A Different Question About Music and Tastes

Mertwented · 2013-11-06T19:26:01+00:00

For hookups with no strings attached music doesn't matter one bit but when it comes to making a real connection, I too find it quite hard as a guy who is interested in Progressive Metal and other genres which aren't the most popular. All of my interests are a bit like that so that in itself makes it harder to make an actual connection.

Are you interested in anything other than music which more people may relate to?

reezyreddits · 2013-11-06T20:41:37+00:00

no disrespect as i know plenty of girls into that kind of music, but to be honest it is kinda male-oriented music. You shouldn't really expect any girls to know what's up with it.

That being said, I'm a fan of music, and it's easy for me to connect on a wide range of music. Everything except mainstream pop and country. If a girl likes that, I know for a fact I won't be trying to connect with her on that level.

It'll bother you, but try to push through it. And if you want to expand your taste into some rap or indie, I got you bro.

joshsway · 2013-11-06T21:11:52+00:00

I have different music tastes than most women also (similar to yours, but I don't like death metal style vocals.. more into dream theater type stuff and neoclassical). I use it to my advantage i.e. "Come hear me play guitar/piano/whatever.. you'll see what I mean by the style, I can't really explain it"

HappyJerk · 2013-11-06T21:40:43+00:00

Well first of all, the music you listen isn't as important as you think. It may seem like you're making a real "deep" connection with somebody when you talk about the music you like, but its not that really that deep to girls. Girls are more interested in talk about relationships and outlook on life. A good "deep" conversation to have with a girl would be about her relationship with her friends.

Just don't be judgmental/an asshole about the music she does like. There is nothing that turns me off more than a girl that starts to act judgmental/cunty when I tell her I like Lil Wayne and Britney Spears.

omega_mail · 2013-11-07T00:29:05+00:00

You listen to the best kind of music. It's the only kind of music that can truly express the Truths of the Universe. Anyone who doesn't listen to the type of music is too foolish to understand. Think of all those other petty genres of music that just can't even match up to the glory of Post Hardcore and Progressive Metal. Any girl who listens to that silly child's music loses a ton of points, and she'll have to work to make them up.

I actually don't listen to any sort of metal or hardcore, but this is probably the sort of frame you want to set and hold strong. As long as you're not actually openly judgmental about other people's tastes; just think it and you'll hint at it without trying.

GirTheRobot · 2013-11-07T06:35:31+00:00

I kind of have this same problem, man. Music is probably the most important aspect of my life for me, and if I share the same tastes in music as someone, or we can at least respect each others' tastes and show each other music, I definitely have a deeper connection with them. I find the easiest way to minimize this problem is by going to places/events where these people would exist. So for instance, I go to a lot of local shows and meet girls there because we're there for the same reason, and they probably have at least decent taste in music.

That being said, what others said applies. It shouldn't be a dealbreaker or anything, and you can still connect on a deep level about other stuff, or at least you should be able to.

Title	A Different Question About Music and Tastes
Author	kingofspoonerisms
Upvotes	1
Comments	25
Date	November 6, 2013 7:01 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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