A little trick for bad AA

rockstar_jesus · 2012-05-22T21:31:56+00:00

I like it. A lot.

I actually read an article about AA that had a similar sentiment- AA isn't something you "break though" but something that should excite you and motivate you to approach.

"If it makes you nervous you're doing it right."

HumanSockPuppet · 2012-05-22T23:37:37+00:00

My favourite method for beating AA is one proposed by Wygant. Picture the girl naked in her bed, holding a sex toy she's named after you.

It can be a hard one to recall in the heat of the moment, but whenever I use it my AA breaks like 12 year old choir student.

Bludhavener · 2012-05-23T00:30:15+00:00

Also....don't think. Learn mediation and practice becoming thoughtless, silencing the tongue. Before you approach women, pick a spot on the wall, and breathe deeply for ten to fifteen seconds. Don't think about ANYTHING. Nothing except your breathing and the spot you have picked.

I took a class on leadership and being present but I've forgotten some of my lessons. This is a great technique and I'm totally trying it tonight! Thanks!

pualive · 2012-05-23T00:41:38+00:00

Agree. Except for this: "and breathe deeply for ten to fifteen seconds." Wait even five seconds and she's engaged by her friends, approached by another guy, walks into a building ... The time is now, and that means right now.

JihadDerp · 2012-05-23T00:32:05+00:00

don't think. Learn mediation and practice becoming thoughtless, silencing the tongue. Before you approach women, pick a spot on the wall, and breathe deeply for ten to fifteen seconds. Don't think about ANYTHING. Nothing except your breathing and the spot you have picked.

This is probably the best advice. I play for an indoor soccer team, and on the days when I get to the game early and practice passing, dribbling, shooting before the game, I play terribly. But if I just chill out and talk to people and don't think about how I'm going to play later, I play awesome and score lots of goals.

Make3 · 2012-05-23T05:47:32+00:00

anti air?

dumcumster · 2012-05-23T01:58:43+00:00

i handle approach anxiety the same way i deal with a phone call i don't want to make--before you know it the ringing is over and you're halfway through your first sentence. like good phone technique, it's all about speaking calmly and controlling your words and tone. if you feed into anxiety (start speaking fast, breathing fast, etc) it will sublimate openly and it'll blow you out. the trick to being cool is to just be calm and speak slow with intent.

Xeno505 · 2012-05-23T05:06:00+00:00

I prefer to think of it of as soon as I have the thought "she's pretty" BOOM my feet are already moving towards her. No time to say no.

acethat · 2012-05-23T16:29:06+00:00

those 15 seconds don't fit in the 3 seconds rule, tho

b_blizzy · 2012-05-24T00:29:52+00:00

WTF is AA?

Weird_me · 2012-05-22T23:04:02+00:00

I've only had to deal with a very mild AA, but I really don't think repeated exposure really helps, as only one encounter with a really bitchy girl, or just being rejected, ignored, etc. will most likely set you back to square one (or maybe even further back).

What I've found that helps me get over AA is doing, as you mention, mindfulness exercises, the exercises in Rob Brinded's Code of The Natural (CoTN) and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE), as described by David Berceli, but some of the material in the newest "version" of CoTN is TRE.

The last thing I want to mention is that if you are unable to talk to people, reading seduction based material will most likely not help you, and you should consult a psychiatrist or a clinical psychologist.

Title	A little trick for bad AA
Author	TonyDAbsolute
Upvotes	64
Comments	16
Date	May 22, 2012 8:32 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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