she's special, you're keeping the conversation light and fun, and you're making her feel good.

At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what you talk about - she's not going to remember anyway. What she will remember are the emotions and feelings she had in that moment with you. And that's what matters.

I should also add that this concept applies to men as well, because "treating them like children" is just a euphemism for keeping the conversation light, fun, and engaging.

For example: if you go out to lunch with a male coworker that you're acquainted with but not really friends with, are you going to talk about the the grandiose nature of the Habsburg family in Austria-Hungary prior to 1641?

Of course not. He doesn't care that you're a history buff, and honestly he doesn't know who the Habsburg's were or give a fuck about their influence on history.

If you're trying to be chill with this coworker, you're going to shift the focus on conversation to him. Ask questions about his family, his vacation, his interests and hobbies, etc. etc.

Again, this male coworker likely won't remember what you talked about. What he will remember is that you guys had lunch and you were so engaging that he was able to forget about work for an hour and enjoy himself because of you. Rapport is being build, emotional connections are being created and solidified.

And then, after a few weeks of the good feels (for both men and women) if the situation arises you can attempt a conversation about the theoretical possibility of wormholes existing allowing time travel or whatever.

It just blows my mind that guys expect to walk into a bar or a dance club or whatever and find a girl who wants to hear them rant and rave about the rise and fall of the Carthaginian Empire or about how King Henry VIII was a horrible womanizer who should have been overthrown after founding the Anglican church. No one who is out to have a good time gives a fuck about serious things. They're out to forget about their problems and have fun.

People don't want to think. They want to feel like they matter, like the world is a safe, enjoyable place, and like someone genuinely cares about them. And in that moment, if you're a good person who is good at social interaction, you'll make all of these things true.

dr_warlock · 2017-03-08T11:15:14+00:00

Intellectual topics and direct language use the cerebrum.

Tingles and fee fees are in the limbic system.

Never engage her cerebrum no matter how smart she appears.

http://www.redpilldoctor.com/women-use-language-as-a-sex-weapon/

blackedoutfast · 2017-03-08T16:28:46+00:00

because they're not autistic.

pro-tip: a lot of guys also wouldn't want to listen to some nerd sperg out over RGB pixels

swignewton · 2017-03-08T10:55:18+00:00

Nothing gets a girl's panties wetter than knowing how LSD screens work.

Kommanderdude · 2017-03-08T14:06:41+00:00

Because they aren't capable or deep technical thought. They live and thrive on feelz. Give the a feelz roller coaster and they'll fuck you're brains out.

SynfulVisions · 2017-03-08T13:38:17+00:00

That's because you have oneitis.

I can tell by your username that you are a lost cause. Once you experience the F22 Raptor: enjoy her beautiful aft with hidden thrust vectoring capabilities, experience her sheer agility, stare in awe at her perfectly swept wings that, despite having a small RCS, let the aircraft fly beautifully without any buffetting problems, you are done. Done for life.

No woman will ever be good enough for someone who has fallen for the F-22. This is the harsh reality.

Metalgear222 · 2017-03-08T13:38:58+00:00

For the same reason talking about Barbie would drive you insane

BusterVadge · 2017-03-08T14:11:23+00:00

Do you want to go home and masturbate? Then keep talking about RGB colors. I'm in technical sales but I find things to talk about with women that everyone can relate to. This is basic social skills.

BestSC86 · 2017-03-08T15:54:43+00:00

Let me be the first to say that if we were out getting drinks and some asper dude start ranting about the freaking pixels on my cellphone, I would be bored as fuck as well.

This isn't a girl problem.

All people have different interest and if people are tuning out your topics, social intelligence is about moving to topics in which the group or both people are interested in talking about.

InternetHateDevice · 2017-03-08T16:04:28+00:00

I could talk to a woman about fucking pokemon for 30mins if I wanted to. Women don't give a fuck what the words are coming out of your mouth, they care about how you say it and how it makes them FEEL.

1Pink1Stink · 2017-03-08T18:25:43+00:00

I don't even blame her. What a boring thing to talk about.

quicklogaccount · 2017-03-08T16:33:58+00:00

Some women do have those conversations. They're far less common but still, some do. Women have a lot of stimulus to be in tune with their feelings and since these subjects don't cause a lot of them, they grow dull.

But there is a problem with intricate, challenging or information filled conversations themselves. Most people don't enjoy them, and the ones that do often get tired quickly.

Have you ever been on the other side?
I went on a couple dates with a phd student. I'm curious about her field, but she's extremely enthusiastic about it and I often kissed her to get her to shut up for a bit. She gave me whole lectures on it. lol

silver-gun · 2017-03-08T23:12:43+00:00

Ask her about the anatomy of her vajayjay, and then she gets highly technical. Then continue the discussion with your penile mechanics.

You're not limited to electronics.

flatox · 2017-03-08T14:08:59+00:00

Yeah, not sure that'd be cool. Guys for some thing, girls for others.

WhorehouseVet · 2017-03-08T17:00:30+00:00

Feelz over realz.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-03-08T17:39:42+00:00

How cool it would be if girls actually liked these cool things? Vehicles, guns, electronics rather than useless gossip about other people?

Yep, but they don't. Try sticking to fluffy kittens and the Kardashians.

menial_optimist · 2017-03-08T18:12:49+00:00

Old news, you'll very rarely find women who can engage you in intellectually stimulating conversations. This is why a close knit group of male friends is ideal. Women generally talk about how they feel in the moment or how they feel about certain banal things. Most recently a friend and I were standing on his porch when his wife and her three girlfriends came back from a local bar, sauced up. They stood there for 5 minutes talking about the most pointless things on the planet. It's like they weren't even friends because a lot of times one of the girls would just half shout out how she was currently feeling or how she felt during X and the other girls literally wouldn't look at her or acknowledge she even said anything and would keep talking about their own feelings. Bizarre.

jetsetter883 · 2017-03-08T22:42:13+00:00

I don't think there's anything wrong with going into a more intricate subject if the conversation naturally leads to it. Who's to say a girl couldn't be enthralled with your intelligence on a particular subject? Intelligence is generally perceived as sexy to most girls who aren't complete idiots themselves. My advice is to stop going for these boring-ass idiot girls who just happen to look nice. Brains are not so bad in a woman, and they are not mutually exclusive to looks. Find a balance of both.

That said, the science of RGB is not necessarily interesting. It's boring trivia nonsense. Try engaging her on a subject that she may have never been exposed to before. It can be intellectual, but not academic. Girls don't dislike intelligent guys unless they are absolute idiots themselves in which case you shouldn't be going for them. Try connecting on a slightly deeper level and see where it takes you.

harkrank · 2017-03-08T19:06:12+00:00

Why do you want to talk to a woman about technical stuff? She is a woman and does not want to learn anything from you. If you feel the need to teach somebody go teach a child, who will actually be interested.

Outside structured learning in schools women have 0 interest in learning anything about the material world, wether it be theoretical or practical. A woman would rather watch paint dry than learn the most interesting thing, they suffer greatly spiritually by learning or doing productive things.

anon_throwaway0 · 2017-03-08T15:41:19+00:00

Because girs are ignorant.

Title	Why can't I talk about deep technical stuff with girls?
Author	F22Raptorx
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Date	March 8, 2017 10:32 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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