Next time you are in the city picking up lovely lil’ ladies, take a look around you. I don’t care what dating coaches tell you, what you are doing is not normal.

Rarely any dude goes onto the street, and approaches a handful of girls with the aim of hooking up with them.

There are barely any guys running in front of girls with the aim of stopping them; casually transferring to a “hey, I know this is a little random, but I thought you looked cute and wanted to come and meet you”. Only to do the whole shenanigans again when she walks away.

You know how far out of the reality it is for most guys to kiss a girl they met 15 minutes ago during the daytime? Let alone taking a girl home after you just met her in the daytime. That shit is not normal; at least for most people.

Approaching a 22 year old woman, when you are a middle aged guy is not normal. It is definitely frowned upon by society’s standards. What are you doing man? Get a job, a wife, some kids and stop bothering women.

Trying to arrange a threesome with your bro in a nightclub is not normal, at least for the perspective of the average Joe. I mean, who the fuck does that casually?

You do.

You do that casually.

Trying to arrange a threesome in a nightclub is not normal, until you make it normal. Approaching a 22 year old woman, when you are a middle aged guy is not normal, until you make it normal.

Things become normal, at least in the bubble of your interaction, if you own them as ‘normal’.

If you feel that what you are doing is weird or creepy, then she will for sure feel that. Not because it necessarily is, but because she feels what you feel.

If you embody the character of a man who deems his actions completely normal, then she will enter that frame as well. Loads of men successfully approach woman in the street, without the woman being weirded out. Plenty of men kiss girls, or take them home, shortly after meeting them out and about. You do not have to look far to see older men dating younger women, and there is enough stories to go around of threesomes being arranged in a nightclub (or during the day for that matter, go figure).

However, none of the girls in the above scenario’s will be happy to accompany you in your interaction, if she feels that what you guys are doing is not normal.

It is your responsibility to make it normal.

Just because society thinks that things are not normal, does not mean they necessarily are abnormalor that they cannot happen. Understand that what you are doing is ok, that the topics that interest you surrounding ‘seduction’ are normal (at least to you), and help the girl understand that these things are normal (at least to you and her).

Joseph from Abundance & Aphrodisiacs