Active lifestyle...help me get motivated r/seduction

First off, I know I'm lucky. I'm a pretty intelligent guy. I'm social by nature. I was never an Adonis, but I've always gotten by with my fair share of women considering I've never had an active lifestyle. I want to look and feel better though (now that I've turned 30), and I have accepted that regular exercise is what I need.

I'm asking seddit because I know that inner game is the biggest part of being successful in life, and I always get really great advice from people here on life issues in general. It's not so much about picking up women, but I know that looking good will, of course, help with this too. I just can't seem to get my lazy ass off the fucking couch! I don't have that far to go. I'm not some big slob. I just can not get motivated when it comes to making exercise a regular part of my life, even though it is something I have always really envied in others. It is work for me, and not something to be enjoyed, despite my love of the outdoors.

Anybody else here go from a sedentary life to regular exercise?

How did you do it?

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When I lived in California, I figured I should try to get a six-pack (never happened, but now I'm much closer to that).

So I started running. I was also eating well, and taking some pre-workout and post-workout supplements. The first week or so, I couldn't run much more than a half mile without getting tired and turning around. After about a month, I was running 14 miles (not straight- I'd take a couple breaks for a few minutes). I was running about 14 miles each night (there was a landmark 7 miles away from where I lived, so I'd run there and back).

But just to defend what this guy was talking about, I went from a half-mile to 14 miles in probably less than a month (though with some breaks, but when I wasn't breaking I'd be running about 6 mph on average). The supplements definitely helped.

Edit: I should mention that I smoke, so that's why I couldn't run far at first. Once I was able to run pretty far, I'd take a 3-5 minute break to smoke a cigarette, then continue running.

Double edit: IMO, when you're running more than 1-2 miles, mindset becomes really important. When I was running without a specific goal in mind, I'd basically stop whenever I felt like it. Once I had a specific goal in mind, I'd run to that goal. And at first, the racetrack (the place in CA) was way beyond my reach. But one day, my aunt randomly told me that I was running toward that racetrack, and that it was a few miles past where I'd already been running. So I was basically like "Alright, that's where I'm gonna run to." So I did.

On a more "micro" basis, it always helped me to imagine that some family members were in a fire, and I was running to get to that fire. OR I'd imagine that I'd committed some major crime and the police were chasing me, so I was running from them. I always needed some sort of "reason" to keep running -- If I didn't have that, I'd stop basically whenever it was convenient. It also helped to have some really fast-paced songs on my playlist. Slower songs didn't cut it, even if they were really "powerful" and shit.

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Just keep in mind that once you reach a certain point during a run (this applies to most people, from everything I've heard), you won't necessarily get a "second wind" -- I've never really experienced anything like that -- but it will start to get easier. Especially with your ab muscles (and with aerobics in general), the muscles responsible for that stuff are basically made for endurance. So if 2 miles is the breaking point, I suggest you either literally take a break like what I was doing, or slow down enough to "catch your breath" and shit, or just work through it -- keep going, and I bet you'll hit a point where it stops hurting so much (kinda like you get numb to the pain, so it doesn't matter so much).

Also just pay attention to your breathing more than anything else. One of the biggest things that helped me was remembering to keep a steady breath. So if I was breathing out for 2 seconds, you best believe I was breathing in for 2 seconds after that. And if I had to take a particularly large breath, I'd make sure to blow it out in a similar way. It takes some time to get used to that, but the biggest lesson I can tell you is that your breathing probably fucks you up more than anything else. When you start breathing in heavily (and comparatively more often/intense than how you're breathing out), your heart's gonna beat faster. When your heart starts beating faster, that's not a problem in and of itself, but it'll become a problem, because it's just gonna keep beating faster and faster as long as you keep breathing irregularly. If you match the ins and outs, and especially if you try to keep them pretty slow and steady, your heart's gonna find that middle point, and it shouldn't beat much faster after that. Meaning you won't hit a "breaking point," at least not for a while.

You can test it if you go to a gym that has heart monitors on their bikes or whatever shit. Your heart beats faster when you breathe in, and especially if you breathe in really fast trying to suck down that oxygen. It goes slower when you're breathing out, especially if it's a controlled breath where you slowly let it out. Control your breathing the entire time, and eventually it'll become a bit more "natural," and it also tends to help during a run because you're more focused on your breathing pattern instead of how fuckin exhausted your legs are or shit like that.

I used to think my legs were weak as fuck and I always blamed them when I didn't run very far. In truth though, it was my breathing that fucked me up -- my legs were tired, no doubt, but even with pretty weak legs you should be able to run further than a few miles. The legs themselves are strong enough to get through that (and make sure to stretch, and also be doing leg workouts outside of that) -- you've been walking for basically your whole life, so they know what's up. They'll feel the burn of the lactic acid and shit, but that doesn't mean they literally can't go any farther. Once you get that breathing under control, the rest will follow. Hell, if the breathing's not under control, it's probably hurting your legs in some way (but I'm not a biologist or a trainer, so take that with a big bucket of salt).

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Title	Active lifestyle...help me get motivated r/seduction
Author	Edgar_Allan_Rich
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Comments	13
Date	May 19, 2012 8:34 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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