Why do I search for information while deep down I know what I should do?

yolosun · 2016-01-17T17:06:22+00:00

You don't have serious enough goals.

If you stop being on the computer and do nothing with the extra time, you'll just get bored and go back to your old habits. Until you find something meaningful to do with that extra time that is.

Don't do things for the sake of doing them (e.g. cutting sugar). Have purpose.

RedPillMeditations · 2016-01-17T20:42:05+00:00

I can empathize with you on this one. I was in your situation; I was overweight, extremely lazy, and even probably had you beat on the time spent playing video games. Dude, I literally said to myself at one point, "Life sucks, and is so boring that I'd give anything to live in this game/book/show(anime, or whatever was captivating me at the time)". I actually lived my early teens in a glazed over, zombie-like state living only to completely indulge myself in a game.

Here I am, years later, with a completely changed life. I went from the worst overweight, unathletic physique to an aesthetic-athletic physique while now starting to compete at a high level of powerlifting. I joined the military after high school, and learned how to lead from men who have been to hell, and back. I'm in college now, and am finding how much I love learning. I'm interested in almost every subject, and do well in them (most of the times better than people who are majoring/have majored in them. People tell me that I got so lucky for being so "genetically gifted", and how they would give anything to be able to have that.

Here's the thing, you will not be motivated all the time. Just having a goal worth achieving is only a small part of the battle. Motivation doesn't last for shit. What does last is accountability for yourself. Don't for one second believe that people who achieve great things have an unlimited fountain of motivation to pull them through the hard times. No. When I started my transformation, I forced myself to do EVERYTHING. I didn't want to do any of it (I wanted the results, but hated all the work I had to do). You have to say you're going to do something, and then force yourself to do it every day for your goals. It's going to suck 99% of the time, and the only part that is enjoyable is seeing the little bits of progress.

But let me tell you, everything I had to FORCE myself to do for my goals - that I HATED - I now LOVE them. I look forward every day to going to the gym, reading, learning, talking to girls, everything. I'm not saying I've made it, I still need a damn lot of work internalizing RP principles, but be damn sure I'm going to use the same techniques I mentioned earlier.

There is a point when everything you worked for becomes internalized and you just keep going because you have built your life into something you love. You just have to start, put your head down, and grind through the first couple of weeks/months.

MrFuckupKing · 2016-01-17T21:48:09+00:00

You are not weak. Human beings are weak and you are a human being. You are trying to transcend the inherent weakness in all human beings.

The weakness is in the animal part of your brain that craves pleasure and wants to exert the least amount of effort to experience it. It wants everything but does not want to pay any price.

The cognitive ability of the brain is where the executive functions live. This is developed and will not develop without the will.

The will to live must be used to develop the executive function or you remain a car going down a hill with no driver.

You must become the master of the animal or the animal masters you. Think of it like there are two people living inside you. One called animal and one called spirit and each wants dominance.

Everything in the universe is a duality that must be in balance for the best expression of life. Most people live out of balance because they are tipped to far toward hedonistic pleasures because they are the easiest to acquire.

You are living the template that is the easiest to express and be.

Until you see that you are your own worst enemy you will not change. Most people have to end up in in the gutter before they give up their ways. The farther you sink into this gutter the farther you must crawl to get out of it, so the more difficult it is.

There are aspects of the red pill that remind me of the practice of asceticism. It has certain religious qualities about it.

To practice a form of asceticism is to honor your spirit without sacrificing your animal. It is to find balance.

Discipline is one of the tools if the goals serve the spirit as much as the animal.

You must live in the world but also apart from it as the universe within you that you create by how you live.

You are both the clay and the sculpture but nothing of value is made without purpose and intent.

You create your own value as you. Or you don't.........

sunfistkid · 2016-01-17T21:23:24+00:00

Get a gym buddy, or do what I did when I was a fat college freshman and join a martial arts school and get a job working over a grill. if you go the martial arts route, make sure it's not some bullshit class where you don't sweat. my personal recommendation would be shao lin wushu, MMA, or Muay Thai kickboxing.

JamesSkepp · 2016-01-17T21:57:08+00:00

You (or rather your brain) has developed patterns, learned behaviors (it might be anything really).
When you try to do something new (it might be good, it might be bad) your brain on auto defends itself from new activity b/c from it's standpoint (evolutionary speaking) it's safer to do something known than unknown.
That is why everyone is saying Discipline (stick to it - aka REPEAT it, hard to do at beginning, easy later) > Motivation (you must want to change, easy to do at beginning, hard later). Discipline is basically a way of un-learning a developed pattern or learning a new one.
On top o that:
games are designed to be immersing, provide challenge, provide reward (intrinsic - you learned how to be better at something in the game). So you do feel the same emotions as facing real challenge, but the actual outcome of overcoming it - is not real - it's only a game in a computer. For your brain it doesn't matter, feelz are feelz.
you might have something I have/had - before I commit to doing something I dig deep looking for info. If you don't watch yourself, you will start page hopping fast. Turns into habit.

IVIaskerade · 2016-01-17T20:21:29+00:00

Because you're scared of change. Most people are.

buddboy · 2016-01-18T01:02:19+00:00

Bad habits need to be replaced with better habits, it's hard to just erase them. You can't avoid the trigger that will create the urge do play video games. Instead you must find something else to do when the trigger happens.

Title	Why do I search for information while deep down I know what I should do?
Author	Jojonounee
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Date	January 17, 2016 4:08 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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