Your loss

2ndLion · 2019-11-14T14:50:44+00:00

You showed interest, she rejected you. You walk away, she gets interested. She shit tests, you drop frame.

Pretty much what I can tell from your post. You should've just laughed at her right there, because you knew that in reallity it was her lose.

As you clearly know - if she really wanted to hang out, she'd find a way..

collegeguy115 · 2019-11-14T13:52:33+00:00

You are so in her frame that you posted on reddit about her. Move on.

kclanton80 · 2019-11-14T15:29:16+00:00

She maybe had other options at the time and didn't make you a priority. She expected you to keep chasing like most guys do. Honestly I wouldn't even be talking to her.

This is why you have to be very careful shitting where you eat. Try not to deal with chicks in your close proximity ( work,school,class) because you will have to keep seeing them if things go south.

Since you did though.....I would have just said " fine why don't you come over and show me what I'm missing". She showed interest by saying what she did. Call her bluff.....you held good frame by not asking her out again, and it clearly had an effect.

But she gets no date option.....it just an opportunity for her to come over and get the dick. If she refuses, go back to radio silence. Keep looking for other women, abundance.

i-am-the-prize · 2019-11-14T16:40:33+00:00

just laugh in her face next time, then walk away (again).

iphone5000 · 2019-11-14T18:06:49+00:00

Usually I will push pass the first time they say no, it can be a shit test.

Kabuki431 · 2019-11-14T20:38:49+00:00

Tell me u laughed out loud in her face. I would have like she holds zero value

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-11-14T21:23:54+00:00

I don't know man I'd have to have a little more context and know something more about the girl.

I'm seeing this as one of two ways.

She's genuinely interested but passive and didn't have the nerve to try rescheduling, but she did have the nerve to tell you she's available if you pursue a bit more. Pursuing doesn't mean you don't have abundance mentality. Abundance mentality just means that you are not afraid to pursue because you focus more on hits than strikeouts.
She is one of those "If you can't take me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best" bitches who has genuinely drank all the feminist Kool-Aid and is so used to being coddled and spoiled by men and smoke blown up her ass by women that she really believes all this stuff.

If 1, carry on but keep abundance mentality. If 2, next.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-11-14T20:47:10+00:00

Who gives a shit? Shouldnt have even started talking to her again unless she was pursuing you at that point.

If she thinks she's the prize like that and carries that ego, she can see the door.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2019-11-14T22:09:25+00:00

Women think playing hard to get is attractive. She didn't like you enough to chase, that's a given but there's a chance she's playing that whole, "I wanted you to chase me a bit and ask again." bull shit that no man in the history of ever has liked.

That's why men developed the idea of "preselection". If they have any genuine interest in you and see that you are already loved by women, they don't pull this nonsense because the dread of losing their chance compels them. They see that you have options and that you don't need them so if they have a shot they better not waste it.

If you already had preselection during this then she just wasn't interested but is interested in trying to make you a beta orbiter.

Domebeers · 2019-11-14T18:09:38+00:00

OP do you even own a dog sled?

319Skew · 2019-11-14T21:48:29+00:00

"Shit. Really? Fuck. Oh well."

bigdudecfc · 2019-11-14T22:23:03+00:00

Non issue,MOVE ON

MotiMorphosys · 2019-11-15T01:52:04+00:00

Shit test:

"Yeah, I still loose sleep over it"

"Oh, so noooowww you want to reschedule?"

"If it helps you sleep at night..."

Title	Your loss
Author	onlyanger
Upvotes	28
Comments	25
Date	November 14, 2019 1:43 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/dw9pg7/your_loss/
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