When we’re interacting with someone, it’s difficult to stay present in the moment. We’re often thinking about what we’re going to say in response, what they’re think of of us, or maybe something else that’s going on in our lives. We might pick up on the generalities of what is being said, but details that are important to them are often missed.

In some of manner, you will eventually be tested by her on something she told you previously. Of course, it’s impossible to remember very single detail of what someone tells you. However, if she mentions something that happened that impacted her, her history, something she values, or wants to do, these are the instances where you want to present and remember the details.

At a later period in time, if you randomly surprise her with something related to what she told you previously, it will help cement her emotional bond with you. It doesn’t have to be gift or anything expensive, just a small gesture to show you were listening.

Seduction is properly engaging a woman’s emotions. Women are thoroughly turned off when they feel unheard, not listened to, or misunderstood on a consistent basis. This makes them feel unsafe. On the other side, if they feel like they are heard, they will feel more emotionally attached and attracted. It needs to be mutual, if she isn’t demonstrating an effort to listen actively to you, there is an unhealthy balance.

Asking open-ended questions is one of the best ways to engage a woman’s emotions and learn about her. However, if you’re asking questions just to keep the conversation going, and not being an active listener, it becomes a mindless interview. Women hate this on dates. People are perceptive, they know when someone isn’t fully present and going through the motions.

When interacting with a woman, stay present. Humans are naturally inclined to be distracted; focus on your breathing, clench your toes, do what you need to do to bring yourself back in the moment. The ability to be an active listener and remember details will pay off.