All this Sub is doing is making things more complicated!

crawleycrepe · 2020-01-21T08:20:24+00:00

As someone else said, every single thing you do/say will be 'correct' in the eyes of one method/expert/coach, and INCORRECT in the eyes of a different method/expert/coach

I think this is because when something 'works' it's really down too a combination of things like how physically attracted the girl in question was, what sort of personality she has, the location, her age etc etc

People try to make rules etc to fit, but it's not really about that

YOu can't 'game' a girl who doesn't want to be gamed by you (you're not her type etc)

That's why most modern PUA concentrates on just being in your best shape etc, and just approaching until you find the girls who are into you, in which case, you really just need enough 'game' to be able to escalate etc

If she's a 'no girl' (as mark manson puts it) then no amount of disqualifying yourself/teasing bla bla bla is going to 'build attraction' and make her want you

rich_god · 2020-01-21T10:01:57+00:00

That is because things are not black and white. Humans are complex, and seduction is a complex game. You won't be good at chess if you have only one strategy, you won't be good at tennis if you think "always play the backhand". Improving at seduction is learning where and when to adopt this or this posture.

I think one thing is always true to be better at seduction : learn to love yourself. Loving yourself is becoming emotionally independent, it's welcoming negative emotions just like positive ones, it's being grateful for everything you go true, it's finding meaning in your actions, and it's being your most authentic self especially when it's scary.

At the end, all these contradictions can be broken down by "Do whatever feels right for you from a place of love and gratitude in yourself, and not of fear and control". You can be needy, dominant, vanilla, indifferent, arrogant, selfless, superficial, deep, assertive or submissive, it's all completely fine. But do it with authenticity, openness and self-love. Don't expect anyone or anything to be someone or something they're not. Don't try to change things out of your control, focus on being aligned with your deepest self at every moment, and breath. Be in the present moment. That's when magnetism happens.

Hubblenobbin · 2020-01-21T06:40:56+00:00

Want to know why this shit is complex? Because it's applied human psychology.

#1

It's about the type of attention. You're sexually interested, but she has to impress you. Imagine you have 5 other girls hotter than her on speed dial, how would you act?

#2

There's good theory out there about escalation. u/PiperBigBell is a good resource. Politically correct sources don't give you practical advice.

#3

Be mysterious and hint at your awesome characteristics. Ask about her in a way that implies she needs to impress you.

#4

Contextual.

#5

Also contextual, typically don't compliment on looks.

IllStep · 2020-01-21T10:13:39+00:00

most 'coaches' couldn't get laid in a brothel

7udgerKresnik · 2020-01-21T06:50:01+00:00

I'm just thinking last night about the contradiction i read on this sub good thing you post this.

billsmashole · 2020-01-21T10:00:45+00:00

I think you should do what you want to do. Talk to her about whatever you feel like. And if she doesnt like you, you move on.

2020-01-21T10:35:04+00:00

It’s only confusing because you’re listening to several people, rookie mistake. If you want to be successful in any area get ONE mentor, listen to him, and block out the noise of everyone else ... some may say “it’s good to take bits and pieces from different people and make your own style and chuck out the rest .. be like water bruce Lee says” fuck that .. pick one mentor and listen to him and study him deeply, you’ll hardly ever be confused and can follow practical advice and go and succeed.

Insaneflirt_max · 2020-01-21T10:49:49+00:00

Keyboard jockeys who read about pick up tactics and never talked to girls VS people actually going out and discussing online with like minded individuals.

You pick your side and move to a better place. This sub is dead.

There is more to it. Game is a balance. You will go in circles, from one extreme to another, until you find the right balance that works with the women you like. You do that with every aspect of seduction and poof now you're good with girls.

Now there's a consensus because most guys like hot girls. You don't game hot girls the way you game a shy low self esteem woman.

Because we are all different and coming from a different background, this is even more confusing yes.

Because this sub is full of normies, it's a horrible advice place.

There is a way though. And the best way for you to get it is to get coached over a long period of time, by yourself or by a professional.

Title	All this Sub is doing is making things more complicated!
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Upvotes	23
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Date	January 21, 2020 6:21 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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