a question for guys who cold approach

CoachSlyDating · 2026-04-23T03:41:06+00:00

About 50% of the girls will quick reject you because they have committed boyfriends.

25% are not in a mood to talk, going somewhere, or for whatever reason isn’t that info you,

I think if you can do 10 daygame cold approaches and get 2-3 dates out of it, you are about capped and I’d be skeptical of anyone that says they do much better than that. That said, I’ve gone on some hot streaks where I will get 50%+ conversion but usually it is short lived.

Night game is pretty much impossible to count the number of approaches, because there is so much volume and I’m constantly talking. I judge night game based on one result. Did I close that night? I don’t care how many sets it takes to get there. A number or follow up date is meaningless at night, so the proper way to judge skill is based on closing percentage.

I can tell you from experience, the top guys pull and close about 80% of the nights out. They consistently generate attraction and eventually find a girl to take home. Usually the reasons why they might not are out of their control like bad logistics, random happenings, or turn of events, etc. There’s a good deal of randomness in the field. If someone tells you they pull 90%+ of their nights out they are almost certainly lying.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-04-23T07:15:27+00:00

Are you talking just getting a number really quick and then asking for a date later? That is a shitty approach that will lead to failure like 95-99% of the time.

Best move is to get an instant date right from the approach. Then your odds are much better of securing a second date later on.

Three scenarios:

Blind cold approach (she doesn't give signals of approachability or approach invitations): 1-5% success rate of getting an instant date
High approachability cold approach (she is giving signals of approachability but no direct approach signals directed at you): 5-50% success rate of getting an instant date.
High approachability + approach signals (she seems approachable + gives you approach signals): 50-95% success of getting an instant date.

The reason I give large ranges in my estimates is because it matters a lot how you approach, how handsome you are, how you're dressed, and where you are etc.

Aktive_IV · 2026-04-23T12:50:05+00:00

The real answer is you should be doing it more for yourself to kill the nerves of rejection, don’t be outcome dependent in the beginning.The more calm & comfortable you get at approaching, what you say will eventually start to sound more confident natural & convincing. It’s about reps in the beginning once your body & mind get over that state of nerves, knowing what to need to say & comes to a relaxed, calm, based state you’ll have 100x more W’s then L’s, & even when you don’t get the date/ number you’ll always look at the approach as a W because all in all most dudes don’t have the courage to keep going through the fire to get to that point. Reframe it as a Win no matter what, long as you do the approach your winning. The rest will come after the more you do it 👍🏾

ANewCleanSlate · 2026-04-23T13:48:23+00:00

Cold approaches are way, way, way better than dating apps.

Just carry on a conversation while making your interest clear. This idea of "game" is marketing bullshit. A successful approach is mostly just good social skills and emotional intelligence - it goes better if you're interesting, witty, clever, and of course, good looking. Work with what you have, look for opportunities, read her reactions, judge the situation to avoid being intrusive or creepy, and get some practice. Getting a date 1/10 times you approach is pretty damn good.

Sea-Work2990 · 2026-04-23T17:41:38+00:00

Unpopular opinion but after awhile I started picking up on body language. I mainly approach when I’ve noticed them giving cues they want to be approached. Women will give you signs (some of them not obvious at all that they want you to talk to them).

MOST these women are a lot less likely to flake; assuming you can carry the convo and know how/when to set a date. I see this with dating apps as well. I rarely ever send out likes and only respond to those that send likes my way (and before you ask I’m average looks/handsome at best)

A lot of people aren’t fans of this route because most women give cues that are super subtle and you won’t notice. Others think it’s lame to “wait” for women to give you the cues (I basically pay attention to who’s giving me attention- I don’t just sit and wait). Some say I’m leaving a lot of missed opportunities on the table but if it’s not broke don’t fix it

TLDR: I mainly approach women who give choosing signals and noticed low level of flakes

SettingOutrageous538 · 2026-04-24T04:37:38+00:00

It’s both, volume gets you opportunities and game improves conversion once you’re in them. Your 1-2 dates per 20 isn’t terrible, it just means your funnel needs tuning, opener quality, screening, and date setup logistics usually matter more than people admit. The top comment saying 2-3 dates per 10 is possible is believable for strong guys in the right environment, but not a universal baseline. Best move is track your own stats by step and train weak spots; I know people who used RizzRise style daily conversation reps to tighten delivery and saw show-up rates improve because their vibe got clearer and more confident.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-04-23T03:26:07+00:00

Here are some of my stats:

For Daygame, the best is usualy 1/6-7, if it less then you are not opening wide enough.

lily-reid · 2026-04-23T11:13:07+00:00

My wet dream is to be pulled like this

RSDAbhijeet · 2026-04-23T12:33:40+00:00

It is a numbers game after all.. knowing game gives us a better edge than almost 90% of guys.. if you know game.. you are likely to pull a chick if 10 guys approach her.. cos you know something they don't. It's like an exam.. if you have studied for it and even if the exam is tough as hell.. your chances of scoring in the exam are way more than the one who just applied without any knowledge. Why I say it's a numbers game while the world doesn't: It's like a straining process.. if you've done game for quite sometime you can relate: 1) You approach a girl.. you look for green and red flags in her.. she does it as well. 2) If both feel good enough.. we go for the date.. 3) If date goes well.. it's either second date or a pull. And after that both partners decide which way is the best i.e. relationship or something else.

Also.. as for number game what I have seen is there are 4 things that need to be in sync for things to go smooth: 1) She is a green flag for you. 2) She's horny in some way. 3) She is emotionally available. 4) You are good enough in all areas for her.

I know zyada bakchodi kar di.. but that's my answer

Title	a question for guys who cold approach
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Date	April 23, 2026 3:14 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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