Alright, I admit it. I need help

bonalingvano · 2012-08-01T07:01:02+00:00

You just have to get in the right mind state of not giving a fuck about rejection. Do you know how many women are out there who would make perfect girlfriends for you? Probably millions. That's not even an exaggeration. If one girl doesn't give you a chance after you've first met her, who gives a fuck? Why do you need some girl you don't even really know to invalidate you? You said you've been working on your inner game. You sound like a great dude who is confident with himself, so why do you care about rejection? The more women you take a shot at, the more likely you'll find one you work well with. So get out there, and keep going!!

sedditpro · 2012-08-01T07:13:38+00:00

You're probably not opening enough. How many girls have you opened in the last week?

rekondite · 2012-08-01T09:34:58+00:00

Check out The End of Social Anxiety by Ed Cottrill. It's an ebook, costs like 8$ or something. He teaches you how to stop living inside your head by learning a couple meditation techniques, and does it all without the new-age bullshit that you usually find in similar discussions.

The book transformed the way I deal with my emotions and opened my eyes to a concept of unconditional happiness that I had never even knew existed. I don't even do "techniques" or "routines" or anything anymore, I'm just naturally happy & healthy and girls can tell.

It's a quick read too, gets right to the point.

leodoestheopposite · 2012-08-04T03:37:19+00:00

Late 20's? I am 50.

Like you I used to overanalyze situations, I still do it at work (it's kind of useful there), but with time I have gotten pretty good at getting laid.

This is how I can explain it to you in a way that appeals to your logical mind: women don't make any fucking sense, only by realizing that, you can make some sense.

You're read the classics of PUA/seduction, now go out there and practice practice practice. Practice approaching only, then leave. I am serious. Practice until it comes natural for you to approach successfully,

Then practice opening, do it till you get naturally good.

Continue like that, have FUN (seeing that it works is great feedback).

edgar_alan_bro · 2012-08-01T07:00:03+00:00

The ends will justify the means.

2012-08-01T07:22:15+00:00

You need to be outcome independent and learn that no matter what you do there are going to be women out there who just won't like you and that's completely alright

The way I see it, if I'm approaching and running completely solid game, every rejection I receive is just a woman being honest with me and not wasting any more of my time, which I appreciate. If I'm not running perfect game (which realistically is the more common scenario) there's only really at most 20% of those women who I could've had any shot with. So, what we say is "Fuck them" and move on :)

VMikeL · 2012-08-01T07:40:06+00:00

When you go into interactions, everyone will have a different result, people will laugh at certain things, and not care for others. One question may make her never shut the fuck up and the same may give you a three word response from a different person. Ultimately, no matter what happens, you need to constantly be talking to people to gain an understanding, right now your knowledge of what, how and why you're doing is likely not appropriate to be making stark judgements about what happened, why it happened, and whether it was the right or wrong thing to do.

Experience will give you the correct means to analyse, and faster at that. For now it's about letting go, and just doing it.

PrincePUA · 2012-08-01T08:34:50+00:00

only read the TLDR

Best advice to give: if you're interested in becoming less analytical (which is a beautiful thing to have), then you need to get out more - when you have so much "on" you won't have nearly the time/effort to analyze everything to death, so get more going on

if you want to have more success with anything socailly - Read EVERYTHING in the sidebar, make notes - then read the top 100 all time seddit posts, ALL OF THEM, again take notes, then you'll recognise that you're passion for studying everything which involves you isn't feesable for being the person you'd like to be

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-08-01T14:40:09+00:00

You need to get over your fear of rejection. So go get rejected a lot. Go out to a club with your buddies and make it your goal to get 30 women to reject you in one night. Once you get through that, you'll realize that rejection isn't really that bad, and some girls will actually go out of their way to make it easy for you to pick them up. Remember: she doesn't know anything about you except for what she learned on your approach. She's not rejecting YOU, she's rejecting your approach.

kamatres · 2012-08-01T16:00:49+00:00

Like some guys before me said, you are in wrong mind set. Don't seek validation from women. If you manage to open good for you, if you get rejected you just don't let it affect you, she probably won't even remember you in 15 minutes anyway and the world goes on. Try to have fun and don't focus on picking up women, if you go out and you stress yourself "I have to pick up someone tonight" you will very likely fail to do so. Also try to talk to as many women as you can in your everyday life, talk to old, fat lady in your grocery store when you are shopping, talk to the girl who sits next to you in public transportation etc. Look we can give you some general directions and tips but only you can make it happen. How? By practising and hard work. You didn't learn how to cook french gourmet on your first lesson or to play instrument when you touched it for the first time did you?

leodoestheopposite · 2012-08-04T03:37:47+00:00