First I should point out I am very overweight. I have lost 50 pounds this year, and working hard to lose more, but progress has slowed down.

I am balding, not just at the top of my head but thinning all around. Not sure what to do. Rogaine didn't help, my doctor advised against Propecia. I have considered shaving head. However, I do not have what I would call a good shaped head. It's ever so slightly pointed at the top and my scalp is somewhat... lumpy, especially on the right back side of my head.

I have small eyes, and a face that has been called ugly on several occasions, I don't think I am hideous but I certainly know that even were I to be at the perfect weight I would not be attractive.

I look absolutely horrid in a lot of pictures though. I actually get depressed when I see friends post pictures to Facebook with me in it. I tend to lose any confidence I manage to build up as soon as I see them.

I tend to be humorous and light hearted, but I think I might lean too far into it and turn any potential relationship building into friendship. I am not sure how to find the balance.

I think if I could objectively see myself visibly look more attractive, like actually see improvement then maybe I can get a confidence boost. I have accepted that I will have to rely on charm and personality, but it's difficult when you have never really had a victory in your life.

So any advice is welcome. I guess I am looking for brutally honest answers on what I should or should not do.