About "uglyness"

CrownChief · 2016-05-29T17:45:13+00:00

Looks only get you into the door. If you're good looking girls take notice, but if they find out you're not confident, have no masculine polarity, etc. then their panties dry up faster than the Sahara desert. You need to chill out because its not like you have sort of deformity. Just don't smile with teeth if you are that self conscious about it.

If you have game and frame (masculine polarity) then you can do what is known as out kicking your coverage (getting girls out of your league). If you can master seduction then it doesn't matter what you look like, just as long as you make an attempt, you know dress and groom well. When you seduce a women she will feel attracted to you and find your traits cute as she rationalizes her internal feelings. And as far as it works below the neck, you can change that, with weight training.

Just read these books in order and master the teachings and you will be fine. And its not easy, you will have to overcome your ego, but the first book will help you in the endeaver. Good luck to you.

A New Earth by Eckart Tolle - will teach you self awareness, the most vital of all tools you will need. I can not stress how important this shit is.
Models: Attract Women through Honesty by Mark Manson - good general overview of seduction.
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover - Women want a brute, not a bitch.
The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida - guide to harness masculine polarity
The Enlightened Sexual Manuel by David Deida - since you're a virgin a manuel on sex can ease your anxieties for your first time.
The Definitive Book on Body Language by Barbara Pearse - this will help you read people, help you understand the context of a given situation.

No go into monk mode: read, lift, eat, read, lift, eat, read, lift, eat, read, lift, eat, then get your ass out there, fail 100 times, perservere and achieve mastery.

TheMinistryOfAwesome · 2016-05-29T19:43:18+00:00

I'll post something more extensive later but:

I think it's pretty difficult to be ugly if you're slim, in shape, etc.
It's even harder to be ugly if you're jacked
It's even harder to be ugly if you exhibit characteristics that are considered attractive:
- Social Proof
- Confidence
- Lea.... etc.

You get the idea.

Chances are they're not attracted to you because you follow the vibe of being ugly and insecure. They friendzoned you :)

Kenji_03 · 2016-05-29T21:46:24+00:00

We men are pretty obsessed with looks, women are more obsessed with if you are a guy who is confident in his abilility to take care of her.

So being a guy who knows he would be amazing for her and if she doesn't want to get to know you it is "her loss" (without being a dudebro douche about it) is the key to seduction

AWPM · 2016-05-29T17:46:18+00:00

all in ur mind m8. ugly is a mindset and even though you may not believe it, it is true. I would say good luck but you dont need it. Everything you need is within you.

Cinnamon_Boots · 2016-05-30T09:57:41+00:00

Wanna post a pic?

DirkDieGurke · 2016-05-30T01:36:46+00:00

You need to really study up on how to increase your levels of confidence and being alpha. Ugliness never stopped a badass from getting girls. I'm not going to point to one source, my recommendation is to study EVERYTHING you find about increasing your confidence. Be confident and DGAF.

TheXXL · 2016-05-30T07:13:12+00:00

they never answer and just say what my traits are, so i assume that im ugly

Why do you ask a girl about your looks? It's like asking a fish how to bait it. Th problem with that is that the majority of people, men and women, don't think about what makes the opposite sex attractive. They only derive that "knowledge" from the media, their experience and what their friends think. This makes them believe that you must look like a supermodel to be attractive.

The fact is: Attractivity is only one part "looks". And this also breaks up into more small pieces, like clothing, facial expression, body posture, movement, overall behavior. In your case, those girls know you personally, and i bet you are the nice guy to them. Maybe you don't even display many attractive behaviors, like nice fitting clothing, strong eye contact, strong body posture, slow, therefore confident, movement and all that. No wonder they don't answer that, they don't want to hurt your feelings.

To make my point: All external factors boil down to a certain behavior. This is what women are attracted to. For instance, if you work out, it makes you confident, of course makes you look good because it makes you look strong, gives you good body posture, makes you look healthy and you will overall display that you take care of yourself. This goes for all external factors, those you can change, and those you cannot change.

If you now learn how to emulate those behaviors, by dressing good, by being confident, having strong eye contact, moving slow and strong etc. you can overcome pretty much every single physical flaw you see yourself with, and this is the great thing in human psychology, we don't need the 100% perfection when it comes to attractivity, this is why physical looks don't matter as much as people want to believe.

Title	About "uglyness"
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Upvotes	24
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Date	May 29, 2016 4:18 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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