A few days, attraction gone...

SobrietyOfThought · 2017-11-24T16:32:22+00:00

Some people just get bored of people easily. You're overthinking it. It's nothing you did or did not do.

ImJustSo · 2017-11-24T16:38:46+00:00

Did you guys kiss? Touch? If not, there's your problem.

Lambdal7 · 2017-11-24T19:50:06+00:00

Attraction is fleeting without comfort and vulnerability.

Madhax47 · 2017-11-24T20:03:11+00:00

You waited to long.

moshimoshidevondesu · 2017-11-24T19:19:04+00:00

Could've been a lot of different things, but in any case I think you could benefit from reading this: http://www.girlschase.com/content/attraction-has-expiration-date

pyroangel · 2017-11-24T19:29:36+00:00

I can rant about this for a long time but long story short, in my opinion your attitude is wrong. "I kept on APPEARING confident and funny" - why try to appear instead of actually being confident and funny? The point here is not to try and trick her into liking you, actually BECOME an attractive guy and the sky's your limit. Also, jealousy kills attraction! Trust me we've all been there. My point is, don't make too much of it, don't let it get to you, just focus on being awesome and she'll come right back to you. Best of luck bro :)

neeners9223 · 2017-11-24T22:43:02+00:00

This happened to me too a few months back. Found this amazing girl who I had a ton of things in common with. We saw eachother for about 6 weeks and had sex a few times but I could tell we genuinely enjoyed eachothers company. Then out of nowhere no responses for a few days and I stopped reaching out because I didn’t wanna seem needy. No initiaion or anything on her part so I just said fuck it and we havent talked since.

My advice to you is if you really don’t want this one to slip away then ask her whats up and what her intentions are. Be direct, confident and make sure its in person or at least a phone call. Looking back I wish I would’ve just asked her what she wanted out of this but like others in this thread have said, sometimes girls just get bored or someone else comes along that they think is a better fit for them. Doesn’t mean you did anything wrong and for that matter sometimes I don’t even want to know if I did anything wrong.

If I can’t be myself around a girl, fuck em’

ethical_pa · 2017-11-24T18:06:52+00:00

I really don't know enough about your situation to know if this actually applies, but...

You have to consider that women have something you can think of as an anti slut defense. In her mind, she may have been super flirty with you, holding up a sign that pretty much says "fuck me" (or whatever your 16 y/o equivalent is). If you are a guy that doesn't recognize this and make sex "your fault", ie make it happen, then she will not pursue things further because she doens't want to be a "slut". Or, if she understands that you are not getting it and you are clueless, she probably won't want to hold your hand through the interaction... she'll lose attraction.

Women will generally be more comfortable if the sex/make out/whatever is the man's fault. It's often a defense from perceiving themselves as "sluts". So the take away is: 1. make sure you come across as a non judgmental guy. 2: Make sex your fault; not hers

domino1995 · 2017-11-24T21:47:43+00:00

So you talked to her for 3 weeks but didn't ask her out? She got frustrated and either decided you weren't interested in her or she lost attraction for you because you were indecisive and not confident. Pretty simple stuff

Elliotbelliot · 2017-11-25T04:37:32+00:00

Attraction expires with time. Thats a big rule in seduction. The faster you move the more results ull get. As for jealousy.. i dont get some guys in the seduction community, they get jealous and do nothing about it. If i get jealous because a girl im with is flirting with other guys, i look at her dead in the eye with a poker face and tell her wtf is this ? I dont look butthurt i look like i have options.. that i can leave in any second. If you experience anything that is unacceptable to you, in seduction or in life, make sure that the person causing this experience know what hes doing and that he knows that its unacceptable. Will you fight him/her ? No. You will just pick up ur stuff and leave. Staying there gives u a big hit to you self esteem subconciously. I dont care if i lose the person. In time she'll text me back like the good girl she is and apologize. If not, well she wasnt worth it anyway.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-11-25T13:34:54+00:00

I wanted to ask her out but found out that she leaves the town next week

She is moving, right?

Did you ever stop to think that this is the reason?

Is it your fault that she's moving?

Aweron · 2017-11-24T17:33:21+00:00

Check out the book/audiobook "The Way of the Superior Man", the guy explains really well how women feel emotions. Us men can't comprehend the whole range, intensity and constant changing of their emotions cause we're logical creatures, while they're more emotion driven.

GameAndGains · 2017-11-24T17:20:09+00:00

You should always fuck girls as soon as possible no matter what kind of relationship you are after.

You waited to long. She probably got fucked by some other guy and her attention is all over him now.

Is it to late? I say yes, but fuck it go for the hail mary and ask her out anyways. You have nothing to lose.

Title	A few days, attraction gone...
Author	TheArchdduke
Upvotes	16
Comments	40
Date	November 24, 2017 4:27 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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