Women, while not essential, can be an extremely valuable part of your life, depending on what type of relationship you want to build with them (more on that later). That said, here's a small guide on how you can go from no action to heavy action.

The first mistake men make is they restrict themselves by going only after women their own age. 18-50 is completely viable and fine, from both a morality and accessibility standpoint (that is if you care about that stuff). Therefore, you have 32 years of possible companionship at your disposal, if you play your cards right.

The other mistake is shooting too high when you yourself can barely throw the ball properly. Get to a stage in life where you are a 7/10 in everything, and a solid 8/10 in your area of expertise (which varies from person to person, for some it could be their looks, for others it could be their brain etc.) and watch how differently you radiate towards the opposite gender. Objectively evaluate your life, improve, THEN go in for the kill. You have to be desirable in order to be desired, as stupid as that sounds.

The final mistake is not taking advantage of the day and age we live in. There are 5 possible outlets for you to get women with, making it virtually impossible for any man to become/remain an incel:

A) Facebook: primarily a home for older, hornier women who cheat on their husbands. If you're into that sort of thing, or you fancy yourself a male gold digger, go for it. DISCLAIMER: not all older women are like this, but that point has to be made. With these women, your texting game doesn't even have to be good - you just need to be upfront, honest and dominant in your desires. For some reason, older women REALLY love sending nude pictures/videos as well. Not my thing, but won't judge.

B) Instagram: DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT, DM attractive women on IG. If she's had the app for 6 years and gets 15 messages a month, that rounds out to over a 1000 different DM's over that course of time. Most of those were cringe, some were cute, and only a few worked. Believe me buddy, yours won't work either, you ain't that creative. Use IG for medium-attractive women, but make sure to keep the procedure quick, because unfortunately mid women have astronomically huge egos in 2024, it's not just the hotties. Make sure you're better looking than she is.

C) Dating apps: can't comment since this outlet is not popular whatsoever in my country, but you Americans and Brits (as well as some countries in Europe) can benefit from this greatly. My foreign friends, who have found massive success using dating apps, have revealed to me the formula - 1. have great pics, 2. have a cheeky yet mysterious yet "hmm" inducing bio, 3.install multiple dating apps, 4. go in for the kill within 5 messages.

D) Cold approaching: cold approaching is the time where you try your luck with hotties, because, from my experiences, your opening line usually cannot be something that she's heard from other men, since there are SO many options, whereas you're limited on social media. The other thing is, since you're face to face, you can read body language, tonality, the environment, and cover up a mishap if you happen to make one, whereas you're kinda screwed online. The key is to open with something related to what she's doing presently ("yeah, I used to like it back when it was cheaper" if she's buying some food item, for example), follow up on her response, introduce yourself, crack a few jokes while gathering basic info, then ask for number/IG/whatever. REMINDER: You WILL be rejected, a LOT, but don't sweat it - you still won. Your confidence will eventually skyrocket, your shyness will eviscerate, and your social skills in general will master themselves after doing something for so long, you'll naturally become good at it.

E) Events: the difference between an "event" and cold approaching is the fact that during an event you already know what the girl is there for intrinsically, i.e. concert, festival, project event, house party etc. Approaching someone in a supermarket means you're borrowed on time and space, whereas approaching at a house party is open season essentially. Approaching during events is usually super effective, since women will be "looser", and events carry the wealth of usually leading to one night stands. Again, not my forte, but just keep that in mind. As for your strategy, it's similar to cold approaching, except you need to listen more and speak less. Also, being well-dressed while cold approaching is a massive bonus, but during event-approaching it is an absolute necessity, since everyone steps up when they go out.

Personally, as someone who, as was aforementioned, has never used dating apps and is NOT a fan of social media, I only relied on cold approaching and event-approaching. I found both to be challenging and fun, which made me eager. I trusted my instincts, and approached whenever an opportunity arose, leading to great results over time. Rejection hurt in the beginning, but now it's a rarity as I leveled up. Remember, be desirable to be desired.

Finally, you need to decide what you want to do with the women that you scored the IG/number with. You have several options at your disposal:

A) Marriage: beautiful thing if you can actually find someone who, you know, values the values we have all forgotten about.

B) Relationship: from personal experience, a relationship works best with women who are: beautiful, well-educated, and have great relationships with parents. Party girls, wannabe rebels and fake boss b'tches will only bring you headache. If you find a woman worthy of good treatment, keep her.

C) One-night stands: only work when you're very sexually inexperienced (21-25) and are into the hedonistic tendencies (drugs, drinking, weed etc.). ONS are great for learning, but otherwise a waste of the biggest resource - time.

D) Friends with benefits: personally, my FWB relationships always ended in disaster, because it seems like they're predicated on lies in their core. Either both sides (or one) like each other but won't admit it, or both sides (or one) actually have a partner already and are cheating, but didn't tell you about it. As someone who's experienced this several times, trust me, it sucks. Even though you don't know the dude, you feel bad, so the best thing to do is to walk away from that woman. Karma takes all prisoners.

E) Roster building: in (almost) 2025, I believe this is the PREMIUM option for men, ESPECIALLY if you don't plan on getting married. If you don't want kids, then roster building is essentially mandatory. Using all the methods shown above, you can conjure up 5-7 women you casually hook up with, who you do the deed with when you want to, and call it a night. No pointless conversation that neither side actually wants, no emotional headache, nothing. Just enjoyment. A tip that my wise but cheeky but wise older friend gave me is to look for different "archetypes" when building a roster; one girl should be a nerd perhaps, the other an alternative chick, the third a fake boss b'tch and so on. Also, keeping a variety in age (one is 25, the other 30, the third 21) also brings more excitement and makes you step your game up.

Hope the guide helped. Now, stop reading and start working! REMEMBER - be desirable to be desired.