30+ guys without this

ToxicRocketry · 2018-09-22T11:58:01+00:00

The difference between men with little success who are good with women and men with little success who are not is that the former try to interact with women to improve their skills and their chances and capitalize on opportunities that are given to them, aren't constantly negative and assuming the worst of themselves and everyone else and aren't constantly whining about their lives.

You've had women find you interesting and give you approach invitations before or even initiate talks with you, Aeon, by your own admission. You never fucking do anything and always assume the worst, that's why you don't get women. What this post will do is just make you feel envious and make up excuses why other people's success somehow isn't applicable to you. What you should be doing is taking action.

Lambdal7 · 2018-09-22T19:58:17+00:00

This is the 10th same post by him asking the same thing so that he can masturbate mentally. It's getting old.

eliminatethought · 2018-09-22T09:23:43+00:00

Hmmm....I guess I can possibly give some hope, depending on what you call success, I guess!

I'm 30+

Short. Fairly ugly facially.

I have zero money (can't get a job because i'm uneducated and SUCK at job interviews due to anxiety)

However, since I began trying to cold approach about a year ago I have had sex with like 7 girls from cold approach. One in particular was about twice my 'looksmatch' (i'm a 4 and she was at least an 8) plus she was a teenager like 15 years my junior.

In the UK, not having money doesn't seem to be an issue to girls - ESPECIALLY young girls (I hear it's different in the US where girls really want you to have an amazing job and stuff?).

It is very rough on the ego, though. Accept it. I get rejected (often instantly so) like 95% of the time. Doesn't matter how many PUA lines I copy from infields and stuff. If she's not into you, then it feels that 'game' doesn't actually work. So think of it like a numbers game. Put yourself out there and try to find girls who are into you.

Merco64 · 2018-09-22T11:55:04+00:00

If you use dating sites, do you put in a better job/better income than you have (to get replies in the first place?)

People who would lie about their income or job are trying to put on a show because they need the validation and approval of others. It's very antithetical to the message consistently being given on this sub. The advice on this sub is often about bringing yourself to a point where you're happy enough with yourself so that you're not needy for other's validation.

ImJustSo · 2018-09-22T13:09:11+00:00

You're constantly looking to another guy's success to prove to yourself that you can do it. You need to go out there and make it happen. Anytime I point out that I'm an example you're looking for, then you try finding ways that I'm not, so that you don't have to use my example to motivate yourself.

You're going to do that for every single dude that provides evidence that you can succeed. You're going to do that, because it's easier to not try than it is to fail over and over.

2018-09-22T06:11:56+00:00

Women aren't looking for perfection. A woman of any measure knows that doesn't exist. A woman wants a man who listens to her, touches her...feels her. A woman wants a man that she has things in common with..that she can relate to..laugh with..love with. I truly believe, OP..that exists for everyone, no matter looks, conditions, afflictions, or whatever else it is that can make a person not feel "normal". I know that it exists out there for you.

Aeon199 · 2018-09-22T13:31:28+00:00

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Wespie · 2018-09-25T08:53:37+00:00

It’s a question that needs no answer, since all you can do is follow the path. I’m 31 and have very little compared to other guys my age but it doesn’t stop me at all. I find that owning your position, hopes, and feelings is key. Show the girl a meta awareness of the situation. It also helps if you do everything in your power to change your life even if it means cleaning your room or uninstalling video games, quitting drinking etc. if you have ANY bad habits left at this age you are DONE. Even if I have little money, if my shit is handled and I’m at least in a position where things could improve, I can game. If I drank recently or haven’t been exercising etc, it’s absolutely impossible for me to game (no good job or large amounts of cash to fall back on for perceived value). Assume you’ll need a bit more work on the basics at home and then game honest. Other than that, remember that you are valuable as a teacher to women both energetically and mentally and money doesn’t matter for that. Even if they don’t stay with you, you are there to offer them your state of mind. Your job situation is a separate thing you are working on.

dailymanup · 2018-09-22T06:51:39+00:00

I'm curious to hear the answers too. Here's the wub though. The ones who are 5'9" average looking guys, autistic or ADD, who suck at life -- who actually want to get a woman and said fuck sucking at life -- aren't wasting their time posting here. There out.......um.......finding women. But I hope you get some good answers. It will be exciting to read. BTW I'm 5'8." It's never been a problem.

nastyamerican · 2018-09-22T16:34:09+00:00

Define “social status.”

Define “money.”

resavr_bot · 2018-09-24T02:29:09+00:00

A relevant comment in this thread was deleted. You can read it below.

Social status is an ephemeral hierarchy that's created on-the-fly in every group(s) of 2+ and disappears the second that group(s) disperses. You get it by displaying high value behavior and frame control.

If guys were arbitrarily assigned leadership of every group throughout history based on their physical traits, human beings would have ceased to exist by now. [Continued...]

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LimitedContributor · 2018-09-22T05:42:36+00:00

I gave you a upvote, dog. I'm interested in the responses my self.

Title	30+ guys without this
Author	Aeon199
Upvotes	16
Comments	31
Date	September 22, 2018 4:43 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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