A step by step improvement plan anyone?

clinkytheclown · 2012-03-23T05:11:34+00:00

Here you go man! I was in your shoes a while ago, and, even though I'm not a master yet, I have made some serious improvements

Pick your head up when you're walking around; stop staring at the ground. Stand up straight and look everyone you see in the eye. This is good practice.
Once you feel comfortable looking everyone in the eye, start giving the men small nods, and the women small smiles. Practice smiling in the mirror. Those first few smiles will feel so good, and this is something that you can always do to pick yourself up on a bad day. The girls who aren't the most attractive will always smile back.
Ok, now you're feeling good about yourself, so here's the next step: Stop the fap. This is different for everyone, but it works for me. I have more energy, more confidence, feel better about myself and feel more comfortable about women.
Start talking to everyone. Start small: say thank you in a strong, loud voice when someone holds the door; you're trying to get rid of the quiet voice we get when we're unsure of ourselves. Move on to telling people to have a nice day at stores and service places, then maybe making some jokes. Situational openers are wonderful, wonderful things. Ask someone what the best thing on the menu is, and that can lead to conversations and what not.
for god's sake, listen. I am not a sports guy, but I can hold my own in a conversation about basketball (the march madness and whatnot, I don't get it) and I haven't watched a game. Listen for buzz words: seed, beat, upset, bracket, and then regurgitate it when the topic comes up. Usually they'll go off about how their bracket is doing well, who they expect to win and what not, and you just nod, listen and pick up more information.
Start saying yes to things when invited out. Even if it's just something small, never say no to potential fun. I'm going to a play tomorrow night and chuck-e-cheeses (it's my friend's birthday, and I feel obliged to go, don't ask,) saturday night, even though that's the last place I want to be.

hope that's a good start for you! don't get discouraged, this took me a while, but if you pick it up quick that's awesome!!

EJSpurrell · 2012-03-23T05:09:49+00:00

The best advice I've heard on the subject isn't an incremental approach at all. For as hard as it is, jumping straight into acting like a total loon in a public place is the BEST way to increase confidence. I had a buddy who was very much the same-- very self-conscious when talking to ANYONE, not just pretty girls. One day, he snapped and ran around the shopping mall wearing a unitard and tutu commenting on how long people's noses were. Weeks later, his give-a-fuck-meter was on 0, and he was actually having women open him. He maintains that it was the best decision he'd ever made. (And a hell of a story.)

oreopimp · 2012-03-23T06:29:14+00:00

heavily recommend you check out Blueprint Decoded by Real Social Dynamics. It'll probably be a good step to take on blowing your mind. You can find it however you choose to through the internet.

Hormander · 2012-03-23T11:21:56+00:00

The two very first steps are:

1) stop fapping (every week is a good frequency) 2) workout.

Believe me, these are the simplest but most efficient tips to boost your confidence quickly.

tmc_throwaway · 2012-03-23T17:17:58+00:00

Nice try, Raj.

Title	A step by step improvement plan anyone?
Author	desidevil
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Date	March 23, 2012 4:31 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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